Would this drive you nuts?

Ya that is the thing that if you invite some one for dinner then you are paying the bill. It will drive me nut if some one embrace me like that what was happened to you. If i would have been in you place then i would have left the place at the same moment.

Maybe she was just being thoughtful and worried about you spending too much on her. It wouldn't bother me...but I would just keep telling her we're treating, and we really want to do this!!! Just enjoy it!!! Dawnald, I wouldn't complain!!! haha! LOL!!

Money are transitory, means they have volume only if you can share it with other people. I know what you mean. I have been in that spot. I invited people for sushi dinner and I knew the prices....but they seems to be shocked...but happy in the end...

I would just let it go. She probably isn't use to dining at a nice restaurant where the prices are a little higher then the fast food places. Maybe she just felt bad about spending your money too.

Maybe it was just a surprise to her, I haven't been out to eat in some time and I'm sure the prices have gone up a lot. To bad she didn't catch herself before she has an honest reaction, but don't take it so personally, she was just getting a grasp on reality not judging you. Unless of course I'm wrong and she ws thinking exactly what you thought she was.

well, it would definitely irritate me a bit. i would probably try and explain to her that it is ok and she can relax. but, if it persists, then i would really be put off.

I think that means she needs to get out more. Perhaps she was showing you that she was impressed, and just did a bad job of conveying that idea. I guess if you do that again you need to warn her that you know the prices and that it is okay. It was a little tacky of her to be that way, but, it happens.

You stated that she is 74 years old. That means she came into this world around 1935. There was a serious depression going on at that time. She probably grew up wondering if her family was going to eat every day. Prices, at the time, were MUCH LOWER than they are now. Prepare now, for the probability of the next special occasion by trying to get somewhere that you think she will like and see if the place will give you menu's without the prices printed on them, and tell them why, for the whole table. If she asks you why there are no prices on the menu you could say something like, "It's a special arrangement we have here, we do things for them, and they do things for us, kind of a barter system. What do you think of it?"

I think I would assume that she doesn't get out much and so feels she needs to put on a bit of an act because she feels self conscious. It wouldn't drive me nuts but it would annoy me, especially if she continued after I said not to worry about it.

To me, I try to buy an item that costs the least on a menu. I don't try to make it obvious but if I feel comfortable enough I tell them that I am looking for the item that is the cheapest. I realize even that can insult a person, whether you tell them or not. I think though that to be completely open with someone and do it in a rude manner is just wrong. The only reason I would ever look for a cheaper item is if I felt bad for having them pay for me, or if I knew they hadn't much money anyway.

Oh for heavens sake! Just shoot the woman!! My MIL is the same. She lives in end of line shops, pound shops, car boots and markets and takes the attitude that she can't justify spending money to have someone cook you a meal when you are perfectly capable of cooking something yourself. ROLLS EYES ANIMATEDLY

Hi dawny! Drive me nuts? Man, I think that it is a bit rude of them to have said so. You invite them for dinner, you pay, what is their problem? It is not their problem if you want to buy them dinner and they should be grateful!!

hi dawnald, i have not find any McDonald restuarant at our place, but i am not interested about that food, i am pure vegetarian, thanks

I do the same thing though. I went out with my boyfriend yesterday night and he said he was paying and when I see the prices I'm seeing $12-15 for a meal when I'm use to going somewhere that a burger is only going to cost me $8-9. So it wasn't that much more expensive but still when a dinner for 2 starts to go over the $30 mark for college students in this time I know there are better things to do with our money. So I wouldn't complain. I mean nobody needs to be spending $15 on a single dinner for themselves nowadays and if that's how it was then I agree with her. And seriously McDonalds - that's a pretty snotty comment. You could go somewhere like O'Charleys or Applebees - with a great atmosphere and it probably would of been fine.

i don't know if the person's being sensitive or if it's like sarcasm in a different way. It's like the person is challenging you. It's difficult to read these kind of people. These are the ones who are not so easy to please.. It's like in everything you do, they have something to say, It's irritating! lol

The "being foolish with our money" is only one interpretation. It might also have been her way of letting you know that she was impressed with you, that you can afford the money. Some people get uncomfortable when people spend money on them and may not know what to say. It doesn't mean they necessarily are putting you down. If she genuinely would never spend that kind of money herself, then she may have been at a loss for words. If someone I took to dinner gasped at the prices, I would take it as a compliment. What would be insulting is if they made it sound that I took them to a cheap place.

I'd have guided her to the cheapest thing on the menu and then let her watch whilst I stuffed my face with the moat expensive!

I agree, everyone has different views on spending and our in their own fin situation. I'll share an amusing story when I was trade school there was some young women in our class that were working as dancers to pay for school. They came in one day seems the night before some overseas business men were in town throwing around mega money ( thousands) One girl took the men aside asking if they know how much money they were throwing ( she thought they were drunk and being taken advantage of ) He told her to the penny and told her the exact amount they planed on spending. He thank her for her consern tiped her and went on his way. So just goes to show we all spend what we want how we want on what we think is important.

Personally I think that is rude and wrong. If someone invited you somewhere then that means they are treating you to it. If they did not have the money to treat you to it, they wouldn't invite you after all or maybe would have gone to a cheaper place. So in such cases if you decide to go, go, eat, have a good time and leave. I definitely agree with you, it is quite bothersome but I think you should just let go of it ... or maybe just take her to McDonald's after all :P!! Good Luck next time

First, when I read this i thought you was a guy that trying to win a woman over my talking her to an expensive restaurant and spending all your money on her(no like this would make the woman feel attracted to you) which is wussyness. But it only make scense right? To take a women out to fancy place and give her what ever she wants..WRONG THINKING..I use to do this but now I know what women want..A REAL MAN(NOT THE LITTLE BOY MOMMY TOLD YOU TO BE TOWARDS WOMEN)I can go on about this topic but I don't have much time. If you were a guys I was going to give you some advice. But then I found out that you were a girl that trying to do a good thing NO BAD..If you weren't married I would definitely took you out to McDonald's for our first get together. "Yea can I get two kid meals please"