When disappointments arise, Why we put blame on something?

I do not deal with disappointment very well. I try to do better beinng that I have had alot of disappointments over the year. Well I guess who hasn't right. But I am a person that gets depressed when disappointment occers. I usually try to eat my way out and it has not done very well for my health. I usually don't blame anyone but myself because it is usally me that causes the failure. Sometimes I jump before I look at the whole picture and that is usually causes the disappointments. You would think that after all these years that I would be a little better at it but I am not. So I try to make it through each day and wounder what the next disappointment is going to be. lol

butterfly68, ah the blame game. . . i think it is a waste of time, next time you blame someone or someone blames you . . . is it going to change the situation for the better? If you step back and think for a moment . . the only thing that blame does is . . is it keeps the focus off of the person pointing the blame finger. The blamer is looking for anything external to explain the unhappiness they are feeling, Blame may succeed in making another feel guilty but it sure wont succeed in changing whatever it is that is causing the unhappiness. Disappointment. . the way I see that . . what doesnt kill you can only make you stronger

Hi there Butterfly! That is what I hate with other people and I always try not to do that myself. Blaming other people would only make them feel worse and won't do much good with the problem at hand. I say if you want something done, do it yourself so that you won't have any excuse to blame others in case of disappointments. When disappointed, what I do is to accept the fact that things just don't always go the way I want them to. Learn from my mistakes or shortcomings if I got disappointed because of something I did or did not do. Then, think of a solution or something to do about it so as to save the situation or if there isn't anything I can do, I just pray and let it go.

Unfornatunly disappointment is part of every day life.. A lot of the time I will just shake it off.. But if it is something that I was really counting on and it just fell through at the last mintue I do tend to get upset or even frustrated.. So I try no to count on much because of the fact in the end if it works great, if not better luck next time.. The reason we get disappointed is because we expect something to happen.. Sometimes our expectations are set too high.. Causing the disappointment rate to also be high.. Instead of assuming something will go as planned, hope that it will.. Plans are always made to be broken one way or another.. That may be a negative way of looking at it but it stops the disappointment from happening.. Also if things do turn out you will appreciate them so much more.. Sometimes its not the big things that matter in life, but the little steps that were taken to get there.