Who will u choose? Parents or bg/gf?

Why can't you have both? Parents can't make relationship choices for you. I don't see why you can't have school and a relationship as long as you stick to your school work. Stay strong and do what you think is right, in the end you are in control of your own destiny.

if the both of you really love each other why not fight for your love on your parents.

Hi Pren,^^, you choose a hard question.Hehe... Well, for me I will follow my heart, if my parents going to hate me because of that, I still and follow my heart, I never let that the time will come that my conscience hurt my ear because of letting go my hearts happiness. Happy mylotting!

i also tried that situation but he was my schoolmate,i was still 13 that time,i was older than him maybe 3 years.he courted me because he said he loves and likes me so. i also feel the same way too.we have a secret relationship my parent doesn't knows about us.but they feel that i was hiding something to them.many people notice our secret relationship and we still both denies it.our relationship was on and off.till my parent knows about us i told everything and i fought for our relationship till both of us went to college and i found out we are never meant to be.because i choose the men i want to get married with w/c is older than me who does have a stable job and a good future and i love him more than my bf.now im very happy and i realize that my parents are really right at all!

Come on we all know how paranoid parents can be about their kids . They tend to miss the fact that their kids have grown up and no longer needs their hand holding . Even if they have issued a strict directive about relationships I dont think things can snowball so much out of control that one has to choose between his or her parents and the object of his or her desire. If expained properly they can always see your point because they are your parents and as a result of that they are more matured unless one's parents are the Hitlers (no pun intended) . But you have to substantiate your argument . Great grades might be that irrefutable proof

i'm kinda in the same situation. my parents don't want me to be with my boyfriend. i followed my heart though and started dating him. it was the best decision i have ever made. we are getting married and despite all the things that i have to go through with my parents and my family, i wouldn't go back and not be with him. i dont' see it as 'choosing' between your parents or a guy. your parents should support your decision and want you to be happy. i know from experience that my parents say they just want me to be happy and are worried about me, but your parents, as well as mine, should know they did a good job in raising you and if you choose to be with a guy when they don't think you should, they should know they can trust you. i'm so happy i followed my heart cuz now i have the man of my dreams and my mom is starting to come around to the idea and i couldn't be more psyched!

It is a tough situation to be in when you are stuck between your family and your boyfriend or girlfriend. You can show your parents that a person can have a boyfriend or girlfriend and focus on studies. I mean my ex helped me with my homework and wouldn't come over until I finished my studing. If a person you care about maybe love doesn't understand the importance of studies like your parents do, then he isn't worth it.

I would personally show my parents the utter most respect and I will respect their wishes, however if I fell deeply in love with that person and they fell in love with me and we both wanted it to go further(as in marriage), I would talk with my parents about it. If it was the type of situation where the two people really wanted to end up getting married and they couldnt see each other with anyone else, I could see putting it off until you finish your studies, still have a relationship but leave the intimate stuff until later on. If you dont see that person as the person you can spend the rest of your life with, then obviously its not worth making you parents angry. Because in the end, he is just a guy and he will walk out of your life sometime (if your not meant to be) but they will always remain your parents who love you and want the best for you! ;) Better to let someone who doesnt mean that much to you go rather than anger your rents..trust me

I think I wouldn't tell my parents that I have a boyfriend until I'll graduate from college. In that way, they will not find out about it, but I have to make sure that I will really find time to study. I should be more focused on my studies and I have to make sure that I will get good grades, so they will not be mad at me if ever they will find out about my "secret affair"...at least I can tell them that I'm doing good with my studies and having a boyfriend will not hinder me to finish college, right?

Well why don't you talk to him about it too.... let him know that you are a little torn and let him know how your parents feel. See what he thinks about it, see if he's willing to wait or if it's a "now or never" kind of thing. But when it all comes down to it, the decision will be up to you. There is nothing wrong with following your heart, just make sure that's what is best for you.

I would follow my parents advice not to involve myself in a relationship while studying in college. May be get to know each other and mutual understanding with someone will do for be as long as there are no commitments on the side. I experienced that before and it is very hard especially if along the way you'll break up with your girlfriend your academic performance will be affected moreover if you are running for honors.

it depends. parents can be really paranoid sometimes and think that if their child starts to have a bf/gf, it would affect them negatively. i say, prove them wrong. :) if you really like someone and you know that you are going to be happy with him/her around, then why would you keep yourself away from it? it all depends on the person's attitude and not whether he/she has a bf/gf. be responsible. :) but... if you really want to impress your parents and you can do away with a bf/gf then that's good too. depends on your choice, basically.

Why not? What if he is the man of your dreams? I understand their concern. If you get too wrapped up in this relationship it could negatively affect your studies. And if/when you break up, it will probably also negatively affect your studies. But if its what you want then I say go for it. You only live once and a life without love is no life at all. Maybe make it a point to study together (but actually study together ;-) haha) Good luck! I hope it works out for you.