do you give excuses for your kids

That is just disrespectful and totally wrong,if someone spoke to me like they would get the other end of my tongue.I would tell them not to bother coming round as we can all swear but some of us have more respect for people,until they learn that stay away.The kids are to old to be told off by their parents although if they were mine,I would point out the fact that I thought they should not speak to people like that.It is really up to you to let these young people that it is not going to happen in your home or anywhere you.Telling you to shut up like that is terrible ,they have no right to tell you to shut up anyway,don't let them in,all they do is upset you and disrepect your home and feelings.They can either change or stay away.I am sorry I know they are your relatives but enough is enough and if your brother lets them get away with it round him ;that is up to him.

No I don't. There is no excuse for that but your brother is clearly at fault for why his daughter is 24 and still has no manners. I never slapped my kids but I will tell you that life in our home was not pleasant when the mom was wound up. I'm a pretty laid back mom on most issues but one thing that got me riled was if they were rude to another person or took advantage of another person. Being a good person, a kind person was tantamount in our home. At 24 ...I have to say that all my kids outgrew any of that sort of behavior before that age. If at 24 any one of my girls dared to talk to me or her aunt or anyone for that matter like that...I honestly don't know what I would do...I certainly would not excuse the behavior. She would be very very aware that I didn't approve of it. I think you should stop welcoming her to family functions. Don't treat her special just because she's your niece. Treat her like any other person. If any of your friends treated you like that would you welcome them into your home? Why should she get a free pass to treat you like crap just because she's family? If your brother doesn't like it ...oh well....you are doing what he should have done long ago.

HI, Of course I will slap the hell out of her for sure. I dont like disrespecting kids at all, not even allow them close me too. I also have 2 girls and always teach them how to please people and never use bad words... not at all. however, if they do... I am sure they will get it from me. but i think their parents always use those words with them all the time and since like it is ok, so that's why they kids learn.

I'd let mine know if they are in the wrong. I have no problem with that. I am big on respect. I think if you excuse behavior just because they are your kids..it is worse for them in the longrun. We all have to be held accountable for what we say and do. There is nothing wrong with saying..hey..who do you think you are talking to someone like that? You can't treat people like that. Take care syankee.

I think that most people who make excuses (the dumb ones anyway) for their children probably do it out of their own embarassment. Imagine how he must feel as a father to know that he raised such a potty mouth. In other cases as well, you can see that the parents are trying to make themselves feel better about their children or about their own shortcomings as a parent.

i think sometime kids learn from their adults. now a day, kids are a bit rude compare to the old time because parents are more 'human right' now, i don't know it's good or not.

It looks like your brother didn't do a very good job raising your niece and nephew and dosen't want to take responsibility for it now. If the niece was at my house I would tell her to clean up her language and be more respectful ot leave and not come back until she behaves It doesn't mater what is going on people need to be respectful. Many years ago my brother-in-law started using foul language in my house and told him to clean it up or leave and not come back. My husband was very unhappy with me but my brother-in-law cleaned up his mouth even when we were at his house. Your Dad should have hung up on the niece and her brother. As long as you let them they will act like that.

I have to agree with you on this, if this girl does not have enough respect for her self not to talk like that at least she should have enough respect for her family to hold her language while around other family members. I would make sure to tell her that unless she could act like a mature 24 year old young lady and refrain from speaking in that manner she was not welcome in my home. I know this may upset some but seriously, she needs to respect you and your wishes. That is insane and no I would not just make up an excuse for my child, I would not tolerate that kind of language in my home, from them or anyone.