Children's mind and divorce
By megha_gupta
@megha_gupta (132)
India
June 29, 2009 9:46am CST
These days the institution of marriage has been destroyed so much that people take marriage as a joke, they simply get married and then after a few years walk out of it. Major reasons being infidelity.
Who do you think suffers the most in a divorce?? Children. How their mind gets corrupted from the idea of marriage and they grow up not believing in the idea of marriage because they have seen their parents cheating on each other, shouting etc. Their very belief in love is shattered.
What do you guys have to say how children should be dealt and couselled during a divorce??
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2 responses
@kangel48446 (507)
• United States
29 Jun 09
I'm also going through a divorce right now, with two minor children right in the middle of it. My 3 year old daughter is hurting the most out of it all because she doesn't understand what's going on. She knows that her dad is no longer here. [He moved out May 3rd, 2009 && is now living with his new girlfriend.] She has a lot of separation issues with me now, && I have to reassure her that I'm not going anywhere. My 23 month old daughter is not as affected by all of this. She goes on about her day, without a care in the world. This is how it should be. Our children shouldn't have to be thrown in the middle of it all && it saddens me because this isn't what I wanted for them.
@megha_gupta (132)
• India
2 Jul 09
I am really sorry to learn about your divorce. I feel very bad for your daughter who has to deal with all this at such a young age when she doesn't understand a thing. I guess you should talk to her about it. Tell her you are not going anywhere, please make sure you are always with her. She should not lose faith in love!
@royal52gens (5488)
• United States
29 Jun 09
I am going through a divorce. My child is having a very hard time with the situation. The more I try to console her the more my ex confuses her. My heart breaks to see this happening to my child. I love her so much. I know she needs counseling from an expert who is impartial. I only want the best for my child. I don't like her being in the middle of the situation. I try to keep her protected from the court things and my ex keeps trying to drag her into it. It is not fair to her. This is not her problem to deal with. I don't make her any promises but my ex makes a ton of promises to her. It is frustrating. My child should not be put in a tug-of-war. She should be allowed to be a child.
@megha_gupta (132)
• India
29 Jun 09
Oh! that's really sad. I am sorry to know about your divorce. It is completely wrong on your ex's part to make false promises to your child while you are going through this tough time. If at the moment your girl lives you, you should try talking to her, tell her the truth if she is old enough to understand, whatever is the reason for your divorce etc. Tell her all about it only if you think she is old enough to understand. But if she is not then I think you should meet an elderly person whom your daughter really trusts and explain the situation to that person. I am sure that person will guide your daughter into the right direction (make sure s/he is unbiased)
If you think all this is not going to help then i strongly recommend that you go out for professional help!
I hope you get out of all this trouble soon and whatever is best for your daughter she gets it. Take Care!
