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I have recently begun studying asperger's and I noticed that many aspies mention that many neuro-typicals get very angry about aspie traits. I know from personal experience that If I do not give the expected response in a conversation, most people become very uncomfortable or even begin to act aggressively. I frequently have to ask for information to be repeated and I can tell that the other people, often get very agitated. When I make an appointment, for example, I will often ask the person to repeat the date and time, and they often hesitate before repeating it and then huff it out in an angry fashion. Another time someone asked me how a community association meeting was,and I said it was, "fun". I got a look of horrified surprise. They repeated the word, "fun" several times and then stared at me. I could sense that they were very shocked and needless to say this person never spoke to me again. I understand that I may not give expected responses all of the time, but what I do not understand is why people react so severely to them. Why would someone get so angry if I ask them to repeat something, or say that a meeting was "fun" instead of "productive" or "engaging?" Additionally, why do people get so aggravated when they hear unexpected responses made by aspies, yet when there is an unexpected response from an aggressive individual it is taken with a grain of salt?