Would it bother you to marry your bf if you were unemployed
By venshida
@venshida (4836)
United States
June 30, 2009 3:54pm CST
My BF being asking me to marry him for years, and I thought about doing it seriously the last month or so. My problem is I am unemployed have a mortgage etc, and I prefer to marry him if I was at least working part time. I have always being dependent, and I do not want to depend on him. Am I wrong to feel that way?
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5 responses
@swtpareek (650)
• United States
30 Jun 09
YOu are rigth in feeling that way. Marriage is a relationship that is life-ling and if one is not secure about the future then there is very little chance of a mental peace. I feel the same way. And I have told my bf that I'll marry him the day I become self-dependent. It really helps if both are working the mortgages, loans etc are not that easy to pay off. I hope you get a job perty soon and wish you luck for that.
@clutterbug (1051)
• United States
30 Jun 09
It's not wrong for you to feel reluctant, you are being responsible. I think I would wait and see what the future brings, as there is no rush is there? If he's serious he will wait, if not, then it wasn't meant to be. I had to learn this the hard way many years ago. Trust your instincts, or you might grow to resent him if you jump into something before its time.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
3 Jul 09
No, I don't think that it's wrong for you to feel that way. I can understand that your dependent on yourself and don't want to depend on him. I am the complete opposite though, with my fiance and I neither having a job, but we're getting married. It's all a matter of opinion. I think that since you have a mortgage to pay on your thinking smart for you so that you can be able to pay for that, and also the cost of the wedding, or however you are to be married whether it be a wedding or through the magistrate.
@pbrockington (500)
• United States
30 Jun 09
No you are not wrong for feeling how you do its alway good to be able to take care of your self. follow you gut feeling and get you in order. then work on your marriage plans.
@minckler104 (28)
• United States
2 Jul 09
If he wants to marry you employed or unemployed, then I don't think you should care. I just recently lost my job also, and my husband has been out of work on half pay for a few months for getting into a bad accident.. but things will work out! and things will work out for you also! I think you should marry him if you love him! Good Luck!! :)
