Does long distance relationships last?

Hello friend, as if you let me recall what happen in my love life before. Yes, I was a victim of that "Long Relationship" that was just wasted. For thirteen(13) years it went to nothing. SO frustrating. I don't want to recall it but for the purpose of discussion I will tell you. It would be a long story...Thanks...

i am in a long distance reli have been for nearly two years now and we met on the net, we started talking when i was 14 and he was 15 we met 11months later, we see each other every week now and talk on msn all the time its ok though because we appreciate every minute together and were not in eachothers faces 24-7, its true distance does make the heart grow fonder

well, i dont know!

Hmm this is a tough subject for me. I feel it is possible for a long distant relationship to work, however then again I don't. I know, I know ...I don't make sense but hear me out first. K, well My mother and father have been married for a little over 25 years and for half of my life my father was hardly around. He was a flight engineer for a top airline company and we would be lucky if we got to see him at least one week out of a month. Only recently he has retired and now he is able to enjoy what we call "home", but I do remember those days and it was definitely a long distant relationship and till today they are still going strong. However, in my situation it was a lot different. When I was pregnant with my first child my husband actually boyfriend at the time left home to go to school in Cali. Although he only had two more years to complete, within six months of school he came back home and he came back home for good. The long distant relationship was not working out. We both longed to be together and he made sure he was going to be apart of our babies life. So in my situation the long distant relationship thing was not for us...

I agree that it's sad that most long distance relationships don't last :( But I believe that if you're with your soulmate, you'll find a way to make it last for however long it takes until you can be together without the distance

well I can speak from experience on this subject ;) I was in a LDR for about 8 months and grant it ours didn't work out, but I do believe they can. It just takes wanting to from both parties. I mean if your dedicated to the relationship and working on "finally" being together somewhere in the future, then yes I believe it can.

Well, it all depends how deep their love is for one another. No matter how far they may be from one another, if they have a strong relationship, I think long distance relationship will last.

Yes, it is, for some people! but i think long distance relationship would not work for me.. I am used to seeing my hubby everyday and i don't think i can live my life without him by my side.. I truly admire couples who can make long distance relationships last.. you know, it really requires a lot of effort and understanding..

hello azaerus! if you said that you admire couples who keeps their relationship strong even on long distance...then you should admire me! hehehe kidding! well i can say that it is really possible to make a long distance relationship works!it just depend on the couples, how much they love and value each other, how much they can understand each other, how strong they can be in front of many temptations...and how much they can forgive just in case... i am telling all of these because it actually happens to me! i have been away with my boyfriend then because he needs to go back to his province after he graduated...it was very sad and really a big challenge in our relationship because our relationship have no security by then and all his past girlfriends are there...can you imagine how hard it is for me...and we are not sure if we are going to see each other again or not at all... what we do is we just keep our communication open, i always write to him (that time we have no cellphones yet just telephone) and i always or we always pray... but i know that no matter how hard we try...temptations are there and yes we are once defeated by this temptation... but since we love each other and we also learn to forgive...and fight for our love against all odds! it was never easy but...i am glad we survived that kind of relationship and now we are already together...happily married and we will never be apart to each other again... so i think, a long distance relationship will still works...just depend on how the couple will handle it...and with God's guidance...it can be asked... and the couple should always be open for all possibilities and be ready...face consequences, accept and forgive...again just in case...

long distance relationships can work depending on how the couples are able to manage the relationship , most long relationships do not last because the couples have not find time to be with each other physically and that is quite bad, no matter how busy they can be they need to see each other physically if they match themselves and how well they can go in their relationship

yes, i strongly agree. for me, it doesn't really matter if your miles apart or a north and south relationship. what is important is the love and trust you have for your partner. yes, we can't deny the fact that there are times that doubt occurs in our mind and be come tired of waiting.

Hey Azaerus, I have experienced long distance relationship. Yup, it's really tough and only true love ends in wedding! Like mine, we married after a year! I agree with what you've heard about it, it was really hard to keep up with the distance. First that you need in distance love is TRUST! Very important to get it going, then you need to give a little attention too. Pick up ever call he/she makes and if you can't return immediately when you get the chances! It's really tough, but it's worth it!!

I'm currently in a long distance relationship and it is working out great. Of course we would rather be together, but we are not able to right now. We speak on the phone and email each other through out the day. Our love for each other is so strong that time nor distance can stand in the way. If the foundation is there, then distance is just a state of mind. We have a very intimate relationship even w/o being in each other's presence. The key is to build that strong foundation and be truely committed to one another. Also, absence makes the heart grow fonder.

Been in both results. Firt one didn't last mainly because of me, i was worried, i care, i love her and i don't want to hurt her. In short, i was not ready for long and serious relation. The last one going on 8 years of wonderfull marriage untill this moment, i'm sure it'll still going on tomorrow, day after tomorrow and so on. The fact's based on surveys and statistic anywhere, the results often show larger percentage on the side of correspondence (from general type) saying : "That won't last!" But the results of survey from the correspondences whose been on that kind of relations often came out with bigger percentage for "It can last!" results. For me, they don't have anything to do with what i am going through. I am deciding my own path. Our surroundings may have influence to our decision but then again we are the one deciding which. There will be problems but along with it are the solutions. There are just two sides of a coin. The main questions are; do you have the determination to find solutions or finding ways or to make one?

It is not that they do not last. But I must say they are tough to keep. There should be real try from both sides. without that its not possible.

The strength of the relationship depends not only on the length of time the lovers are with each other but also on their physical, emotional, mental, and spiritual intimacy. If one or both lovers lack intimacy, relationship will not last. This type of relationship is platonic and somewhat hypothetical.

I don't think long distance relationship could work... I've seen it happen to me and it really was very heartbreaking. Trust is needed and both parties need to really love and be committed to each other. I was in a relationship with a guy, we met through the net. We communicated for 3 years, not only through the net, we also exchanged letters and even call each other through the phone. But sad to say when he came here (Philippines), he didn't tell me he met somebody else. I was left here without any knowledge of it. He only told me that he found someone else after one year. I was really heartbroken, so that was the reason he was always busy and his time for me has lessened. I had brainwashed myself that he was saving for us that's why he always said he was busy. I trusted him and was doing my best trying to understand and save our relationship. That experience really made me decide and believe that long distance relationship cannot work especially when the call of the flesh is more powerful than the persons professed love.

I'm afraid I don't think a long distance relationship can work. You don't have the time together to get to know each other properly, build love and trust, have experiences together, know each others boundaries etc. I think it is based hugely on lust and the idea of being with someone.

Yes it is works for me, for 5 years now we have long distance relationship. He was working in abroad so we dont see that much, sometimes once a year. But our relationship keeps on going we chatted everyday, its important to a long distance relationship you should always communication. Another one is trust, this should always present with long distance relationship because if one of the party has no trust to the other how the relationship will be going. Now we have daughter already, and still he was working abroad. Communication is still there, the trust and love to each other which was doubled when we have our daughter. Its just a matter of balancing things i know long distance will works for you as well.

Love is life.It changes people.And the one who say that long distant relationships do not last longer are wrong,moreover they are not lovers,they don't love anyone. Because the one who loves believes in love,they live every moment of their life in loving....Distance plays no role in love.The one who loves will never ditch his or her partner and will be faithful to his or her mate for the whole life.If only one is serious and the other is not,he/she can make his mate love him the same as she do toooo.That's a stupid thing to say that long distant relationships do not last.And if do not,just keep in mind that they were passing their times and have never loved each other.