Men or women - who is happier ??
By K.Rajib G.
@krajibg (11922)
Guwahati, India
June 30, 2009 2:52am CST
Though they might claim men are more disturbed and unhappy than women and therefore women's life span is longer than that of men. Besides women are more tolerant ( with some exception). This is purely subjective statement and no outer source or survey has been taken into.
Now what would you say? Am I correct, partially correct or not correct at all? Please share.
Rajib. 30.06.09
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27 responses
@subha12 (18441)
• India
1 Jul 09
It is difficult to categorize like this.In many cases women had to withstand many hurdles than men. They become habituated in many cases.Similarly in cases, men have to think much in many cases or take responsibility. its relative matter.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
2 Jul 09
Hi, subha,
No, this is not the cases. I wanted to say something else rather. It was the subconscious and conscious mind of the men and women that determine the level of happiness. Just few minutes - concentrate on this matter and you too would agree that essentially women are happier than men are.
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@rosdimy (3926)
• Malaysia
2 Jul 09
I beg to differ a bit on this matter. I know of several unhappy females who live to a ripe old age.
It is the physiological differences that play a part in determining the life span of a person. For example men and women react differently to the same chemical.
Other factors include diet, lifestyle, profession, climate, and air quality. They are to a certain extent interrelated. For example there are women who die young because of the harmful chemicals used in the food that they eat. It used to be men who drink a lot, and smoke excessively. Both are known to cause health problems, shortenig a person's life span.
Psychological factors do play a part, but in my experience, not much.
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@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
2 Jul 09
Hi rosedimy,
I do not say you are wrong in your diagnosis of the mater. But my point was not to place them in different socio economical milieu and see if or not they are happy. Lets go a journey into the psychology of women and men as well. What we would find is that women folk - be in condition are relatively happier than men, granted that they are given one time meal only. But men would not be happy at all.
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@Canellita (12029)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I think the reason that women are seen as more tolerant is that women are the ones for the most part who have to manage children so they must develop a great amount of patience. In many instances women are the ones who plan ahead and think things through and men seem to be emotional and want instant gratification. They tend to behave more like children and some even through tantrums.
I believe it is because many women simply have no choice because of the roles they play but because they have learned how to deal with things efficiently (those that are successful managing job and family either singularly or simultaneously) they have learned to not sweat the small stuff. (Unless they are immature.)
Men have more time for "play" and I have found that if they do not have children they are not usually complete as grownups.
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@geniustiger (1694)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
For me I think men and women are equal.
All of us be happy depending of what kind of life
we have today, tomorrow and yesterday. Men also feels
what women felt too. Thats why I say all are equal.
It differs only to our situation in life whether we are
happy or sad in bearing some trails and hardships.
@Darkwing (21583)
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1 Jul 09
I think women are probably built to be more tolerant, especially when they have children. However, there are those who are more disturbed, the same as the men are divided, so there's probably a pretty equal split, I would think.
Brightest Blessings, my friend.
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@iskayz (5420)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
Hi there!
Well no one is wrong or right here in mylot. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. For me, happiness of a person depends entirely on one's disposition. It depends on how one looks at life, with family, friends and with people who cares for him/her. Happiness depends a lot on what one wants in life and the satisfaction he/she gets. Happiness doesn't choose any gender. Anyone can be totally happy if they want to.
Now sadness comes along to everyone. It passes our lives whether we want to experience it or not. I think people must only learn to handle sadness, to be able keep a happy disposition in life.
Ciao!
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@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
2 Jul 09
Hi ciao,
I must appreciate your point. But here I am afraid you went wrong in reading my points. What I was trying to conevey was the metaphysical being of men and women and looking from there one would see that women are easily made happy whereas men are not.
This is a mind game and has nothing to do with status and money and richness or poverty. The essence is to look here not the exterior.
Thanks for the response.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
1 Jul 09
I have read statistics that state that the majority of women are not as happy being married as men are so that would mean that single women are happier than their married sisters which I can appreciate. Marriage usually means a lot more work for women whereas for some men it means moving from their mother’s pampering to the wives’ care.
It is subjective and it does depend on the individual but I do know that women are emotionally stronger and females express their emotions which is somewhat healthier than bottling up feelings which men are so good at doing.
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@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
2 Jul 09
Hi Paula,
A god inference. In many cases women are not happy in their post marital state. But if you segment parts of women psychology you would see that they are easily made happy which is not seen in men. and that men hide their emotion is harmful for their being and as women easily express their grief and bereavement pass off quickly.
Do not you think so?
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@mobhomeir (7558)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
Hello my friend. My knowledge of these is limited. What I just knew of women are tolerant in pains and patient compared to men. I guess you're correct..Thanks
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@daliaj (5674)
• India
1 Jul 09
I don't think it is easy to come to a conclusion tht men or women is happier. A person is happy depends on a lot of things. It depends on his or her personality, the finiancial condition, the surroundings, and a lot of other matters. Some people won't be happy with anything. They might want to buy a bike, when they get it, they will be worried that they don't have a car, if they get a car, they will be worried about not having a bus.
I think in genral women are more happier than men. This is because women talk about her problems to different people, cry out, and some how get relieved from problems. Women is good in multi-tasking and handling difficult situations compared to men.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
2 Jul 09
Hi,
You too seem to have read me wrong. What you are thinking is not my points. I do not say that in the real level of life those things do not count but here mu perspective was different.
If you do not mind please read the response above.
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@Kolla08 (48)
• United States
1 Jul 09
i think that men are allooottt more happier than women. I say this because men dont have to worry abotu as many things as women do. Women get all caught up in so many things when guys just DONT care. they dont think about what they are doing alot of times so they really dont get the chance to care. I believe that when you dont have a care in the world such as how CHILDREN are it is alot easier to be happy.
@lkumarldh (142)
• India
1 Jul 09
I dont think anyone of them happy. Actually gender does not decide one is happy or not. All is their family condition, life style, and job satisfaction are responsilbe for happiness. So you have asked a wrong question. So rather watching that which gender is happy you should ask who is happy and why. Sometime life partener also a criteria for happiness. If men and women have good life partner then both are happy and if not then no one of them can be happy. so eveything depends on situation dear.
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@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
2 Jul 09
Hi, I am afraid you misread me. I am not talking in terms of money and social status, I am focusing on the essential being of men and women and their mental set up to perceive happiness and it is seen that relatively women are happier.
I hope now you got my point.
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@divatwitta (10)
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1 Jul 09
i think men are more happy. The reason I believe this is simply because woman are carryers. We carry everything by nature. Men are the ones who release. They are the seed passers. So I believe they are happier than women because they know when to let go. Men know that when something is over its over. Women seem to drag that out. Men know how to move on. I believe life is about moving forward. Women think alot more than men and it means they have alot more to process then men. This means that they have to spend more time in one place. Where as a man would process the basics and go forward. Task done joy gained.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
2 Jul 09
Hi, I accept your points but if you peep into the inner races of the mind of women and men you would find women are more or less happier than men. The fact is that men hide their conscious self and hence anxiety ridden but women tend to express in any form.
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@frankiecesca (2489)
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30 Jun 09
Statistics do show women are apprently happier but, I say that it entirely depends on the individual and each gender can be as happy as the other if thye want to be! x
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
30 Jun 09
Hi krajibg! I really don't know if women are happier then men.
I never really thought about it! I actually think that it
just might be the other way around! I tend to think that men
have it easier then women do and therefore are less stressed!
Women have to in most case and in this economy, work and
take care of the home and the children which leaves them
even more stressed out then their male counterparts! So, I
would say that would leave men to be happier because they
have more free time to relax!
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@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
1 Jul 09
Hi Opal,
I do not say you are not incorrect. Here we need to reflect on the overall situation be it 19th century world 20th. Women are there. Lots of impositions have been posted on them but the collective conscience of the women self is above the male counterparts.
Men look overdone and exhausted. They feel they have lots of responsibility towards the family and all and he is not happy for his colleague is getting more than him? He is restless, you are not aware.
Unknowingly though you are happier.
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@silvercoin (2101)
• Lithuania
30 Jun 09
I believe that men are happier in the intimate life and career life.Women are happier in the family life.But the happiest people, my dear Rajib, are the dumbest ones.Who don't care what's going on around them.I haven't met a man or a woman who would be intelligent,deep-minded and very happy.
@Archie0 (5652)
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30 Jun 09
Well i think that it depends on every single woman and every single man not all are similar
some women are not tolerating while some men are not understanding.Some women suffer a lot mentally, while some men do it the same.Somtimes a man betrays woman, and sometimes does a woman.So we all are different in every aspect we cant judge everyone with one or two examples ata ll i think it depends upon their ownself or on their partner too that makes either one more happier.
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
1 Jul 09
Hi Archie,
What you have said do hold good but my point was not to compare them on this basis. I was rather emphatic on perception of happiness by each gender. What I have found is that leaving all odds aside women are relatively happier than men.
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@oindy54 (3445)
• India
30 Jun 09
Hi krajibg,
I don't think being happy depends on whether you are a man or a woman.Yes,it's a purely subjective statement,a mere speculation in my opinion.It all depends on a person's mental make-up and the circumstances that one is in and the experiences one has had in life.A woman may have all the cause to be unhappy due to her bitter experiences while a man may be having a smooth life and therefore may be gleeful.It's a general trend that has been noticed that women outlive men but there may be several reasons behind it.Generally men smoke and drink and women do not...I mean generally...that may be a cause for a longer life in the case of a woman.Also men do more hard work than women,that might lessen their life span.But I think unhappiness and disturbance varies from person to person,it cannot be determined by one's gender.What do you say?
@krajibg (11922)
• Guwahati, India
1 Jul 09
Hi oindy,
Nicely projected. know what, exceptions are there and they can never be the rules. You seemed to have overstepped the threshold and peeped more than you were supposed to or allowed to.
It is s question of being just happy or not happy. A equation. After observing several women and their way of life it felt they are more vocal and you know those who are more vocal suffer less psychologically and men are not so vocal. Women are happy with little but not men and if women are over ambitious today they are impregnated to be so by the mental force of men. And this is what I wanted to say.
Gustakhi Muaf.
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@ADB13money (90)
• United States
30 Jun 09
In my opinion I think men are happier. As I've seen in my life men are happier because they don't get attached to things and just don't care! Therefore they have nothing to be upset about. Does anyone agree?