Am I Doing The Right Thing? Please Someone Tell Me plzz
By Payout
@payout (3794)
United States
June 30, 2009 10:26am CST
(Gay Relationship) But Opinion Is wanted BAD*
Well I Decided to Isolate my Boyfriend. Leave him alone for over week not seeing him no talking really if we do I will make it fast.
If your wondering why am I doing this well it's because, I feel as if he doesn't enjoy me doesn't care anymore if I'm there. He rather go out with his friends then spend time with me or watch his favorite T.V shows then talk to me on Commercials.
I told him I'm going to do something that will probably might help us both. I said I'm going to leave for awhile not see you don't talk to you till July 7th.. I don't know why that Date but it was just there. Kept on popping up in my head.
He just laugh and said yeah right you wont do that you'll said that many times.. But I'm really really serious now.. He left with his friends last night instead of spending time with me. When he calls I'm not picking up I know it will be hard but I have to be strong and let him see how life will be without me.
I don't If I'm doing the right thing or not.. I'm afraid that he will just forget me and move on. Last time I did that to him for 2 days he came to my Dad House Drunk.
Please I need a answer me doing this will it help.?. I just need Help.?
8 responses
@Jill22 (263)
• Philippines
30 Jun 09
I haven't been in the same gender relationship but i can tell you that I do understand your situation. I just broke up with my boyfriend because he doesn't show care. Making money is his primary concern. And i just had enough cause no one had ever treated me badly regarding with relationships. I feel that you're doing the right thing to make him want you even more. Just stay strong and I know you will be able to pull it all together. And whatever is your plans and the things you want to happen, just pray cause everything will be given to you if you just Trust in Him and make Him a part of your life. If you know what I mean. Stay Strong!
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@payout (3794)
• United States
30 Jun 09
Wow.. Same Gender Relationships are sort of just like opposite gender relationships. BUt yeah My Boyfriend is like I need to work and make money to pay my bills. I don't have a job and I want one and need one bad.. to help him but to have something to do.. and be busy.. And get paid for it.
I told him I said even if your not with me I hope you will be a happy person I wish you will live a great life and be successful.
It's hard to love someone when you feel like they don't love you back. Hey says he does.. but he chooses his friends over me.. So I think me giving him time and let him do him but Not be part of his everyday life.. See how it is without someone helping you.
@Jill22 (263)
• Philippines
1 Jul 09
It's kinda hard when you both don't understand each other. And it even gets worser when the person you care the most don't give a damn. And You made that person a priority in your life and sad to say that your just an option. Sad right? But what can you do? You have to accept the person for what he is and for what he is not. If you really love him, then, you have to make sure that he is really worth the wait. Because there are a lot of people out there waiting for your kind of love to be experienced.
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@darkstormy1 (264)
• United States
30 Jun 09
At this point I think your intentions are sincere so yes you are doing the right thing but on the other hand what happens should he not show a difference by the 7th do you have it in you to walk away sometimes we have to let something go in order to keep it in the end and if he leaves finds someone else then it was never meant to be anyways it will hurt like heck but in the end it is for the best for there is someone out there that will treat you as you deserve to be treated Personally I think more and more people are afraid to demand to be treated decently not rudely but assertively in a way of saying yes I deserve to be loved i deserve to be happy I will not settle for being ignored you can choose to do these things and I will choose to move on confidence can be sexy thing on the other hand any person man or woman if they know they have a door mat at home they will walk all over them I am not saying this is your intent but it seems to me that is how your partner views you that you will be there when and if he wants you I dont know you but i think you deserve more than that how about you do you ???
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@payout (3794)
• United States
30 Jun 09
I told him when he was confused that I will wait for him forever. that I consider a confused person as a Sick person that you will be there for them till they get better. Even when they get better be there and make sure to keep them healthy and it doesn't happen again..
Eventually he took me back.. we are together and in the begin everything was working out then he started acting funny again.. I told him I'm scared I don't want get hurt and like he said he is Afraid he might cheat on me... I said that's scary when we get in a little fight he hurries up and talk to all these guys. I guess to get me mad.. or whatever but I said why can't you listen to music relax draw write how you feel. your angry will go away but no.. He does the complete opposite.
I feel as if I'm doing the right thing.. sometimes you have to things you don't want to do just to find out the truth... HE isn't honest with me.. so... I want to see how much he cares if I'm gone.. I told him yesterday when I leave your going to miss me
He thinks I'm joking about let him do him and not talk or See him..
@tlb0822 (1410)
• United States
1 Jul 09
I would defiantly go with your instinct on it. If he doesn't miss you after so many days of not talking to him, then there is a big problem in your relationship. It may even help him appreciate you more, to value the time when you two are together. Some people don't realize how great that time is and take advantage of it. After a few days I think he will be back, begging you to talk to him, and that he is sorry for not paying attention to you. Just go with your gut, and if things don't change, then he really isn't worth your time. Hope that helps.
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@hairypits (294)
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30 Jun 09
Gay or straight - a relationship is a relationship.
I think you need to sit down and think rationally about what you have suggested. How much time do you spend together regularly? Could it be that he is so comfortable with you that he doesn't feel the need to fill the silences - e.g. talking to you during commercials. My hubby and I have been together 11 years and can literally sit together in an evening and barely say a word to eachother. Just being together is enough for us to be comfortable with silence.
Also, regarding you saying he went out with his friends instead of spending time with you...he needs to be the person he was when you met, which would involve doing things he always did. As long as he behaves like someone in a relationship he's doing nothing wrong. He shouldn't have to wait til you have arrangements or have to ask your permission in order to go out, he is his own person and I think you "sound" like you need let him go a little in order for him to come back to you.
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@marguicha (222868)
• Chile
1 Jul 09
I am quite sure that same gender relationships are much the same as heterosexual ones. And it seems that your boyfriend is taking you for granted. That can be very dangerous to your self steem. Don´t let him do it. Remember, you can´t be capable of loving ANYONE if you do not love yourself first. Don´t be afraid. It is better that he moves on (you´ll find someone else) than to be his slave all your life.
I´m a 64 year old witch so I know
Take care.
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@acie_21 (5633)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
thats a very hard dicission.but for me just find a better man to replace him.and learn to accept the truth that he doesnt love you anymore.i can say this because of his actuations.thats very rude of him.you must leave him and move on.if you'll still stay to him he will just do this to you over and over again.yah,love is blind but love is also knows the right time to let go.this is for your own good and his as well.if you wont let him go he might not to this to you but how bout if he meets another person?he still continue doing this to the others.and never learn from his mistakes.
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@mkrishna22 (465)
• India
30 Jun 09
well, i would believe that it is not wise for others to suggest in this matter.
you know him and can decide which is the best method to handle him,but i would still believe that these are not great approaches. if you feel some distance growing, plan a holiday so that both of you get to spend some time alone. this will help your relationship.
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@EsmeraldaB (309)
• United States
30 Jun 09
If you feel that he has no more feelings for you that I think that is your answer.I say stay away,there are so many men that want to be with you.Yes it will be hard,and you will cry.But you cant cry forever.
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