Do you trust people in your office and see them as friends?

the last job i have is a very nice place for work, we are just 5 in the branch and i can say that we were able to build a good relationship with each other, i am the newest in the office that time and i find them very nice and supportive, they are helping me to learn faster, and our boss is very nice encouraging us to do more to achieve our goals and get promoted someday. there are times that we get some misunderstandings, some gossips, some issues but its nice that it is solved right away...and so i trust them and treated as a friend. since we are deployed in different branches we were able to meet different office mates but as far as i remember i never encountered back stabbing office mates...we are helping each other out to achieve the company's goal and although all of us wanted to be promoted, we still are good to each other and practice healthy competition...and our boss have a big part on it...coz she always reminds us that if we are not promoted by this time...maybe its not yet for us and our time will surely come... if i am going to work in an office like what you have now, maybe i will be more careful in everything, i will still be good to all of them around and just do my work and will not say anything against anybody there...maybe i will just play safe... never trust too much...coz anything too might harm us...

Hi there simesc! There are very few people in the office that I consider my friends. All the rest are not as trustworthy. I have been in the company for a little over eleven years. In those years that I have been there, I saw how people back stab each other. I saw how people start intrigues. In fact, I have experienced being backstabbed by someone whom I have considered my friend for those eleven years that I have been in the institution. Sad, but true...

In my entire life. I just worked once and one thing I've notice is they don't want me. I mean they want my company but they don't want to be with me when they have their boyfriend along with them. I have also a boyfriend that time but they seems to be jealous when one of their boyfriend talk with me. They are not a real friend.

Trust is something that has to be gained over time. There are different levels of trust and work is a place where there are social boundaries. I am fortunate to work in a place where people are somewhat mature but that doesn't mean it is appropriate to tell them all of the intimate details in my life.

I think people in offices can be trusted as much as anyone else. Everyone has their own personality and ability to handle stress. I think the presence of this stress is a key factor. People may try to undermine another person's accomplishments in order to make themselves look more successful.

Well in my office I must tell you that i have 2 friends a guy and a girl, I really trust them and they havent failed me... with the other persons in the office i don't like them, like you said they backstab and talk bad, or just step into someone they dont like and meake them lost the job... I find it hard, I think you can have friends, but in that enviroment you have to be very selective, otherwise you could be betrayed.

I've had both experiences. At one of my old jobs, my boss and I became close friends. She was supportive during a very difficult time in my life and was there to pick up the pieces when sometimes I was a mess when I showed up for work. Then I found out after I had left my husband, that she had been having an affair with him. I had confided my escape plan from him, and she told him as other things I had confided. When I started the job where I work now, I didn't want to make friends with anyone. I didn't want to trust anyone. But after getting to know people at work, I could tell who I could trust and with whom to be polite and friendly but nothing more. One of my closest friends is married to an abusive man and going through a lot of what I went through. Kind of ironic, I guess. My sweetie I met through work, and we are currently living together.

hi simesc, i have worked in the office some 16 years back, i trust all the staff there because there are 5 including me with boss,but all are trusted persons, just like me, thanks

I think you don't have any idea about managements, organization and development? Your so doubtful about people in your surroundings. Are these people in your office, something wrong about them. Are these people, done anything wrong with you? It is not good to say that you don't trust people around you. That is your office, you work in that office and you need to be friend with people in that office to make you grow and develop yourself. If you don't trust yourself, and don't trust them. How they can trust you either? Think about it my friend. It is good for not trusting anyone while you are a new member in that office? Did your boss, believes you if your not trusting it? You need to trust people in your office, my friend. Because your boss, is also people. For me. I trust people in my office...About you?

back when i was working i've had an experience like yours in one of the places i worked for. i quit. i think if people in a workplace cannot treat each other as family then you cannot trust anyone. you spend time with them more than you do with your own family, right? i mean you maybe home longer than the usual 8 hour work but most of the time you're at home you're sleeping most of your time there, right? i mean there should be a friendly competition in a workplace.

I dont think they are my top friends. we talk and associate with one another, but I do not let out my biggest secrets. I have been at my current job for about 6 years now. I dont hang outwith my coworkers outside of work. I try to keep my private life separate from my personal life just so that my work life doesn't evolve into my personal life. I think it is a good idea to get along with the people that you work with, but I think it only makes things harder to be friends with those people because more than likely you wont spend your whole life with one job and you dont want any hard feelings.

its very hard to trust these days.probably this is the reason why people are having the hard time to trust each other. we just have to be ourselves. if they dont want to be friends with you i guess its fine. its not your lost because right people will come to you at the right time. but if they knew how good you are as a person then they will have the initiative to get near to you.

i always saw things rosy pink but thats not my case about a problem i had at work. you might think that everyone at work wants to be friends but not all of them do. some of them are out there to get you fired. they do not want you there. they want to be the best. i am such a nice and friendly person and people run me over all the time. that is why i have changed with my character. i don't let people do this to me no more. i hate it i am the nice one and people treat me bad. what is up with that?????? you can only trust so far but not all the way. just watch your back and you will be fine.

It really very difficult to find a friend especially when you are at work where competition is very evident. People surrounding you don't want you to excel basically for the fact that they dont want you to be ahead of them in terms of status. I actually treat the people surrounding me as my competitors. No strings attach because they cant help in any means in terms of my job and others. It quite very difficult to find a friend. Actually I have only one friend at work, he is indeed my one and true friend. The rest are just my pawns! hahahah Because mostly of my colleagues at work are actually jealous! aim high friend, just find that one true friend of yours and keep it for the rest of your life.

I don't really think that you can. Everyone where I work seems to be a backstabber too. People will seem nice, and then they'll side against you later. Especially now with all the lay offs. It's every man for himself!

I do trust a few people that I work with; basically two people. The company told us to confide in each other with aspects of the job so there are two that I turn to and they turn to me. We even talk outside of the job environment. One actually wants to date me, I have to figure out what to really do.

A great topic. I learn great things from the questions posted and I think I ahve to agree, friends in office is just friends in office and I cannot make them as personal friends. Too many things at risks. But still I will be nice to them, and treated tthem nice even after back stab me, but still I will keep my mouth shut as much as possible and only rant to the person I know and trust only. But same work as me? Never.

Hello simesc, I think I am in the same situation as you. I don't trust people in my office to see them as personal friends. There is so much office politics going around in the office. I find that most people in the office put on a mask and they are not their true selves. I should say that I am one of them too. I don't reveal much about my personal life to the people in my office. I must also mention that when I was younger and fresh into working society, during that time I really treated people in my office as my friends. But as I grow older, I become more aware and careful dealing with people in the office. Sometimes, I wondered whether I am been too over protective of myself. Hmm.....

Humans are social animals, and just like many other social animals in nature, we only asociate with others when it suits our needs. However, since our goals are much more complicated than acquiring food or a mate as with other more primitive social animals, we tend to have much more complicated relationships with colleagues that might be more love/hate than a true friendship. We may need someone for their connections to others, but spurn them for their general attitude about treating customers. Hoever, we aren't full on enemies with these people because we need them.

I personally do not ever trust anyone in an office. I believe that when a co-worker confides in me, that it should stay with me, but I have had to learn the hard way that I cannot trust co-workers. I will be polite and may even become a kind of friend. I will still go out with co-workers, but I do not give them anything to talk about and sure do not let them in on anything that I would not want the rest of the company to know about. I find that when you keep your life seperate to an extent, you enjoy your job longer.