What do you say is the main reason couples divorce or friends separate

I think it's selfishness. As humans, we are naturally selfish - we think about me first before anyone else. And that's why LOVE is very tough. It requires TWO (not just one) people to be selfless (and think of the other person first or the family) before you can make it work. And the thing about selfishness (or selflessness) is that it is a day-to-day thing. You can't just be selfless one day - and hope that your relationship survive. You have to be selfless everyday. Another one is laziness -relationships are hard work. Especially for new relationships (new marriage, new bf-gf relationship, new friendship) - because you're still laying out the foundation. You have to make sure that the soil is compacted very well before you pour the concrete - once the concrete is poured, you have to wait for it to cure, then you can lay a finish floor, etc etc etc. And before all that is done, you need a plan! So you see- structurally, foundations take a lot of hard work. I don't see why it would not be the same for relationships.

I've heard that money is one of the main, if not THE main, issue in couples breaking up. It's not always not having enough money, it's apparently disagreements about managing and spending money. Each person has his or own views on money, partly based on how they grew up thinking about it, and it seems pretty important for couples to discuss their attitudes on financial issues before they tie the knot.

I think financial problems would be the most common reason. Another might just be that people didn't realize how different their personalities were. Look at Jon and Kate from the Jon and Kate Plus 8 show. You can tell on their first episodes that Kate is a control freak and Jon is laid back. But apparently they couldn't tell.

There are many reasons behind this, This could be anything. Right from misunderstanding, disliking, intolerance, ignorance, etc. According to my point of view, the reason could be also money, physically and emotionally abusive. A cheating spouse is also a reason for a divorce. The feeling of distrust or betrayal that comes in the relationship. Some couples didn't agree this but if handled everything with care, it could be stopped. Thanks.

I would say the main reason for a couple to get divorce is lack of understanding, sometimes stress... They cannot be able to face their problems as a couple anymore.

I think money an dstress end a lot of relationships. Maybe a spouse was seeing aomeone else....as far as friends seperating--that just happens as you get older, doesnt always seem to be a reason...we just grow apart and have families and dont stay in touch. It's sad really. Best wishes to you hun.