Do you think I should join in the argument with our family to defend my mom?

Tough situation for you, jamzy. Word of advice, don't join in the discussion. Let the siblings sort their problems themselves. They have issues that are deeply rooted. Somehow, they have to come full circle, on their own terms. You can only support your mom. Help out with the caring for your grandma. She is in deep pain. As to the finances, kneel down and ask God in desperation. He answers in ways you wouldn't even have thought of. My prayers with you.

What a bad and tricky situation it is. I urge you not to confront your Auntie the way you think. Try to reason with her or call someone close to your Auntie (a friend or hubby) and pour out your feelings so that they communicate to her. I hope after talking to her, she will understand and forget the wrongs committed. What is it that after so many years people still live to remember and pick on quarrels? I wish your mum all the strength from Almighty God to put her through all this period and gather the courage to face life's tests. I wish her personal good health and a continued spirit of maturity in caring for an old woman. Pass this on to her. God bless her and your grandmother.

Hi, My Mom and my Dad also have a big family. My Dad side, he is the only one who take care of sisters and brothers cuz he lost his parents long time ago. And his sisters and his brothers also married, but they still want to take advantage over my DAD. I dont know why, all I know is my family here and no more help for or from anyone. everyone at my Dad's side hate my mom so bad cuz they know that my mom asked my dad to stop helping them. How could you help someone that already has family, job and money? what else do they want from my dad. whenever my mom leave the house to the US, they will come and live in my house until my mom comes back. they also told me to keep money with them just in case of emergency ... they way they talk just like I am so dump or something. In your case, if they come over my house and argue with my mom like that... I will fight back for sure. Well, if she knows better then she is not going to do that to your mom. She is her sister, not someone else. I bet she is well educate and know what is right and what is wrong. If she feels bad about something then she can talk to your mom nicely, not argue. If someone argue and show all the attitude like that already she/he never think you are their family anymore, that's why they dare to do that. I dont care if I talk back to my aunt or not, but patient has limited. I want my mom to be healthy and not sick cuz of that scream... so, first I will ask her to leave nicely and if not... let dont think I am a bad kid... Im sorry, to hear that and hope thing get better for u soon ok

If there was no heart problem at all then I would not interfere. But in this case, there is this concern of suffering from something that is dangerous. I would talk with them most especially to your aunt and tell her about what you feel and hope that she will listen. Do it in a manner with respect considering that you know what it is here in our country when you talk to adults most especially to our relatives. I do hope that you will be able to resolve the problem and wish you good luck. Problems of long ago should be forgotten for it only add more weight to the current problem.

This is s hard one and personally one you must decide myself I know it for myself normally I voice my opinion but when it comes to family well that is something well sometimes even when one wins they still lose especially being sisters there sometimes is a history there one that may not all be known like my sister although we get along she is one of the few people around who can say many things to me that another never would but that is because of our past so i would honor your moms feelings unless it is something you really need to do then be ready for some conflict from both sides

If you couldn't find a better solution,don't quarrel.after all,you and she is familly members.moreover,I think your grandmother falls ill in bed is not willing to see such reality!calm ,calm,calm down again.I believe that you will find a good way to solve this question!

Hello friend, Hats off to you and your mom for taking care of the grandma. And yes, I do believe you should step in. there has to be a point where you draw a line. I am sure your mom would not say anything to her because she is such a nice lady. But, if you do not answer back then the auntie would keep gaining strength and confidence, thinking that she can say whatever she wants to. All the best and I really pray for you that things come back to normal.

i agree with kling above, it would be hard to argue with adults especially if they are your aunts, as they would always make themselves right and you wrong. and also you dont know if you argue with your aunt while your mom is listening because you want to defend her, she may have an attack or something and it will get worst. i think you should talk to your aunt personally. i know how you feel about defending your mom, i am like that too with my mother.

Hi Jamzy, I think that probably you should stay out of it. I think your mother needs to find her own voice when it comes to her own family issues. You need to let your mother handle things with her family.