stay at home or work?

The question is: How important is the extra money for you? If that would mean putting food on the table and paying bills, in short if it is very very important, then I say sacrifices have to be made. But please make sure that your daughter is in safe and able hands when you leave her for work. But if it means that you can live without the extra money and be home comfortably with your daughter, then that would be wiser. No amount of money could exchange with the moments you bond with your child however small she is. Those moments would soon be gone and you would probably regret it if it does.

You surely feel the pressure of going back to work and the pain of leaving your daughter at home. It is hard to see your daughter left behind that is for sure. You have to ask yourself if what your husband is getting from work is enough for you to get by, the daily needs. Perhaps, you can stay with your child first until the time that she is ready to be left home to the care of a nanny. This will be all up to you. You have to do what makes you happy and what is best for your family.

Only you and your husband can decide what is best for your family. I never had the option of just staying home when my kids were young. While I was still married, I did stay home for a time and worked some nights and on the weekends when my husband was home. In that way, we rarely needed a sitter. The downside to that is lack of time together. I also for a time did some babysitting and odd jobs from home to bring in money. Every family is different and there is no right or wrong answer here. Whatever you and your husband decide just remember that you can always change your mind if your decision isn't working for you.

My fiance and I are going to be married soon. We've already discussed on what we're going to do when we do have children. If we can, I will be staying at home. I know though that it all depends on the financial situation. I am planning on taking classes to be a Medical Secretary, and a Medical Transcriptionist. The latter I can do from home. I think the best thing for you to do is to figure out if you can financially. Try to lower some of your bills if they are too high, and make extra money online. If you can, take on odd jobs, instead of having a full time employment. Well I hope this helps.

I had that question also about two months ago but my situation was worst because my husband was not working and I was the only one working and I have two kids one is 11 and the other is 1 and almost 2 months. I was tired of working and to seeing my husband actully look for a job and I actually started working when my baby was about 2 moths. So I talk to him about me not working any more and he told me to wait until he got a job but one day I just got tierd to see that he was not doing anything so I talked to my manager about having a time off. I actually told my husband that I was not going to work anymore and he got mad but I told him that I was not getting enough hours. So now I'm working when ever my manager need me because the work is really slow and we are bearly getting by. Ok after all that my opinion about your case is that if you really don't need the money you should stay with your kids but you can also get a part time job just in case you might need some extra money.

When you sa that your husband has a really good paying job, how good is it? Can it cover all your family expenses with savings and a extra for some leisure? Because if so, then I would suggest that you stay home for a while and take care of your child. AS other have mentioned, time flies fast. You will not notice it but your daughter will soon be big enough. It is better if you are there every step of the way that she will have.

Hi Yes the kids need the mothers around especially when they are too small. The mother is also not really wishing to leave the kids behind and doing job but if it demands the situation then there is no choice. In your case also, I think it depends on you and your financial freedom. If you are so sure to handle the financial problems then it is very easy but if you want to find a job doing from home it is little difficult. I also tried once when the birth of my second son but it failed and I have been forced to work due to financial problems. So think well and take a wise decision. God bless you and your family.

evaluate how much your family needs that extra money. if you can live without that extra, i think it would be just ok if you stopped working and stay with your child at home. this had happened to me with my eldest, i was the one working before and i really liked to stay home and take care of my child. after my husband found a job and started working, i resigned right away although what i was earning then could give us more money and savings, i still resigned because my child was more important to me, that was how i felt it. we were only able to get by with hubby's salary then, but it was ok with us and with me.

just staying home with your baby if you didn't need momey very much.after all there is just one time for baby's growing.i didn't have a baby but i think i would go to work when i have a baby.because i need the job need more momey to live.

congrats on the wedding...I have 3 kids and i always loved working,it was a good way to keep my sanity and give me some space,but if you don't need to work and want to stay at home and be a full time mum then do so.No one can tell you what is best,you are the only person who can make the descision,you do what you feel is right for you and your daughter

i think you should discuss it first with your husband to be. having a baby means you have to have extra money all the time, for emergencies. it also means that the expenses are bound to go up, money will have to be alloted for milk, diapers, doctors fee, and other baby needs. if you think your husband's job can support all the expenses, then it's perfectly fine to do so. besides, working at home is another option that you can have. on top of that, our children are only young ones. good luck and best wishes on your wedding. my best regards to your baby.

in work because u have money if you work

There is another thing that you can do. Work for home. So by this you'll be all the time with your daughter and you'll work too. A bad thing about staying home all this time is that you'll forget how to socialise.

If extra spending money isn't a big deal to your family I would suggest staying home until your daughter goes to school then get a part time job. That was my plan. Unfortunately after 2 kids the kids' dad and I decided it wasn't working out and split up so I had to go back to work. I wish I had the option of staying home.

Looks like your baby needs you more. It is better to care for her yourself rather than relying on someone else to babysit for you . Once she is old enough, you can go back to work.

Spending more time with children is the best thing that you should do, for me, I always want to do that. However, I still can't stay home just to take care of the kids... I am not a stay home person, so I just love to go to work and luckily I can bring my kids to work with me... that's the good thing. If you think you don't need money that much then stay at home with your kid is the greatest thing to do for now. If u think you want to help out with your husband then, Part time job is great for you too, or another way is working from home. You can also ask your future husband about this, whether he wants you to go to work or stay home taking care of the kid? I am sure he will say, Stay home.

I understand what you are going through. Talk this situation over with your partner on what is best for both of you and your baby. When you're at work, who takes care of the baby? It sounds like you are worrying about your daughter's needs and it is but natural to feel that way but it is also good to keep your job. What you have to do is sit down with your partner and list on the needs of your baby, your partner's situation and yours, and make a plan that is workable for both of you. Set up some priorities. If you can find a nanny, then it may be helpful for you so that you can still keep your job (It is always wise to do this because of the economic situation, review with your partner on your expenses and finances). I am encouraging you to have your own career (It will contribute to you a lot.) and do not think of comfort from your soon to be husband. Whatever your arrangements are, it is also rewarding that you'll have your career also. Have you heard about children's separation anxiety? Well, if this is your concern, you can talk about this with your pediatrician and learn on the methods on how to handle this as this could have an implication on the development of the child.

The way the time is I must say keep you job!What if you husband loses his job?That extra money wont seem so dumb!Keep it some where its safe!