Has your judgement of a person gone wrong?

has my judgement of a person gone wrong? you betcha it has and now im stuck in a situation in which its gonna be hard for me to get out and eventually hard to deal with after the smoke clears! i guess forest gump said it best "life is like a box of chocolates" i'm true witness to this remark! i've come to understand that you have to take your time in everything you do from relationships,family,work,the economy,and my personal favorite "YOURSELF"! in a nut shell dont dive in the kiddie pool as if your in the olympics shooting for 10's across the board,take your time feel it out and if the water is just right....."TAKE THE PLUNGE"

I just had an experience like that. Actually it was very early this morning (around 2:00). My sister decided that she would pick and instigate a fight. It resulted in a less-than-sober drive home and an awkward explanation to my parents. I always thought my sister cared about me, and understood me. I'm sure she does still care about me, but I know our relationship can never bee what it was before, because she is not the same person she used to be.

I hear you! This year, I made friends with people who I thought were genuine, but after getting closer to them I realized that they had no problem opening up to me and back biting about their friends who they have known since childhood. I got nervous that they might talk about me behind my back since they do so about their "best friends" but I assumed I had never done anything wrong to them so they would have no reason to. I soon realized how little I meant to them, as soon as school was out we barely talk or see each other, and when we do its kind of awkward and I no longer feel as close to them as I used to. The smallest thing I do makes them all weird around me, and one of them seems to go out of her way to make me feel stupid. It really sucks, but it teaches you a lesson or two about who you should really consider to be your "real" friends. I think it should have been a warning from the beginning when they talked about their own friends, but I guess I was just enjoying the "friendship" of these people and didnt realize how much it would suck when they no longer needed me...bleh!

I must admit YES, well throughout my life i have come across many friends and many of them i had trusted blindly and i always thought that they are the best lot i could have, but then i was proved wrong many a times......people just change so very soon.......life never seems to be that stable.......today if you have a friend whom you really admire and like tomorrow you would not even like to see his/her face......the best time that you can rally have is when you guyz meet for the first time....there is so much to ask, they is so much to inquire about......you like to learn about each other........but as and when time passes by you start getting bored, you come to know a lot of things about that person which he had actually faked earlier.......it hurts at that moment as you are already so attached to that person that you don't want to loose his/her friendship........but then all you can do is dispose it off as wrong judgment and live with it till it comes to a substantial halt !!!!

That is how life goes on. On several occasions I have made some judgments about someone which, eventually turned out to e wrong. We judge people from their outward look most of the time and pin so much trust on them. The best way to avoid this is to know that not every jim and jack is perfect. Never trust so much.

Earlier in my life i often came across many such people.. but now i can judge people well. i always keep distance from such people cuz they are pain in head, heart and a*s

So far, my judgment of people have been correct all along. But what I don't like is when my judgment about something negative and it turns out right, it is a real bummer. I don't consider myself too good but I can pretty much judge a character just by looking at them. So far, it's been true and I hope that my judgment doesn't ever get clouded. Thanks for this discussion...;)

Well, I also have similar experiences in so far as trusting in people and believing in them. But sad to note that there are those that cannot be trusted. They seem to look okay, they act great but they are not what they seem. So now that I have learned my lesson, I carefully assess the person before I trust them. I no longer rely on the appearance alone. In other words, attitude matters most.

hello there... yes those things happens to me...giving a wrong judgment/impression to someone...we can't really know anybody in just a few moments...their true colors will soon be visible...that's why we need to be careful in giving our trust...its okay to trust someone but always be cautious...don't trust too much for anything too much may harm us... on the other hand, i also have an experience of thinking that this person is a snob or i feel like we can never be good with each other...but upon knowing them...it turns out that they are actually very nice and real good friends... we can't really judge a book by its cover...and i think, first impression did not really lasts... have a nice day!

Yes, actually I've had it both ways. I worked with a girl who I thought was really nice, until I started going to lunch with her, and she would make fun of what other people were wearing or what they looked like, etc...as they would walk past us. She didn't do it out loud, but would just say it to me. I got tired of it, and I didn't want to go to lunch with her anymore. She would critisize and put down people too much, and I just was sick of it! And, I worked in another place, where I thought this one manager was mean...and eventually I got along with her just fine. So, it goes both ways! Ya never know sometimes.

many times.. same as you did. :)

well people do mistakes when judging others by just looking at them, i don't judge this way, people get a wrong impression on me, i seem like a very serious person which i am not, they only need to talk to me to let themselves know more about me, i have mild social anxiety. so i think people should not assume things just because it seems that way, like they say do not judge the book by it's cover!

i do meet such a situation in life. once one of my classmates,a very honest boy from the appearence,from the junior middle school,asked me to his city,telling me a better job was waiting for me there.when i arrived there,another city,i found he was in a illegal pyramid selling organization.luchily,i escaped with my intelligence finally. another little lucky,he didnt took anything from me until then. so be careful in life,u cant betray others,but u also need to be careful of others.

Generally I have been right about the people I have made friends with. I am a pretty good judge of what kind person I am dealing with. That is why I was always good as a waitress. I could sum up a table of people in an instant. I could see a table of people in a bad mood and turn that table into a crowd of laughing people by the time they left. My boss was always suprised that I made better tips than the rest of the waitress at the end of the night. They always wanted to know what my trick was. I told them that you didn't need to be skinny or beautiful to make tips you just had to have a good personality and know how to read people. And I always started with a joke. Like "Tipping is not a town in China" was a button I wore they loved looking at and made them laugh right off the bat. So to answer your question, that would be No.

Yes. It was a few years ago. I had just gotten over being very sick for about a year. I had lost touch with a bunch of my friends. Then I met this newly married couple at my church. She and I hit it off. We became friends pretty quickly. And then I discovered she was a terrible gossip. People were being hurt by the things she was saying. Eventually she left our church, but even before that I had let the relationship go. I just couldn't stand to listen to things said about other people behind their back.

i have a very bad habit of trusting people easily. i have past experiences when freinds have cheated me just because i trusted them too much. i try not to trust people so much but still when i start trusting someone i forget the past and trust the person. i would land up in some problem one day with such a behaviour, i think.

Isn't it better to assume goodness and innocence until proven wrong?? How would one be if they saw evil in everyone without cause?? Though it is disappointing to sometimes find people not so good but by assuming goodness, you are also giving this person a chance to be good and change.So now some friends aren't so good. It's time to influence them. Are you up to that challenge???

Yes, many times. Sometimes I feel ashamed of myself why I can so careless and negative thinking. But I always fair. If my perception was wrong I ask for apologize. Everybody have a mistake right ? but we have to learn to trust our friends or anybody in our relationship.

yes often the judgment of a person gone wrong with me and you are right that when you started trusted someone and then he or she betrayed you. Is there any way to judge someone at early staged? Because I recently lost my job due to these kind of people. I was very much disappointed with that..!!

It is really a good topic. The experiences in your life are very common. In recently, I was frame-up by my previous friend who want to shirk his responsibility. So from those experience, we should trust anyone easely. And judging somebody upon his appearance and primary communication is not reliable. Making really friends is not so ease.