I want to fulfill my dream
By XiaoLin
@XiaoLin (289)
Italy
June 24, 2009 7:50am CST
I met my husband five years ago, when I had just come back home from China in order to sit the last few exams and graduate, and then go back to China for a few years, as I've always wanted.
We started going out as friends, but I realized I didn't want to go to China where I would realize I didn't need him (that had been my reaction while I was dating my previous boyfriend). So I decided to remain in Italy, we started iving together, wo got merried and I looked for a way to re-invent my life, since everything I wanted before had changed. I had chosen love over dreams.
But my life is not the way I wanted it.
I had health problems so for the next few years I can't have children. Nothing keeps me here anymore, but the thought of my husband alone at home.
I told him I decided to go to Taiwan, because I want to study there for a while.
Am I betraying him?
4 responses
@kaguvkov (1318)
• Davao, Philippines
24 Jun 09
If you have your dream, then work for it to achieve. It is important to fulfill that because a life whose dreams are unfulfilled are miserable. In the end you will have tons of frustrations if you cannot fulfill that. Find ways to make it in reality so that you will enjoy living your life.
@XiaoLin (289)
• Italy
24 Jun 09
I totally agree.
I thought love would be enough, but it turns out this feeling of unfulfillment is even shutting the love off. I feel very bad.
I think if I were to choose now I wouldn't choose love anymore.
I'm not the same person I was back then, and I don't like the way I changed.
@friendship4lyfe (520)
• Saint Lucia
24 Jun 09
I dont think so since you gave up the dream once for him.I think he should consider going with you.Unless of course he has a great permanent job with a great pay.As time is a bit hard you wouldnt want to give something you will never get back.
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@TailaKahlan (42)
• United States
24 Jun 09
Is there any reason why he cant or dosent want to go with you and support your dreams? I think if you truly love some one your support of their dreams and do what you can to help them achieve their goals. My fiancee is working to support me so I can go to school and get my teaching degree. Nothing says love more then that to me. The fact that he would give up his comfort and work his butt off in crappy jobs so i can pursue my dreams says it all.
@XiaoLin (289)
• Italy
24 Jun 09
There are two reasons, actually.
The first is that he has a work here, and he can't take days off because he works by himself (no work, no money);
the second reason is he can't speak even English, let alone Chinese. He did come with me for a short trip to Beijing and I spent ten days translating what my friends were saying (don't get me wrong, I did it more than gladly). I can't imegine how he could live there, ore anywhere outside Italy.
Thanks for triyng to find a solution with me.
@TailaKahlan (42)
• United States
24 Jun 09
With the way the internet has advanced today if you did decide to go there are games like secondlife.com that could keep you intouch. you can go on dates, watch movies, even get "romantic" on there. So if you guys can handle a long distance relationship so you can do what you feel you need to there are things you can do to keep your relationship strong. so look at all your options and have a discussion with him about it and see if you can come to something that would work for both of you.
@besthope44 (12123)
• India
20 Jul 10
Life is sweet gift of life to have more fun and joy, rather to be worried. Cheer up!
@XiaoLin (289)
• Italy
7 Aug 10
Well, I'm cheering up now... but I left my husband. I'm trying to understand what went wrong not to repeat it againg. As for me and my husband, even if we don't live ogether anymore, we are trying to meet each other sometimes to speak and keep a good friend relationship. We speak a lot more than before, even if most of the time we get angry and sad about our mistakes. It's still the beginning, though.
Thanks for posting
Linda
