Need Your Help. Is This Spam Or Isn't It?
By WebMann
@WebMann (4731)
Canada
June 24, 2009 4:56am CST
You get a friend request and you accept it. Of course they don't send a message asking how your are, do they?
Then, less than ten minutes later you get a message inviting you to join a program but the one sending the message says it's okay to ignore it if I am not interested.
Isn't that still spam? What is your idea or explanation of spam.
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11 responses
@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
For me the answer will be NO. Because in the first place the user said if you are not interested , then by all means ignore it. Besides, why will you be so feeling negative if someone bugs you about a site they are promoting. If we don't want to join, it is just plain and simple, ignore it.
Spamming is considered if that same user gave you links of his or her site more than two or three times. If he or she just sent only one message, then that is not considered as a spam. It is just a plain invitation which it is easier to ignore, or you can also close your eyes when you see the link .
I guess we cannot stop others sending us invitations because they are free to do it. It is our responsibility to report if someone abuse the system. Else you can reply if you think that you don't like to get invitations from them, then tell in a nice way, sorry, i am not interested.
@olydove (1209)
• United States
25 Jun 09
Oh WebMann it looks like you and I see eye to eye on this subject. As do a few others. I have been discussing this same concept with another member and some say it's an affiliate marketing tactic, or resource, or whatever they say it is whilst others agree it's spam. I for one had this happen to me about a week ago and started a discussion because for whatever reason on that particular day it annoyed me because like you I was under the impression MyLot is different than other places or my regular email bin.
I have come to the conclusion that from now on before accepting anyone's friend request I will be not only checking their profile, but I will check the discussions they have started, responded to, and commented on and if to me it looks like their only reason for being on MyLot is to what some people call do their affiliate marketing and what others call spam, I won't be accepting the add request.
This does not mean I won't accept anyone that has some kind of product, service, or business they are promoting, but if the user has 10 discussions and 9 of the 10 are ( Please note this is only an example I am not asking anyone to message or add me I do not make $500 a day, and can not show you how )"You can make $500 a day just check my profile for details or add me and send me a message and I will show you how" then I am not going to accept the add.
@anetteh (3590)
• Sweden
25 Jun 09
If you did sign and responded, you really did accept to get this invitation. But if you did ignore it and still get responding messages after you did ignore it that is spam. And if you do get lot of things you did not asked for...that is you signed up to a program and suddenly you get ton of messages from different people to your mail..I consider that spam and I do hate it. I did ask for information, but not tons of messages from other people.
@Kashmeresmycat (6369)
• United States
25 Jun 09
Well, when I accept a new friend, I expect it to be a friendship and not a plot to get me to go to some website. If that happens after I accept them, and I get an pm from them to join something, they are automatically deleted from my friends list.
Don't need that crap, nor do I want it. Would I like to work from home, of course, who wouldn't, but I've been looking for quite some time, and if I don't ask you about your work at home business, don't push it on me. Plain and Simple. Don't need no garbage or scams. You don't need friends like that.
@Vancollins (105)
• United States
25 Jun 09
I think it is considered spam. If you did not request information about their program, It is considered spam.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I always check a person's profile here or anywhere before accepting a friend request. Spammers stand out since they have virtually little or no information on their profiles, except maybe a link to whatever they are spamming.
Karen
@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
24 Jun 09
In my book it is spam. It is junk mail from someone you do not know,except for the fact that you accepted a friend request. As a friend this person should have asked you whether you are interested in a money making program. The person should send more info and/or invitation after receiving your consent.
However other people may call it, it is still junk mail. Affiliate marketers send marketing emails to people who have agreed to receive them, maybe by joining a safe list.
Better having no messages rather than being flooded with sales pitches.
@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
24 Jun 09
Right on, another vote for it being spam.
I have had friends contact me and actually ask if I would mind if they send offers like that. I just say no thanks and we remain as friends.
Yeah, it's when they don't ask and just say ignore it if you don't like it.
Usually the ones that will not call it spam are the ones that accept it as okay and do it themselves, so I tend to ignore their answers. I read them but they are tanted because they themselves spam others and think it's okay.
Have a great day or two or three. :)
@maikarumike (458)
• Malaysia
24 Jun 09
It is not a spam but just introduction and getting referral for their money making program as they are all very desperate people around including me to get downlines to most programs i have.
@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
24 Jun 09
It doesn't matter why someone spams, it's still called spamming. Their intentions may be to earn more money to survive but it's still spam.
Now if the person that spams would take the time to send a message or two and get to know me first I might accept what they have to offer but to just spam me on their first message. I don't think so.
@babshish (1387)
• India
24 Jun 09
Well whatever mail comes to you, which is not of your intrest is spam in your view, but the sender of the mail if he sends it first time and if you don't respond, and again if you repeatedly gets the message then ofcourse it is a spammer. You can reply the sender that please don't send such messages and even if the sender does not stop simply remove him from your friend's list. I feel, many member here do make friends to share their programs or get new referrals, even I also make friends and send my list of sites many times, but I make sure that if I don't get the reply I understand that the person is not intrested and then I am not sending any messages. Basically posting links here is not allowed, so members try to send it through PM, but if I feel at least once chance to be given to each sender
@WebMann (4731)
• Canada
24 Jun 09
Making friends is one thing but these people don't make friends. They ask for to be accepted as friends but never communicate other than to send you their offers.
If I was downtown and made a friend and that friend showed up on my door step to sell me stuff I would just march them right to the street.
A friend is one that communicates, the other is a spammer, in my eyes.
@Sandra1952 (6047)
• Spain
24 Jun 09
If someone makes a friend request and the first thing they do is send you a referral link, then it is spam, even if they say ignore it. I always check the activity of friend requesters. If all their posts are in 'make extra money,' or if they have very few posts, I decline the request. Friends are people you have common interests with; these people are seeking business opportunities, not friends.
@pickoy (733)
• Philippines
25 Jun 09
Once you accept it, your inbox will flood with mails you're unfamiliar with... I often just delete them or ignore them completely. Spam for me are unsolicited mails from unknown users. They send me information that I find irrelevant and useless.