Do you love your mother, how?
By zearah
@zearah (5381)
Philippines
July 1, 2009 10:09pm CST
The hormone "oxytocin" is related to familial bonding in animals and is tied to love and friendship in humans. Species that have more of it tend to develop stronger bonds.
Now scientist find that mothers with high levels of oxytocin during pregnancy bond better with their babies.
"When mothers touch or hold their infants frequently oxytocin is increased, and when mothers are prevented from touching it decreases. It is highly recommended that mothers engage in some form of touch after premature birth, such as kangaroo care or massage."
In what way, you could show to your mom how much you love her?
14 responses
@mreducator (93)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
Yes, I do, of course. I show it by telling her and by doing random things that could make her happy.
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@jeffreycito (4)
• Colombia
2 Jul 09
everyday, I talk to her by phone, the distance doesn't allow me to visit her daily, I always try to say her word as how caring and love her too.
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
hi zearah! yes i do love my mother! i love her so much...i owe her my life, i owe her who i am now...she's my idol, she's my best friend, she's my mom!
actually, i am not vocal in saying that i love her...actually i just said i love you to her in text messaging during her birthdays, mother days or their anniversary of my father...but in person i am not that expressive...i may not say any word to her in person, but i know she knows and she feels how much i love her...i am always there when she needs me, i comfort and support her in times of her sorrows, i cry with her, i laugh with her, i can't really tell how much i love her, no words are enough to express my feelings...but its okay for action speaks louder than words...
she's always a part of my prayers...and as much as possible when i am with her, i want every second in our life to be happy...even if i can't give her the material things that she might be needed...i am still happy coz more than anything else, i have given her is the stronger spiritual being...
by the way, thanks for the information that you have shared!
@zearah (5381)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
You're very much welcome! I'm learning here so I should be the one to say "Thank you". Girl every child love her/his mother in different ways. There are express and implied way to show or to let mother feel how much a love of a child toward here. And as you've mentioned that you're not expressive which falls to the second category. Well as for me the implied or through action is more effective way, yeah I agree with you" action speaks louder than words". I am curious girl as what had I heard to my friends she said that" a child could best feel or realized how much their parents loved when this child would have his/her own family too." Well as of now though I'm still single I can feel how much my mother loved me. Maybe then later when I'm a mother too, I would see more reasons why is such the mother's touch is unequaled and so meaningful.
@meapas (2436)
• India
2 Jul 09
Do all those things that she wants you to do as simple as that. It is said that a mother can look after 10 children with equal love, but 10 children together cannot look after her with that much love. But in our family our parents are every thing. They are our Gods. Our parents have taught us to love all, irrespective of age,gender,religion,location and social standing. We are living just the way she wants us to live, this is how we show her we love her.
meapas.
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@zearah (5381)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
Wow, I'm so impressed! Yes, to love all is what a person should do. You're correct, me in real life we are 5 sisters and 8 brothers, only 1 mother took care and nursed us. During fever and sickness she made everything for us. Once she was sick and no one noticed that day that she's not feeling well, only when she collapsed and fell in the floor. This how I could relate my experience to your message! Hope I got it right your point!
@acisMahrje (254)
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2 Jul 09
well i love my mother very much. i don't show it on the surface, but i do love her very much. I don't know how i love my mother, i just do. there doesn't need to be reason to love your mother.
well i show my affection, and respect her words,but that doesn't mean i do whatever she tell me to do.There's a certain way of say no to respectable people and i do that with my parents. I share my problems and help her when she needs me and that's how i show my love and respect.
happy mylottting zearah!
@zearah (5381)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
I understand your point acesMahrje, yes to love mother in your own way,loving a mother just came out without plan and rules to follow. There are times you' ll not as good as you want to be but a mother would always understand and consider your mistakes, sometimes she will explained what had you done is wrong but she's there to guide you to correct it, only due to immaturity some child tends to feel disappointment when mother talk.
Important is you love your mother and that respect in you towards your mother is great factor in loving a mother.
@spicysweetie21 (2573)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I show her in lots of ways, when I go places, i try to buy her something to let her know that I'm thinking of her. I also give her a lot of hugs, I think the closest and simple act that I love most with my mom is that sometimes I just need a hug and I know she will always be there to give me one. For the last couple of days I was out of town, but the first thing I did when I saw my mom was give her hug because she missed me and I missed her.
because she missed me and I missed her.1 person likes this
@ucue2008 (924)
• Malaysia
2 Jul 09
I try my best to be understanding of her, try my best to help her and satisfiedd her needs first than mine. I don't think I will mind because she the only mother I have. I laso wish to able to fulfill all her needs and be whenever she needs me. But as now I'm far, I try to listen to her each time I called her, and limit myself from telling her my problem here because I don't want she to worry about me. I also will pray for her and will always wish her happiness.
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@shikaymaru (700)
• Malaysia
2 Jul 09
I seldom show my mother that I love her through kisses and hugs. I prefer showing it through my achievement in life. Though I don't do whatever she prefer, I just want to make both of us happy. I want to show her that she taught me well through my successful career.
I don't like failing my mother expectation. ie: hurt her feelings. I love my mother.
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@zearah (5381)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
Aha! It means your not expressive, that's what you mean I guess. Well in one way or anther, most important is she knows how much you love her 'coz there are times mother needs that expression of love towards her. Like, my grandma she's longing for a love from her children same as during their earlier times, yeah! This is what I observed as they grow older oldies are tend to look for a love that is you have to express. Though you , in your case knows best for your mother.
@JamieRose (168)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
Touch therapy is proven a very effective way to show and make a son/daughter baby feel loved :)
I'm living with my parents now. I show my mom how much I love her by telling her about my day, sharing experiences with her, asking how her day went, etc. My family and I are really close to each other, and I try my best to make them feel loved whenever and however I can :)
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@zearah (5381)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
Yeah, there are so many ways to show her that you love her, in my own perception to be a good child, obedient and disciplined will be a way to let our mothers happy and in turn making a mother happy is same as you show your love to her. Well I am also a child and for me that's my way to show my love to my mother
@lkumarldh (142)
• India
2 Jul 09
Yes i love my mother very much and most in the world. Mother and son's realtion is top most relation in the world. This realtion is also purest relation too. I love my mother very much because she is very much caring too me. She loves me a lot. And she is always let me do what i want to do. She always help me in everyhting my mother is best mother in the world.
@puqimx (358)
• Malaysia
2 Jul 09
hello zearah....... yes... i do!! i love my mother... She is like friend for me,give me peace, my companion, give me some advise and guardian. There are times when only she can understand my tears, can soothe my disappoints calm all of my fears.
For a Mother's heart and a Mother's faith And a Mother's steadfast love Were fashioned by the Angels And sent from God above........... for me we cannot buy mother affection........
to show how much i love her... i will give my service and my money to her...!!! I love you mom!!
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@zearah (5381)
• Philippines
2 Jul 09
A friendly mother, yeah my mother same as your mother! Many times my mother acts as good friend to my friends too. I observed my friends are happy in a conversation with my mother, that would usually happen when I'm not at home yet, then mother would entertain my friends talking of teenage problems and games. Yeah my mother act this way. Sometimes when my friend will call my mother as friend too.
@CrazyKitty1992 (2)
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2 Jul 09
I wish I loved my mum, possibly when i was younger I may have due to this hormone taking over. However because of circumstances and things my mother done to make me hate her put me in a position where my mind and my heart had to fight and descide what was best for me. Eventualy my mind won possibly due to overcoming the control of the hormone, which was a hard descision and now do not see my mother which is my choice.
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