TEENAGE PREGNANCY: How will you handle this in your family?
By mobhomeir
@mobhomeir (7558)
Philippines
June 28, 2009 1:11am CST
Teenage years is the most crucial stage of everyone. This is the stage where in, if you can survive and handle it properly you would have a better life in the future. A stage where full of curiosity and "first time", that's why some resulted to TEENAGE PREGNANCY...how would you handle it when it happens to one of your daughter or even one of your sons...
Would you punish and outcast your children concern? Let's talk about it...
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4 responses
@babs6219 (153)
• United States
28 Jun 09
I was a teenage mom. I had just turned 17 when I had my daughter, so I'm pretty able to think of the possibilities here. I would make sure my daughter finished her education, that she realized her options and would make an informed decision. If she keeps the baby, I would make sure she took care of the baby, but I would support her in every way possible. I would also make sure the father, or his family, paid child support.
I don't have a son, but if I did, the same rules would apply. Any child of mine will be a good parent, regardless of their age at the time, and would support and take care of the child appropriately. Good topic!
Bobbie
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
29 Jun 09
Hello babs good day, I guess you're almost a perfect mother if that would be followed and fulfilled by your children...GOod luck then and thanks on your ideas...
@danishcanadian (28953)
• Canada
28 Jun 09
As far as I am concerned, what's done is done. If a teenaged member of my family were to come home pregnant, I'd just have to accept the fact thhat it happened. There is no use crying over something that could not be undone. I would talk to them, and make sure they got the proper help, so that they could make an informed decision about what they wanted to do with the rest of their lives, and the baby's.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
29 Jun 09
I appreciate that friend...I guess you're a practical mother. A real mother of the new generation..keep it up..
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@babs6219 (153)
• United States
29 Jun 09
Hi! No, I guarantee I am not an almost perfect mom. I just think that when a teenager becomes a parent, they need the support of the entire family to make sure they can be good parents. Otherwise, you're setting everyone up for failure, and nobody wants that. Plus...parenting matters. Just because your son or daughter became pregnant, it doesn't mean they're not your child. It just means they made a mistake, and they need to figure out the best way to go from there.
But really, this is a good question, and I hope it makes a lot of us think about what we would do.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
30 Jun 09
Yeah I got what you mean. I hope this statement of yours could be read by all mothers here..that could make them think if over and over...thanks for your nice statement...
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@prashanthalva (2272)
• India
29 Jun 09
Teenage Pregnancy Could Come as a shock to Parents not prepasred for it. And I think The Children Should Try And Avoid Quick Friendship and One Night Stands ... Though Both Male And female Child is Responsible But it just Happens It is The Female Body reaction to A One Night Stand, Girls HaVE To Be Extra Cautious. If My Daughter Gets Pregnant Young Before marriage, i will Be A Lost Man... LoL ...........
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
30 Jun 09
I got your point. But we can't stop our teenage children from going to their friends, we can't also follow them all of the time and keep reminding them. What I guess the best way to do for our children is to keep them talking the advantages and disadvantages if the would just wait til the right time for them to get married and settle down permanently not by divorcing each partners when times get rough..hope you got what i mean..happy mylotting..
@JenInTN (27514)
• United States
29 Jun 09
I would not outcast my children. That's not to say I wouldn't be sad at first..but I could never disown them. I was a teenage mother and outcast by my family. I can not tell you how hard it was for me to get where I am now. I have done nothing my entire life but work towards this moment. I made it though. I have yet to develop any kind of relationship with my family. They have wanted to but it's been so long I don't know how to go back. It's been 20 years now. I did reunite with a grandmother a few years ago but she has since passed. No way I could put either one of my girls through what I had to go through.
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
30 Jun 09
Yes. I think parents should develop close bonding with their family, their children as the children grow up. I think the parents should let their children feel that they are not just their parents but also a close friend, that they could without hesitant all their personal problems specially their outside relationships. One of the reasons why teenage pregnancies or marriages happened to most teenagers is that they were being ignited by their parents to do it. How they had been grown up with them. How they treated by their parents. What the saw and observed by their parents as they grown up and the environment around them. These are just a few factors that might be the reason of teenage pregnancy...This is just my own observation...Thanks for sharing your opinion...
