Parents

I see both of my parents all the time. They are still married. They've been married for about 21 years

My parents are still married and I get to see both of them once a year...because they live in another continent. They call me on the phone every week and we talk. hmmm...if one of my parents was having a problem ...I'd try to talk to them and get them out of it. I'd try everything I can to stop it. But leave it at that if nothing works.

Just like you my parents separated for 10 years now. I get to see my mother everyday though I'm not living with her anymore she's just a few blocks away from home. My father, I seldom see him, he works in a different city and only comes home to town once in a while. When he is in town I go visit him at his place and have some lunch or dinner with him. As for your situation about your father, what you can only do is make him feel he got you. Love him for what he is and just give him your opinion about what you think about his drinking but not to the point of trying to change his ways. A person can only do so much for himself, if change is in his heart then in some ways he will change. Always remember that a person who doesn't wanna change will never change but if we truly love a person we don't need change to love and appreciate them. Just be there for him, that's all we can do for now.

Hi, interesting question. I live around the corner from my parents who are still married and seem quite happy. I am not particularly close to them as my mum worked full time and my dad self employed so I was constantly in the care of auntie's and grandparents. These days I actually see and speak more to my auntie's than I do my parents and I am really close to them but not my parents. I love them but I don't know them if that makes sense. It is difficult to try to change people when they don't realise what they are doing is wrong, but, I know very elderly people who reached 80 and 90 who still had a drink every day! x

I just visited my dad this morning and yes he is still married with my mom. This is the first time that I have seen them since my birthday dinner back on May. I had the best time this morning because I was able to see my dad and brother.

Sorry to hear your experience, and I just want to say, if you connot change it, why not to accept it.If your father couldn't quit drinking, you may ask him to drink less. you should see him more often, otherwise ,it will be worse to him. FACE it,BE brave!

my dad passed away in early february of this year but until then, my parents were married. they had been married for 48 years, my in-laws just celebrated their 50th, hubby and i have been married for 21 years.

I've been lucky my parents have been married for 30 years and will most definately live the rest of their lives together. I could only imagine what it'd be like without one of them. I hope your father someday realizes what he's doing to his body and his family. Good luck with that.

My parents got divorced around when i was ten or eleven. So about ten years ago. A while my dad lived to far for me to see. He lived in oklahoma so thats far from here. Well late last year he moved down here. Since then I see both my mom and dad almost every day now. I live with my mom. And my dad lives just down the road. I try to spend as much time with my dad though because his health is critical and we dont know how much time he has with us.

Hi Strawberrybaby, You know, every family have their own issues. My parents do not divorced becasue they are traditonal chinese, once they got married, they will never divorced, most of the reasons are becasue they have me and my sister, they don't want to break this family. But even they don't get divorced, they fight a lot, like everyday. It's painful. Don't worry, if you love your dad, just tell him your feeling about him, he might willing to change just because of you.

comfort does make it better. calling your dad isn't enough. seeing and comforting him does make it better. if i see one of my family members drink their life away?.. well i smash him/her with a solid steel chair, lets see how strong the beverage is . :) well it is quite difficult to sit down and talk with these kind of people but little by little you could reach them in the part where they are most likely settled. what i mean is. they drink because their life is a mess or they have nothing else to do and nothing else to do. but being with them on their side talk to them deeply it would help a lot making them realize that life ain't just a messing with you. and drinking will truly won't solve anything. standing up and moving life on what you really wanted can be done with much support and encouragement.

my parents are not married any more i see my dad once a week and my mum when she comes over to see my nan or when i have got to take something over which is bad because im only 17.

I'm saddened to hear about your situation with your dad. Have you tried talking to your dad about how you feel about his drinking situation? Or maybe all he needs is a little prayer. ; )

Luckily, both my parents are still married and live in the same home with me. They do argue sometimes, (but hey who doesn't?) but nothing to extreme. If my parents were drinking everyday, I would ask an adult that is good friends with my dad or related to him, and get him help. Their are various programs that can help people slow down on their alchohol consumption and sober up. Sorry to hear about your father but it would benefit him and the family if he got help. :) Hope I helped and happy lotting! -Madb0mber77

Unfortunately, my father has passed away so I don't get to see him. I do visit his grave twice a month. I do see my mother on a regular basis as well. As far as drinking goes, I believe you should be there on a sole basis that he is your father. You don't have to agree with his ways & method, you don't even have to respect the man for his actions. Just be there. Being a better person is more than returning a favor. I believe it's about going out of your way to help someone or being there for someone without asking anything in return.

I should start by saying that when I was a teenager my parents split up and I lived with my dad. I'm 100x closed to my dad then my mom. My dad works about a 5 min drive from my house and stops in almost every day. My mom on the other hand works 5 blocks from my house and still only stops by about once every week to 2 weeks. My son is 2 1/2 and likes my dad way more then my mom, so does my husband. We have lived with my dad off and on for over a year now, have been in our home for about 3 months now, so my son has always had more to do with my dad then my mom. My dad is way more supportive then my mom, so he's a better influence for my son then my mom. But then again, a few months ago my husband took away my son's sleep over visits with my mom. I have to say she deserved it, she was told not to do something, but did it anyways.