Many women think that they can change the minds of their men
By vijayanths
@vijayanths (7877)
India
5 responses
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
24 Jun 09
Bcom 92: and what will happen if she also loves him sincerely? she will have to respect his feelings and taste and hence has to change herself to his tastes, is it not? 
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
24 Jun 09
zahfran;
In my opinion there is no need to change your man/woman unless it is very much needed. Let them live their way. But suppose if man's or woman's way is wrong then he/she can change. It is for good only.
@zahfran (851)
• Singapore
24 Jun 09
A man shouldn't change his ways.... except for the better.
If we truly like a person, we should accept his/her attitude and maybe try change some of his/her bad attitudes.
But I wouldn't agree to change that person to be someone completely different.
Just my Point of view.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
24 Jun 09
If asked, I will offer advice or suggestions, but I have learned over the years not to request or expect anyone to change on my behalf. The changes would only be temporary and often lead to resentment. The only time another changes is when they see a need to do so or truly want that change for themselves.
We are who we are, and that should be respected. The only person we can change is ourself!
A great topic, by the way.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
24 Jun 09
A great rely too. I loved the way you handled the topic and your views. It shows your maturity of mind and the experiences in your life. Great discussion by you Peacefulwmn9.
@PeacefulWmn9 (10420)
• United States
24 Jun 09
Thank you! I actually have learned so very much from the discussions on this site. It is a pleasure to be here.
Karen
@palonghorn (5479)
• United States
24 Jun 09
If there is that much you want the other person to change....maybe you don't belong together. I've heard women say that oh I can change him after we're together, married, etc. The way I feel about it is, I know who and what they are, if I don't like it, then I shouldn't be with that person. My fiance is a firefighter, as well as me being one, so there are going to be interrupted dinners, parties, and plans when one or both of us get paged out for a fire call. And I wouldn't change that for the world and neither would he, but the way I look at it is, even if I weren't a firefighter, that I know what he does, I know that it means plans will be broken, so if I didn't like that or didn't want to live with that then I shouldn't be with someone that does that. Like one of your other responses said, the only one we can change is ourselves, and we should respect the other person enough to not want them to change who they are just for our liking.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
24 Jun 09
You are a different woman and really like you as you differ from a lot of women out there. You can undesrtand the men's world better. needless to say your hubby is lucky 
@ds6413 (2070)
• United States
24 Jun 09
Hello vijayanths, I know from experience there is no way I can change a mans mind. I thought I could when I was younger but have since learned they have to make their own mistakes. It only causes frustration and resentment in both parties. Experience is a great teacher but I can force it on anyone. He has to be willing to listen to others experiences.The only males I can influence is that of my nephews.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
24 Jun 09
ds:
You sound very practical and meaningful.may be life has taught you many things. I liked your response very much, thanks.
@threnos (216)
• Canada
24 Jun 09
It probably wouldn't be right to completely change the personality of your husband or boyfriend. That's pretty low. However, it may be possible to make them understand how you feel about a certain subject if they discuss it properly. If the argument is strong enough the guy may just understand how their girl feels and make them more understanding and willing to see it the same way.
