When you feel like being cheated...how do you handle the situation???

i agree. i definitely hate to be lied to. coz it feels like you are being cheated out of the truth. it's a huge effort to make a relationship work especially if both of you already have flaws before coming together. lies and trust issues will just make it worse if not handled immediately and properly. i'm the kind of person who can handle the worst kind of past my boyfriend could ever have... provided he tells me the truth himself, but i cannot handle a simple lie that he hides from me while we are in a relationship and i learned it from someone else. a bit extreme perhaps, but that's the way i am. i could be kind and most forgiving but i could also be very very stubborn. hehe handling these kind of issues are dealt on a case to case basis. depending on how deep (the relationship is), how serious (the issue is) and how grave (the effects are). of course it will hurt. for me it will hurt a lot. but when that is done, there's only one thing to do... face the music. a serious talk is in order... and start from there.

Hi there dark! Like how most people would react if they are being cheated, I will of course get mad and this is what I have in mind that I will do.. I will confront the person who cheated me. I'll let him explain cause I would want to know why he cheated. But after the confrontation, it will be the end of our relationship. Now I may or may not be able to deal with it like what I've said cause it could be different if I'm already in such situation, but for sure I will get mad and cry huhuhu hehe.. Ciao!

Hello darksorrow, I am a forgiving person. If I am being cheated and found it myself, I still give that person a chance to get back my trust. Of course, I won't trust that person anymore wholeheartedly, and maybe always feel suspicious about him. I can forgive and forget about it as long as he admits his mistake or his fault of cheating me but thing will never be the same again like before, forever.

If I feel that I am cheated I need to proves that feeling if it's true or not to avoid disrespectful to my partners. I need to justify that feeling, first so that I know what to do. If found that cheated, I talk and ask why? If found that reason is acceptable I need to go away and leave that conscience on him/her. If he/she, think that her/his mistake and remorse I will forgive...

If I am cheated someday by someone, it becomes difficult for me to control my anger, as I am short tempered. Most of the times, I infuriate at the person and confront him to show up a reason. But then, if I see a goodwill in his sin, I forgive him and give him another chance to earn my trust.

I think trust is the most important thing in a relationship. I think any kind of lie is hurtful even just a while lie. If the person in the relationship lies now they are going to think its ok to lie whenever they want because they were forgiven maybe forgiving them once or twice is fine but not all the time because i have found that they end up lying about alot more than what they lead on and it becomes very stressful and hurtful.

Hi Darksorrow, I'm currently being cheated on by my husband. It is very painful, it hurts so bad that sometimes I just want to leave. But there are some things that are holding me back from doing such a drastic thing - one of which is my daughter. We have been in this marriage for 7 years. Dunno if you want to call it the 7-yr itch... But he tells me that he wants her for a second wife. I don't know if this is the truth or just an excuse to be with her a little longer. But from the support and advice of my friends, I'm going to stay put. I'm not going anywhere. It seems like a game to me - both me and the other woman are playing... Like who will break (down) first, you know? So I'm not going to give up. There are lots of gray areas in their relationship and recently my hubby questions whether he is wasting time with that girl... I pray that God lead me to the right path of happiness. With regards to the lies, I'm being bombarded with lies every single day. But God is great and he has revealed to me the truth despite all the lies. It hurts a lot, but I'm not confronting him abt it... I have my reasons for doing this.

well it never really is easy when you are into a serious relationship my friend but you will see everything will be alright and this things wont matter anymore when the right time comes good luck bro look i am almost 500 waaaaaaaaa almost 1 more then i am 500 already lol

This has happened to almost everyone. When someone lies or cheats me some other way, I can forgive easily enough. It is rebuilding trust that is the hardest part. Karen

The worst feeling that i could ever get in my life is feeling cheated.....I don't know what will i do, but i know it is not going to be so easy with me.....as the feeling of being cheated itself gets me so frustrated and sad.....but then it is a common sight these days......there are hardly people who stick together for a long time......but yes having said that there are many people who believe and trust in each other very much.......but then still i would never been feel like talking to that person ever again, i have seen people being friends even after they were cheated......i would never be able to even look into her eyes again.....it would be so painful......

If it happens to me i think i won't .i will leave this guy.Because he lied to me.i hate this kinds of guy.well i never have a relationship.i am not good at handle this problem.hope another one can help you...Good luck to you/

i m the same as you, naive and still trying to know about people. i got cheated, and still i feel so defeated. they have been living a lie, i could hardly believe that this person in my life had cheated on me. i learned one thing, never trust people who are too good to be true!

For me, being cheated is worst than murder! I hate to cheat and being cheated. When I catch anyone cheating me, I strictly end my friendship. If that was relative, I would not trust a single word out of his/her mouth! I'll just ignore the situation and play my part.

Im going to pray for that person to change his or er attitude and of course confront him or her that cheating is bad thing to do ^_^

Hi darksorrow Im a very trusting person, and very forgiving. My bf cheated at me twice and i accepted him, then he cheated the 3rd time around, i forgave him but i didnt accept him anymore..im done giving him chances and he's blowing it over and over again. I know its being stupidity, but its me..i forgive easily and gives people chance to redeem themselves..people chance...i believe that when one do things the first time around, i consider it as an accident, the 2nd time, still an accident, but the 3rd time, its already on purpose. So its over.

I dislike liars it is not healthy inside of a relationship. Since today I realized that the person I am involved with has lied to me. It is not a good feelings even when you give he/she room to be honest upfront. Is it that I have forgiven him yes but I am looking forward in moving on with my life. A person should always be truthful to his/her partner no one is perfect and when we can be open with our feelings and doings it make the other more comfortable in the relationship. I wouldn't encourage anyone to lie to their partners be honest because this will strengthen the love that the person has for you.

Just forgive it.

talk about it and trust in what they say a rel is no good without trust

I believe that people cheat for different reasons. If they are a deceitful person at heart they will always be a liar. Without trust there is truly no relationship.