Is goodbye too hard to say?
By beaushell
@beaushell (339)
Philippines
June 28, 2009 10:19pm CST
I wonder why friends just sometimes leave... without even saying goodbye!
Did they just forget the great memories you had for a long time? The times of fun together, the hardships you both endured, the mistakes you both commit, the failures you both strongly face, the lessons learned and the victories you celebrated.
Does it fade like the color of a good picture?
Didn't they know how it hurts?
Didn't they care that you think about them with so many questions in your heart? As to who is to blame... or how you offended him or her in any way?
Don't they know it feels crazy to keep thinking and never getting answers?
Don't they care anymore of what is happening to you or if you are still alive?
I really feel its unfair.
Why can't they just say, they don't want to see you anymore or they don't have anything to do with you?
Why not say GOODBYE? What a cowardly thing to do!
Have you been in this situation? Are you the one left behind or the one who left a friend?
10 responses
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
30 Jun 09
i think sometimes its really hard to say goodbye...especially to someone we love...
maybe some did not say goodbye coz they don't want to...coz they think that it is not really goodbye.
some didn't say goodbye because of the urgency of the situation...
some don't coz they don't have courage in doing so...they don't want to see someone hurting in their goodbye...
if you know that he/she is leaving, why not be there for them before they go and be the one to do the thing? but for me, i don't want to hear good bye...coz when someone leaves, i am always hoping for them to comeback...so when someone leaves i just tell them to take care and hope to see them again...
@beaushell (339)
• Philippines
30 Jun 09
We were good when she left, we didn't say goodbye because we believe its just temporary actually. We were communicating even she is out of the country as constant as the clock. She almost seem very near because we don't miss anything about what is happening to each other.
But one day it stop suddenly. No preamble. No warning signs. Just stop.
That is the part I don't understand till now.
That is what hurts.
I believe she has reasons... maybe even valid ones. And Im trying so hard to understand...
But still the pain won't go away.
@sauman2006 (125)
• India
29 Jun 09
Why would somebody bid farewell. Its like signing off or bidding adieu for ever .True friends never say goodbye to each other because the tenacity or the strength of their bonds is not determined by the extent of the distance that separates them . They might be residing in two different corners of the world but they will rush to your help if you are in trouble .
Also sometimesd its too difficult to say goodbye . It might happen the other person is waiting for you to take the first step and vice versa and you end up not saying good bye at all . People in general have inhibitions in displaying their emotions for the fear of being ridiculed . Next time one of your friend leaves why dont you be proactive and take the first step . It will make things a lot easier and less painful
@beaushell (339)
• Philippines
30 Jun 09
Sauman please don't misunderstand, I am hurting because I did all I can to pursue her... I emailed, texted, called her even just to reach out to her but to no avail. I tried asking even her family who knows me real well and can only feel sorry for me because of what I'm doing just to somehow talk with her! But I don't understand all the hiding stuff... I even write every year on her birthday.
Its just one day someone told me, that the most difficult person to look for are those who deliberately hide from you...
Its very sad to admit it... but i guess what he said was the truth.
I always liken friendship to a chain, whether one link was weakened or become rusted, it never really make a difference. She is still part of the chain, no matter what i do... She is and will always be part of my life...
I guess what i can just do for her is to pray for her... and that I believe is enough for now.
@rymebristol (1808)
• Philippines
29 Jun 09
absolutely yes, specially when are so attach to someone or it's against our heart to say goodbye. feelings can really trick us, it can blind us to the truth.
@bingchen (1119)
• China
29 Jun 09
real friends it is not easy to say goobye.when my friend leave here to other place
to work, let my heart feel so sad.i am the man treat feeling deeply.in fact,depending real relationship from a lot of people,have confidence between us there is not easy.the relation come through timeand time again and let you know my
friend chacrater, his moral, his intrest,his cordiality.so you can accept him to be your friend,and he often give me advice and help let me exciting,there is not easy for me to meet a good friend.when my friend leave me one day,i can imagine that my feeling is sad.it is not to say goodbye to him.
@mssabirami (44)
• India
29 Jun 09
Its very difficult to say goodbye to a friend who is leaving us. Me and my friend are staying together for nearly 2 years. Tomorrow we are departing, Since she is leaving to pursue her higher studies. I came to know one month before that she is leaving me. Literally from that day daily i am crying. I could not imagine a world without her. She was my world. Now a days i show anger on her, since she is going to leave me. I love her. I took care of her nicely. When I am typing this also tears are coming out of my eyes. I cant say GOOD BYE to her. I feel like my heart is being cut and taken out of me.
@beaushell (339)
• Philippines
29 Jun 09
My heart goes out with you guys... and I appreciate your honesty and your sharing to me your situation... My situation is with my bestfriend from highschool since college even beyond,that is the reason I shared this to you... It has been nearly 4 years now after she left...But i still feel the pain in my heart... so I can understand you responding with tears on your eyes even now...
What really confuses me too is we don't have any conflicts or any negative experience that would cause her to just leave...
She still go home from time to time... because she works abroad. But never communicates with me or any of her friend at our hometown. She just kept it a secret. Imagine that? Now I heard she is married and have children... Could have been one of the many reasons to celebrate with friends huh?
@pratheep87 (1227)
• India
29 Jun 09
Yes its so hard to say good bye to loved and close person. I completed my college life last month and i felt so bad to tell good bye to my college friends.
@italysmom (308)
• United States
29 Jun 09
Well, It depends on if they are moving away... they heck yea they should say goodbye... but often times, people just kinda drift apart, its not that they dont want to be around you.. life just sometimes gets in the way.
@John4Christ (1597)
• India
29 Jun 09
Sometimes that goodbye can be more hurting than to say that word and leave.......I have had some issues with one of my friend recently, but then we mutually know that something is just not working right, but still we can say that goodbye as we have been together for quite a long time now and we both cant stay without talking to each other we are so used to it......But i feel saying "Goodbye" is not the only way to part ways or go by, there are things which can be sometimes felt, saying "goodbye" can mean bye forever, but then they might just be waiting for the right time for things to settle down and get back to your life, it has happened to me, we keep fighting but in no time we are again, many times i thought that I will tell a goodbye for good, but it just don't seem to work for me.......and i am glad i didn't, coz if i did I would not have still been friends with her !!!!!
