How long would it take you to give up?
By pinklemonade
@pinklemonade (486)
June 26, 2009 5:38am CST
If you kept trying to make contact with a friend but they simply ignored you or took nearly a week to get back to everything you said, how long do you think it would take you to lose interest? Or would you just keep going and hope that things got better?
This has happened to me quite alot of times and it always ends up in me being upset and my confidence being knocked. These days I am more careful and try to not get disheartened if someone doesn't reply. Easier said than done though!
4 responses
@Wink24 (167)
• Philippines
27 Jun 09
i think,you must know first the real reason why it's like that. Maybe they're just busy because though they're your friends, they still have their own lives, or sad to say but maybe they already forgot you and don't want to be friends with you anymore. there's a kind of friend who only calls you a friend when they need something from you, but after they got what they want,they'll just leave you behind like they even didn't know you at all. Anyway, i'm not saying that they're like that, i'm just telling the reality. So if that's the case, i'll give them some time for themselves but it's better if you'll know the reason soon, so you'll know what to do, if you'll still consider them as your friend, or just leave them like what they did to you.
@pinklemonade (486)
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27 Jun 09
I wish I did know the reason they were like that! I can only think it is for a good reason but it doesn't stop you feeling upset about it you know?
@abanerji (1026)
• India
26 Jun 09
i do get upset when i wish to talk to someone and i am either avoided or cannot onnect to the person for other reasons. i am very sensitive to such situation but act strongly and stop myself from chasing the person. i feel that if the person really feels for me then she/he would try to get in touch with me. if the relationship is mutual then they too would feel the need to interact and if they feel so then they would come for sure.
i don't give up but i give space and time.
@pinklemonade (486)
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26 Jun 09
This is how I feel aswell. It hurts so much but I am try so hard not to ask them why they don't want to speak to me and just try and think I am better of without them. I think I need to get better about the not chasing the person thing though. I am a very sensitive person too and don't like letting people who I like go away!
@ucue2008 (924)
• Malaysia
26 Jun 09
It happened to me all the time, and I'm kind used to it, moreover I'm kind that person too. it usually take a long time for me to answer a question to return abck sms and let alone calling that person back. But I won't give up, because for me, relationship that once build wiil not break just like that.
@pinklemonade (486)
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26 Jun 09
Yeah this is something I have grown to realise. I try to build up relationships gradually because in my opinion if someone wants to know you it doesn't matter how long it takes. I guess it takes patience though. I have found out that the quicker you become friends with someone the quicker it tends to happen that you aren't friends with them. If there's ever someone you really like you should just take it slow for fear of them getting bored. That's what I try and do anyway.
@bellarisa1 (45)
• United States
27 Jun 09
I think you have to know who your friends are and what the nature of your friendship is. I have friends that if they don't respond to me in a timely manner I know something is wrong and I have others that weeks will go by and I'm not concerned because this is normal for our relationship. Every friendship and every friend is different. We can't judge them all with the same measure.
