Could your kids ever do anything that would make you stop loving them?

MY mother was always the coldest person I ever could of met and I always swore I would be different than her so I never thought that a child of mine could do anything to make me turn my back on them maybe stop loving them until my oldest I make myself love her keep loving her but honestly do I show her love any longer I can not say so but before any one judges me my daughter is a severe case I really tried with her provided her with every single kind of help a kid could get from the best doctors to the best programs I had to quit working when she started school for she was that violent and out of control at school God help me I kept trying to help her save her for I was determined not to have done to her what my mother had done to me I knew there would come a point where I would have to make a choice I have too other kids also and after a while it became a safety concern for us we had to sleep together out of fear she has killed animals tried to hurt little kids ect this is out of the ordinary actions No parent wants to believe the worst in their own kid she left home eventually almost tore the whole family together ended up lying on me all because i would not let an 11 year old run the neighborhood all hours of the night crazy me huh even after she lied on me and did countless other crimes upon others I tried to help her out I even got her placed with my sister to give her one last chance it was then I had to turn my back my sister had a newborn at the time a sick one at that she had just had open heart surgery and we caught her she was sitting there making the baby just scream and the look she had in her eyes sent chills up my spine So I know the extreme case So I make myself love her but i fear for society for I know sooner or later she will hurt someone parents are suppose to feel one way no one ever plans for outside the box and god help me I hate myself for feeling the way I do and would never ever tell her my true feelings but I can not change the fear I feel i wish I could

Hi Karen! I think every mother-father love thier children. It is true that children keep doing things contrary to the choices of their parents, may be due to generation gap. However, such is the bonding between parents and children that parents do not stop loving them from core of their hearts, even if they (children) disobey them. I feel if one's child takes some extreme step like marrying somebody of his/her own choice, without any information or without the approval of their parents or start staying alone at a different place, sometimes immediately after marriage, this could sour relations between parents and thier child. (My this observation is based on the traditions prevailing here in India, it may be different at your place). Nonetheless, no relation is greater than parents-children relationship. Good Post! Deepak

Well, as parents, children are blessing from God. We love them no matter what they do. But different parents have different ways of showing their love. Some show much affection and some will be very disciplinary. I would say that I don't really show the softer side of me to my children. I am a strict parent. But no matter what, I love my sons dearly no matter what they do. I will always make sure that they have my fullest attention when they have problems.

children could get mischievous at times and do things that would make you less proud of them. but i can never stop loving. the bond i have with my child can never be replaced. as a mom, you know what i mean. ann

I have no kids, so I can't give you a right answer. No one will hate kids, because they are too little to know more things. Even adults will make mistakes, so what about kids! If your daughters are adults, you will hate them if they make a big problem.

Absolutely not. I will never stop loving my son. As you said, I might lose respect for them or hate something that they did, but I will always love him. I honestly do not understand how people can have children and not love them and not provide for them. It drives me insane.

I am single with no kid. All I know is that parents cannot stop loving their children no matter what. It could be the toughest call, a tough choice but still they end up with their children. On the contrary, it may not be so the other way round! I have been the cause of immense hurts to my parents when I was young and defied them on a few occasions and guess what I had to come back to them and they have accepted me whole heatedly, happily. That's the beauty of being a parent! I just love them.

I would always have a Mother's love for my children, I may not like them or respect them because of somethings they had done, but that wouldn't change my love.

Hello my friend PeacefulWmn9 Ji, Yes, I do agree that this time may come in everybody's life as and when we feel that we are neglected. Children do not feel that we are also living with them including extended families and do not require our advises. They do of their own. Last evening only I was taken by my son, who had booked an appartment, where he introduced us, as'master bed room' , 'Children room' and 'Guest room', but no room for us. So we felt neglected. These are all senstive issues in one's life. This does not happen purposely. It happens as per present life style. May God bless You and have a great time.

i have not got kids but i know nothing would stop me loving my own flesh and blood

While I don't have children, I don't believe that if I did, they could do something to make me stop loving them. That's me personally, though. There are some messed up people in the world and I have heard of parents disowning their kids for doing something as silly as not becoming a Doctor. For a real parent, I don't believe that that love would really ever die.