How long does it take you to give in?

My family would love to have a pet. Thankfully, we are not allowed to have any. We could have fish I suppose, but I am not even in a hurry for that. Even when I lived in a place where I could have pets, my thought on the matter was that I would have to be the one to take care of it and I have enough to do already. My kids always protested and swore that they would do the work, but the one time I did give in, the dog ran away never to be seen again. So, now, I use the same basic defense against the idea. First of all, we are not allowed and second of all, I have enough to deal with wothout adding more responsibility to me. So far, I am winning, it has been four years since we have had any pets whatsoever. I know that once we find a place that will be ours rather than renting from someone else, I will lose the battle more easily. In your case, I think that if you know that you will be the one who has to shoulder the responsibility then you should be the one who decides when the time is right. That is something you will just know. I have become pretty good at standing my ground, but I am not beyond having a soft heart and giving in. If you believe that your husband and kids will actually help care for a dog, then maybe it isn't such a bad idea. If you know that it will all be placed upon you, stand your ground until you are ready.

Well if it was my girlfriend asking then I cant refuse her anything.... I just love her that much that I can actually agree on what she wants.. and if it would be too hard for me to accept this then I would ask her certain reason why she want that thing then maybe I would eventually give in to what she wants if I find the reason logical

HI, Well I have to say I got rid of my dog last year, I had no choice, he was damaging everything, I thought he woudl be better off with someone who had the time to give him more attention as I was so busy with my children, although he was walked three times a day when I went shopping without him he pulled the door off my brand new fridge and broke my door and pee'd all over my bed, was getting really exhausted with the behaviour. I think rather than giving hints you should be open and tell him that you are no way ready for a pet yet but will get on ein the future and at the moment you are enjoying a pet free home. Try telling him that you feel the children may suffer as a result of your attention having to go towards a new dog and that when the kids are a bit older you will reconcider. I would definately put my foot down if I was not happy with the proposal. Good luck, men can be stubborn bit women have the patience to persevere and eventually get our own way.

It depends really on how I feel about it. If I'm 100% certain that I don't like the idea, I wouldn't give in even if he's going to scream his head off! hahaha.. But if it's something that I'm 50-50 about, then perhaps I could be swayed to his direction. I am not easily convinced though, you must be able to convince me by giving be objective points and weigh in the positive side more than the negatives. But once I'm convinced, I don't regret my decisions. But of course, each one of us has a red button. If you know what mine is, regardless the 100% strong and firm decision, I could do a 360 degrees turn, that is, if you know how to push that red button. Sadly, my partner knows how. hahahaa.. By the way, isn't living in an apartment kind of a difficult position to have a pet?

Normally i give in too easily and sometimes that damages me also i take hints very quickly and sometimes it pleases my freinds and family too cos they dont have to coax me into getting something for them or doing somehting for them..but well for ur situation i think having a dog pet wont be a problem.Dogs are good pets (we have 5 at home) and im sure the kids will love the idea of a new comer and that applies to u as well.

Why not get a dog? It's nice to have pets in your house, specially a dog. They're nice companions and burglar alarm as well. =)

As long as it takes for him to convince me this is a well thought out and researched decision and not an emotional one. Some of the things that need to be decided are: Male or female? Puppy or adult? Purebred or mutt? Small, medium, or large? Who will be responsible for the care: water, food, vet, exercise, obediance training, cleaning up the "poop", etc? Do you want an active dog that is full of energy or one that is happy to just "chill" every now an dthen? Does anyone in the family have pet allergies or is someone afraid of dogs? Do you want a dog that is friendly toward other animals (you might want another cat someday)? When he can convince you that everything has been taken into consideration (and it is not all going to be dumped on you); that is the time to start looking for a dog for the family.

I'm in the same position you are, pretty much LOL I had a wonderful scottish terrior/bichon mix for years and years. He had to be put down a couple of Christmases ago because, in his old age and less than perfect health, he snapped at a groomer that hurt his ear and, because she said he went after her and tried to bite her, I lost him :( In any case, I haven't been ready to get another dog, in spite of all the pressure I get around here to have one. I am self-employed and work from home so the common perception is that, naturally, I have all the time in the world to tend to a new dog (I even get this pressure from my sister! She has a zoo over at her house ROFL and she somehow thinks I should have one too). Now, don't get me wrong... I know in my heart that I will have another dog someday... it's just not the right time. A dog is a serious commitment. Years of commitment, actually, that should never be taken lightly... and until I know that I can give one a "forever home," I'm going to be the hold-out.