Gunned Down...and this is the point I was trying to make before.
By queenlove
@queenlove (495)
United States
June 27, 2009 2:49pm CST
My city is getting bad. It is being over run with teenager/thugs/gang bangers who are running around murdering people in cold blood...a lot of times for no reason at all.
Last week there were 6 shootings in 3 days. 3 of the victims were teenagers, 2 of them murdered.
I posted a discussion a few weeks ago about how parents are too soft on their children. They are too busy trying to be their kid's friend instead of their parent. I said that parents should get involved in their kids lives, read their diaries, look therough their phones, search their rooms, ect.
Everyone argued and said that a child has a right to privacy and should be treated respectfully.
Ok, well guess what? One of the kids in my neighborhood was shot in the face by a 15 year old. Why? BECAUSE THE 15 YEAR OLD'S PARENTS believed their son when he claimed that he was a good kid and was behaving. Had they have taken the time to look in their son's sock drawer, they would have found the pistol he was hiding, and someone would not have had to attend their child's funeral.
This mother said,and I quote, "My son and I talk about EVERYTHING! We have a very trustful relationship. He was a good kid, got good grades in school. I never in a million years would have guessed that my son was in a gang. I wish I would have looked deeper into my son's life instead of trusting that he was being truthful. I thought I was one of the lucky parents to have such a well-behaved teenager, and my son murdered someone else's baby."
So after reading this...who still agrees that it is WRONG to invade a child's privacy?
3 responses
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
27 Jun 09
I think I missed your earlier discussion because I definitely do not agree that it's wrong to invade your child's privacy. I raised four kids and they all knew that A)I was the parent, B)It was my house and I would check any area of their bedroom I saw fit and C)I would kick their a$$es if I found something I shouldn't. My kids had to verify where they were going and who they were going with...I had to know their friends and their friends' parents...and still my son managed to get into trouble but the girls never did. They all complained but who know what they would have gotten themselves involved in if I hadn't been...as they put it...so nosey? I wasn't nosey...I cared.
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@queenlove (495)
• United States
28 Jun 09
In my other discussion, people were saying that its wrong, and that we need to instill in our kids that we trust them and that they need their own "personal" space.
Umm, I think not. They can have their own personal space when they are grown and have their own house. lol
@cbjones (1147)
• United States
27 Jun 09
I wrote up this long drawn out reply, and lost it when my browser glitched, and deleted the text from the field. I tried to undo the blunder, but MyLot thinks I'm trying to copy and paste and won't let me. I knew I should have typed it all out in notepad. Lol!
The basis of what I was going to say: It's a messed up situation. People need to take responsibility as parents and not worry so much about their seed not liking every decision they make. Respect is something that these little hyenas in gangs don't have for anyone. It's sad, it's really sad. I don't think any of these gang bangers have ever felt a leather belt, or switch to their hindquarters.
No matter how you feel about physical disciple to kids, you have to admit that these little hoodlums needs a lot more than just a simple time out.
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@lynnemg (4529)
• United States
28 Jun 09
I agree with you that as parents, it is our responsibility to know what our kids are doing and to check up on them in any way and at any time and to do so frequently. I used to hate it when my parents did these things to me, but now, as a parent myself, I can understand and I do the same thing. I have told my kids that there is nothing of theirs that is off limits is and when I decide to look at it, and I am not beyond calling the school to check up if I feel the need. I also monitor who my kids hang out with and when they leave, I know who they are with, where they intend to go, who is taking them, who is bringing them home, what they are wearing, I get a cell number and a license plate number, and my kids know that if they are late getting home, they don't go out for quite a while and they had better be where they are supposed to be if I call to heck. There is also a rule in my home that states that if they want to go somewhere else, they have to call and ask for permission before they go. Many people say that I am over-protective and even that I am too strict, but I could care less, I will know what my kids are doing whether they are home or not. I can't and won't rtyo to pretend that my kids are always completely honest with me about everything, I know better, but I can and will say that my kids don't run the streets and as long as they are still in my home, they won't.
Those parents who are so laid back and as you said, want to be their kid's friend may really regret it later on. I refuse to be one of thoise parents.
