Does the past relationships of your partner have an impact on you?

@laydee (12798)
Philippines
July 1, 2009 6:46pm CST
I'm just wondering. I am quite curious about my partner and would like to know him deeper. When I say deeper, I'd like to know his childhood, everything including the type of women he dated before me. I know past is past. But does it have an impact on you when you find out that he has dated promiscuous women? how about the number of women he has been with? Do these things affect you?
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dloveli
@dloveli (4366)
• United States
3 Jul 09
I used to think the past relationships didnt bother me. When my husband is talking to his kid's mother I do get a little jealous. I try to stay in the room. That was when we were in the beginnings of our relationship. Its five years later and I am the longest monogamous relationship he has ever had. I am very secure now.dl
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laydee
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
That's a very good thing. I should be reminded of that, I am his longest as well, but as for security, well my mind is really playing games on me at times, but I know it would take time before I could say I'm secure.
williamjisir
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
3 Jul 09
It does not have any impact on me since what has passed has passed. So it is the same with my wife. I used to have my ex-girlfriend and she had hers. We don't have any connections with them at all. We are enjoying our married life with our kids.
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laydee
@laydee (12798)
• Philippines
28 Jul 09
I guess if both are not doing anything to be linked to their past, then that's okay, otherwise, that would be something questionable.
lilaclady
@lilaclady (28207)
• Australia
2 Jul 09
I think it is good for partners to be able to talk about their past but I think if one of the partners wants to keep certain things to themselves, then that is ok too but i think it is a bonding thing to be able to share in this way.
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haiershen
@haiershen (1080)
• China
8 Jul 09
For me, i am also a quite curious woman, if i also want to know my partner deeper,but no matter what pass he ever had? it wasn't bother me, only want to know my partner completely,passed has passed said by william.forgot the passed and have a new life in the future is better for relationships or a family,good luck!
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Daae92
@Daae92 (75)
• United States
3 Jul 09
I don't think it would have an impact on me if I found out my fiancee had been with promiscuous women or men, it's the past and this is the present and in the present she is my girl and I am hers, simple as that.
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