Is it so wrong to love my chi chis?
By cnguyen86
@cnguyen86 (3)
United States
June 23, 2009 3:45pm CST
So I have this issue, my fiance and I (we've been engaged for 2 months) are planning on buying a home together and finally moving in together but we have this one issue, my babies. I have three wonderful chihuahuas whom I've had since they were just weeks old and now they're 3yrs old. He believes that I have too many dogs and some may agree with him that I do but they're great dogs, they're well behaved, playful, fully potty trained, they are little yappers when strangers are around but once they've settled down they're angels. My dogs to me are the cutest things I brought into my life. I got them all at the same time and they're like sisters to one another. He thinks I should at least get rid of one. He makes it seem so easy, which one am I suppose to decide to give away? Can he be really serious? I couldn't imagine giving them away and now separating them? He's just crazy! Or am I crazy? He thinks that I love my dogs more because they're the reason we're not living together yet because he doesn't like that there's so many of them but if he really loves me he wouldn't ask me to give them away because he would know how much I love them. I of course love him endlessly but my dogs are like my daugthers and my dogs love me unconditionally. The other issue he has with them is that I let my dogs sleep in my bed, not all the time but they do sleep in my bed. He hates that the most. I mean my dogs aren't dirty dogs, they're bathe on an almost daily basis, they love the shower. And they're inside dogs, they only go outside when they have to do the business or for their exercise but for the most part they're inside dogs. What should I do, am I the crazy one for not letting them go? How can I make him more comfortable with them? Any advice?
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@momiecat (997)
• United States
24 Jun 09
If I were you, I would definitely give the ring back and do not marry or move in with this guy. Believe me, he will not change. At least he is making his feelings known before you make a big mistake of marrying him. Three tiny dogs is nothing. I have many cats. It is a problem for my husband but at least he is not making me "get rid of" them. By the way, I do not like the term "get rid of". It sounds like you are making them disposable like a piece of trash. I love my cats as much as you appear to love your dogs. Your fiance sounds very selfish and that selfishness will show itself in other areas of your relationship. Do not marry this guy. You will be asking for a lot of heartache if he brainwashes you into giving away your precious girls. Please, please listen to me. If have experienced this before.
@my_name_is_coco (4333)
• Philippines
5 Dec 09
I suggest you talk to him and reach a decision that both of you will be happy.no,you don't have to give away one of your dogs.if that were me,I would have called off the engagement.before I agree in marrying a guy,he should accept some conditions.one of them is I am a huge animal lover.he should be one too,and be ok with having lots of pets at home.if he doesn't I will not agree.it is not worth having a partner who will make me choose between him or the ones I love (my family,friends and pets)
@inkstainedheart (455)
• United States
11 Jul 09
I don't think you are crazy at all. I mean, you have three dogs that are well-trained, incredibly clean, and don't take up much room. I don't see what the problem is here! If they were spoiled dogs who yapped all the time, then I might agree with your fiancee. But you seem to have these dogs well under control.
I'm not sure what sort of problem your fiancee has with your dogs, but it sounds like you need to have a nice, long chat with him about priorities and expectations, especially in the pet department!
Good luck, and I hope things work out!
