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For an unmarried 18 year old young man you are very bright and smart. You could not have said what you did better. What a great response.

I agree with you on the part to where the kids learn a lot from there parents. That is why I raised my kids on my own and my kids don't do that kind of stuff to me much less swing at me. I have always tried to do my best with my kids. And my 3 girls treat me well. My kids look up to me a lot. I think any or most parents wished they would have done better though. My oldest 2 kids have a child of there own and they are angels. They are good babies. I keep them over night and they are good with me.

I agree with you. There mom never stayed at home and she ran all the time and I keep telling my own mom this. My sisters kids disrespect her because she didn't take the time with her kids and she made her youngest daughter grow up before her time. She was the baby sitter of her sisters while her mom ran and drank. I thank God my kids have respect for me. I was always with my kids and raised them and gave them all my time.

I hope someone does show them that the way they are acting is wrong or one day they will pull something on someone else like they are doing to there mom and it will back fire on them.

Lets hope that someone will be able to be a good influence on these children and maybe they will see that the way they are acting is wrong

You know, to this day my children do not talk back to me. They respect and love me, they also know that I respect and love them, unconditionally. I have a grand daughter, 3 years old, who is, on one side a sweet dear, as three year olds are and on the other side, she is a vicious b****. She bites other children that she plays with, she even bit a newborn baby on the nose and left a mark. She attacks her parents, teeth and nails snapping and raking, she's left marks on them! Their response, "Now honey, you shouldn't do that.". Can you imagine this child at 12 or 13? She is the only grandchild that I will not keep here as I do the others. I will not have a 3 year old attack me, but I do not dare smack her on the bottom. Her cousins do not want to play with her and when she starts school, she will be a major problem. My heart aches for her because I do not see a good future for her. This is a prime example of what we are doing to our children, they are not being taught consequences for our actions, they are not taught to respect others (human or animal) and they certainly are not taught to respect themselves. An occasional, deserved, smack on the butt could turn this child into the sweet baby she should be. We need more of this.

I did exactly as you did. Or I sat my child down on the couch when they were younger and they weren't allowed to move. But my sister never stuck to her word or punishments. My sister does need to send her kids somewhere to get straightened up I do know that. I know even when the law is like that I will still give my child a butt taping if she needs it. I won't let my child walk all over me.

That is good your kids respect you and you respect them along with your grand kids. Now the one that bites others her parents need to correct her for doing that. My daughter when she was young she bit herself but never others. And I always told her your not hurting anybody but yourself and your temper wont get you very far. She finally stopped doing that to herself because she realized that it hurt.

I agree she does need some kind of counseling for her and her kids. My sisters youngest daughter tried that bad stuff on me when she stayed over night. I lived in Ohio she lived in South Carolina and I called my sister and told her to come get her brat for a daughter now she was never to stay with me again. But my sister has never slowed down from her running all the time and that is why I think her kids are still like this.

That is good that your husband would stand up and have them respect you. I agree I would hand her the phone to. To call the cops. And she has called the cops on her mom but it back fired on both of her kids. The cop talked to there mother and said the next phone call he gets from them they go to jail not the mother. There mother caused some of this on herself when she ran all the time when her kids where young and she wasn't there for them like she should have been.

The crappy thing about parenting is that no one hands you a manual. But if such a thing did exist, it should include a section on how to deal with your own demons and still be a good parent. I went through a period of life where I did a lot of running around. It was after my ex-husband and I split up. We married young and got pregnant fast. So I never "sowed my oats", you could say. So I went through a 4 month period where I did. I regret it now but thankfully I met someone that changed my life (and was lucky enough to marry him). Its sad that your sister wasn't there for them when they were younger. Perhaps, at least with the 15 year old, she should try counseling. I still believe in tough love when necessary but perhaps getting those obvious anger and abandonment issue addressed might help all of them.

So you know how it is when it comes down to her kids. One of her daughters were sent away for a while. Thought her daughter changed but she didn't. She had everybody fooled. Her oldest daughter is on stuff she shouldn't be on and her 15 year old daughter is on it now to because of the oldest daughter.

I do hope her older daughter will change for the good and show a good example to her younger sister. My sisters oldest daughter when she was younger you could tell she could have been a good girl but her mother when she did all of that never helped her daughter out any and it hurt her in the long run. But I am proud of her oldest daughter for one thing she graduated high school. And she loves doing hair and she took those classes in school and it helped her out a great deal. But she still has know respect for her mom because of what her mom did. And her mom still runs all the time.

I do understand and it is horrible. In my own case I came through it on my own because I wanted to. It may take that, for the older one to want to change and make a difference for the younger one. I hope it won't be too late.

Showing kids love and giving them hugs is never wrong. It also makes good sense to be friends with kids in the neighborhood, this way if they turn into hoodlums they'll leave you alone in their criminal activity. I make sure I'm on good terms with the kids in our neighborhood, because I genuinely like them and if they turn bad, they won't bother me--I hope. They also know I don't have money, that helps too.

You are very right to do that to your friends kids. That shows them how much you care and you are showing them the right kind of love. And as they are growing up they will remember that from you and do the same thing. Love is the right way to get what they want.

I think, your son has been hurt by your separation with your husband, that is why he is hurting you also. I guess, your son also wants to get your attention and his violent reaction implies that you have to change or stop the things or ways that hurt him. In my opinion, you should talk to him and explain things and show him that you love him. Being harsh to him would not change him.

Kids are not right when they do that to there parents. Your child shouldn't make you cry like that. That isn't right. There is only one other thing to try when it comes down to kids like that and its boot camp. Its not military to where he signs his life away. But its a place to where they put very bad kids in line. I think my sisters kids need the same thing.

I agree with you on a lot of this. The kids do learn and watch what there parents do and that is how they turn out. My sister was never know peach when she had her kids. Much less she wasn't ready to settle down. She ran all the time. And her kids had to grow up before there time. Witch was wrong out of my sister. I always watched what was put on my TV for my kids to watch when they were younger. sesame street,mr. rogers and educational stuff is what my kids watched. But know fighting stuff. But as for my sisters kids they pretty much watched whatever. I never use cuss words unless I am really mad over something and it has to be good. I don't cussing in front of anyone unless for good reason. I am protective over my kids even if they are older now. My youngest pushes my buttons every now and then but she doesn't do it long. I have raised my voice witch is one of the things I wish I could go back and change. But I didn't do it often. So my kids don't raise there voice to there own kids.

Her children are miss behaving badly. And they shouldn't treat there mother like that. But I look at why didn't she give her kids the time they needed from her? All she did was run around and never gave her kids attention they needed or disoplin they needed.

That is sad when kids grow up to be someone they shouldn't be. They tend to regret it later. I did call the cops on my oldest daughter once but she straightened up. And she is 20 and had a 1 month old baby now. She has grown up a lot sense that day happened.

I always pray her kids will straighten up. But I know there mother needs to do something about it. My sister went to the police and the cop told her if her kids call him one more time they are being sent away. Her kids always thought they new it all and bossed around. They tried to do that to me but didn't work.

If she ever corrects her behavior that is. If she doesn't her kids will remain the same and keep doing those things to her even as she gets older. I am glad my mom was there for me and spanked me to when I needed it. My mom corrected all of us. But my sister when she was young still rebelled against my mom. And now we know why. It was my dads fault on that part because he ran all the time and never gave us attention. And my mom divorced him for good reasons. But my sister was still searching for that fatherly love and didn't get it. So I think that is why my sister is the way she is. But my mother blames herself for every thing and I told her not to because she did the best she could with us kids and loved us. And all my sister could do was hurt her. My sisters kids have know respect for anyone.

That is very true if you train your child the right way he or she wont for get it. I agree know human is perfect in anyway shape or form. I have always wanted my kids to be better then me and even a better parent then me in raising there children. Your right all kids don't turn out the way we want them to. Some kids turn out very bad and others turn out to be really good. And the ones that turned out bad we always sit there and wonder what we did wrong or where did it go wrong that my child turned out this way.

My kids have never treated me like that either. But my sisters kids do this to her all the time. My sister ran all the time and never stayed home. She went to bars all the time and got drunk. While she handed her kids off to a baby sitter a lot. And her oldest daughter was the baby sitter of the youngest 2 kids. So she grew up to fast before her time. My sisters kids I wouldn't even let stay with me over night i did that a couple of time with her youngest and she was so bad. And I spanked her and she called her dad and he threatened me to have me beat up and I said go right a head she isn't going to disrespect me in my house.

Sounds like you and your husband are doing a good job raising your kids. Kids need good manners as they are growing up. My sisters kids don't have any manners. my mom raised us all with manners and me my brother and sister came out just fine but my sister rebelled a lot against my mom. That was my dads fault though.