Is marring the person you love so difficult??

India
June 24, 2009 12:31pm CST
I'm in love with a boy whom i know for last 6 months . we have gone out and know that we both love each other and want to get married. Now the problem is my parents are not agreeing with our relationship and they dont want me to get married to him because he is not of the same religion and caste. My parents love me lots and i dont want to hurt them but on the other hand love this boy also. I really dont know how to keep both the relationships and get married.
1 response
• India
4 Jul 09
Love ... the eternal problem of many ...Why??? Because we perceive exactly the way we should not. Many people dont even know the exact definition of Love... matter of fact nobody does.... Infact two days ago I was reading an article wherien this young girl asked this Trouble Aunty what love is and she had nicely replied that she too was unaware how one can define love but she enlisted what love isnt. Anyways wts imp is to answer ur question here and not to discuss love I guess. I guess as someone pointed out earlier 6 months is too less a time for one to decided if a person wanna settle with someone. First of all your reason for ur marriage is important. Why do you want to marry . Is it because everyone marries at particular or because of any otehr reason. There could be four probable reason one wud wish to get married for : 1) Inorder to produce progency... to propogate ones genes,2) FOR security i.e. finacial stability 3) For companionship 4) To fulfill physical needs. So does your reason for marriage fall under any of these above mentioned reason than please see if it really what you want. If it is any other reason other than this think again. As far as other problems are concerned you are abtter judge to decide the reason versus your loses that is or could be the trust of your parents. But if you know the reason you wish to marry then you would be able to decide whether running way wud be good idea or mutually ending the rrelationship wud be a good idea. If you convince your parents to believe in what you appreciate the person you love would bre the best option here.
• India
4 Jul 09
Thanks for your advice.. i dont think that those four reasons that you have listed are the only ones that can be considered for get married, you definately made me think over and i feel its a combination of all and there is a more appropriate reason and stronger reason that is love i really love him. Yes regarding my parents i think thats a better option ... that is to make them understand that he is the right choice and maybe that will take a lot of time.. anyhow thanks alot for your advice again.