Arguments, words hurt.

I hate when people bring up old stuff when they are mad. If I were you i would just express how you feel when they do this... later father you both have calmed down. if they do not take your feeling in to consideration then you may need to think about if they care about you.

Everyone has skeletons. If there was a chance some of your prior actions could come back to bite you then I think it was the right thing to do to be up front and honest. If there was not a chance that any of your past actions would ever be revealed then I think you should have just kept them to yourself. Either way, a line has to be drawn when entering a relationship. That line should be agreed upon by both parties. Nothing prior to that line should ever be used against the person and should not be a factor in any argument or major decision regarding the relationship. If that can't be agreed upon I don't see how you two could move forward.

If you had lied to him, then I can understand why the past is used against you. If you had been honest, then it means there is something wrong with him. You have left the past behind, haven't you? I look at a relationship as similar to the process of getting something we want, like a car. If the owner says it is in a good condition, and later on we find many faults with it, then our anger is justified. If everything has been explained to us, and we still buy it from him, then we should not raise the issue again. Maybe your partner needs a rethink on the relationship.