a guy and a gal.... can they be 'friends'?
By oindy54
@oindy54 (3445)
India
June 24, 2009 1:07pm CST
Hi friends,
I have learnt from my personal experience that a guy and a girl can never be friends in the true sense of the term 'friendship'. Some sort of attraction is bound to develop,may be not initially but down the years. What's your opinion? Share it with me please!
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7 responses
@MsAmazinggggg (18)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I have to agree with you. Most of my friends are guys, and usually one end of this friendship likes the other. For example, I have to admit that most of the guys I have liked or dated have been friends of mine. And then there are friends of mine that like me [but I don't like them back.]
But I do believe that true friendship can form when you stick with that person. In my first year or college [I am a senior now] I met this guy who turned into one of my best friends. About a year later we dated and that lasted about a year. Now we still remain best friends. I don't think that just because we dated it doesn't mean that the term "best friends" can't apply to us. But I do admit that dating or liking your friend can turn awkward but that just shows the levels of not only the friendship but maturity as well. That's just my opinion.
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@beaushell (339)
• Philippines
25 Jun 09
I totally disagree! My bestfriend is a man. We were friends since 1st grade, been together at church and eventually at work... we go out a lot... we've been to many place all by ourselves... we understand each other by mere glances and can share a joke from a considerable distance.
And yet we both know that we are just friends... cannot be more than that.
Many people got confused that being close is synonimous to romantic relationships. No, that is not always true... you cannot marry all the guys that are nice to you.
You should have the wisdom to distinguish a friend from a lover! That's why many people would eventually say later in their life that they fall out of love... when in reality they didn't really fell in love at all! Such irresposible action can lead to many broken hearts in the future...
@oindy54 (3445)
• India
26 Jun 09
Hey I like your point but its not about me having the wisdom to distinguish a friend from a lover! Rather its the other way round. May be I have been unfortunate not to be able to sustain a solid friendship with a guy but it has always so happened that the guy ended up proposing to me or ended up with a broken heart because I have wanted to remain just friends with that person and nothing more. So you see,it varies from person to person.. at least its so in my case.. that the guys I have befriended could never really consider me a friend but expected something more and therefore I was compelled to leave such friends..because once the other person starts feeling an attraction for you and you don't reciprocate,that relationship never remains normal.It can't be called friendship if the other person likes you and you only think of him as a friend. I have faced a lot of problems due to this. Till now I have a certain friend whom I have tried heart and soul to convince that I can never get into a relationship with him but although he understands my point,he can't seem to get over it. So you see,its a big problem for me and so I generally try to stick to girls because my experience with male friends has not been really nice.
@spikelives (430)
• United States
24 Jun 09
My best friend is a guy we have been friends sence the 2nd grade.Almost all my friends have be guys.
@drizzle88 (4)
• Philippines
24 Jun 09
It usually happens so casually - boy meets girl. They'll have fun 'coz they share the same interests (or they don't even have to!) Then the share the same thoughts...laugh at each other's mistakes...Then somewhere along the way, suddenly when one will eventually fall for the other. But can they be 'friends' when one risks to cross that thin line between being 'friends' & what could be more than just 'friends'.
@briannaleigh_91 (32)
• United States
24 Jun 09
i disagree me and my friend patrick have been friends for many years now and have never developed feelings for each other and both are in committed relationships
@Shorty022794 (9)
• Canada
4 Jul 09
I do believe guys and girls can be friends. I myself have a guy for a best friend and yes an attraction developed and we dated but that brought us closer and we tell each other everything and help each other through tough times. I think having guy best friends are better than girls because they don't really cause drama but then again i don't really get alone with girls in general. But yes, if you find a decent guy you can be great friends. I love my best friend he's amazing.
@macdingolinger (10386)
• United States
24 Jun 09
I just told one of my friends the other day that guys just cannot be frends with girls. Now I admit, I could be wrong but I think as a general rule it's not possible!
