Who do you think is more important for the kids, the dad or the mom?
By vijayanths
@vijayanths (7877)
India
16 responses
@indahfth (11161)
• Indonesia
4 Jul 09
Mother and father is a partner that can not be separated role in educating children. They must separated role in educating children. They must work together to support and complement each other. As a pair of legs, that when one crop then the owner gammy leg. Such was the role of the father and the mother in educating the child, if one separated the responsibilities, the educational game for children. Mother is the first educator and the primary for the childHowever, it also does not remove the . Sacrificing mother who has delivered the life of the child. And the mother who has the intensity of togetherness and a meeting with the child more. Meanwhile, the father, of its duties as a breadwinner for the family to make most of them are more outside the home. Mother a place to moan moan for primary children, because mothers are most often near the child. The person nearest the second after the mother is the father.
In this case, the position of the father is under the mother, because most of the father must spend time outside the home, far from the family, including her son to search for the family income. However, it also does not remove the obligation of the father to remain involved in the education of children. Father must always the education of children. give support to the mother to remain vibrant in the hearts of the educated, given the task of the mother who is very heavy. Father a place to ask, when there are family problems or problems of the child if that can not be completed by the mother. Through the mother, father and the advice can deliver messages for the child. Father is also a place to ask for the child. Understanding to provide them with full patience, gentle, and wise.
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@vijayanths (7877)
• India
7 Jul 09
I agree with most of your discussion indahfth. My question is who is more important? Because I strongly feel it can't be exactly 50-50. Thanks for the response.
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@mrakobesie (1246)
• United States
7 Jul 09
i think it depends on the mother and father, for some kids it would be more important to be without both. mother and father effect different qualities in people. i learned how to solder, make electric stoves and how to do art from my dad, and how to cook, knit and patch up walls from my mum.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
7 Jul 09
yes, it can be depending on the mom and dad in some families.
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@rapolu_cs (1184)
• India
4 Jul 09
In my view it is both the child should have for their best future and both are important on their position and both have equal role in parenting. Both are important in child's life
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
7 Jul 09
I don't deny that both are important. they are important. But can it be exactly 50-50? No, now tell me.
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@sweety_81 (2124)
• India
9 Jul 09
Yes even for me it is very difficult to decide who is more important father or a mother because for me also both have their own importance for a child.I can't live without my parents even though I am married.It is said that a father helps a child financially and mother emotionally but I think at some place even father can provides a emotional support to their child and if mother is working she can help her child financially also.but in general mothers are emotional support for their child and father is like a protector of his child.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
4 Jul 09
A father and a mother,both are important to a child to build up his personality.While one can be lineant allowing the kid to enjoy freedom the other should be strict helping the kid to control within limits.There need not be any percentage of domination for parents to share.They can equally help the kid in their own fields.A kid is expected to enjoy both the parents presence and guidance.Cheers!
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@vijayanths (7877)
• India
7 Jul 09
It is not domination I mean more importance.Nice response from you ganesh as usual.
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@vijayanths (7877)
• India
7 Jul 09
Ok, this is what I expected. It has to be either mom or dad. But I think most of the children consider their dad as more important. You know why? In most of the homes the dad is the prime earning member. It is changing a lot all over the world though.Until both men and women are able to earn almost equally dad my be considered more important, this is my view.
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@eshaan (6188)
• India
4 Jul 09
This question..you should ask kids only ..they can answer it more properly.....i think both have their own duties to do, and if mother looks after all other needs and work whole day for their studies, food, and lot of otehr things...the father gives a big support of money....if the motehr is herself earning then i would say that the balance goes to her side, as she is performing more duties of child care...but with the cahnging times everything is changing...i have seen many dads taking equal care of their children at home also, if their wife is working lady...so i think...both
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
7 Jul 09
@eshaan and bluefishman:
No doubt both are important, but it can't be exactly 50-50.If you could access the difference then there is the answer for this.
@bluefishman (1)
• United States
7 Jul 09
there is a lot of discussion but to me it is definetly 50-50 its definetly to hard to pick between them
@jpso138 (7851)
• Philippines
7 Jul 09
Well of course both are important for the kids since each of them play a different role for the children. But if assuming that the parents would break up, it would depend on what age the children are. The children usually needs more the care of the mother from the time they are born up to around 6-7 years old. Considering that at this age, they need more the care and attention that a mother could give being children. As the kids grow old, then it could be either the mother or the father. That is why in our country, assuming that parents get separated and both parents have no psychological problem, then the child should be in with the mother. After reaching the age of 8 the child can then be given either to the father or mother depending on who can provide better financial and emotional support.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
7 Jul 09
It is true , say about 10 years mom is more important for a child. I should change my question now. Who is more important when the child is more than 10 years?
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
2 Jul 09
Yes, both are important, but can it be 50-50? Similarly I have seen parents saying I have the same amount of love to all my children. But can it be exactly the same?
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
2 Jul 09
You love your children in different ways as they are different children and have different qualities etc. But for you to ask me if I love one more than the other would be silly and I would of course tell you now, while I love them in different ways, I do not love one more than the other.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
6 Jul 09
as a mom of 3 kids,i as i had observed my kids,they can't choose whom to choose.as they both love us...but maybe the right question is...to whom kids are more closest...mom or dad ?...then,i can say, kids are more closer to their moms than dads and maybe you know the reason why =))
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
7 Jul 09
jaiho, there is a difference between love and importance. A child may love his/her mom more than the dad(for various reasons happened in life till date) But that does not mean that the child considers mom as more important than dad. It may the other way around too.
@jaiho2009 (39141)
• Philippines
7 Jul 09
that's why my friend,im saying...the question should be whom kids are closest,mom or dad,becoz for a child, both parent are important,i don't think a child could choose one.
@justbeingtiffany (1156)
• United States
3 Jul 09
the mom for me. just because i feel embarrassed to talk about girl things with my dad. n u see most dads today aren't even around so that tells u that most kids grow up just fine without one.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
7 Jul 09
yes, thanks for the response. I think you are frank and clear in your thoughts. keep it up friend.
@hiucheekeong (88)
• Malaysia
6 Jul 09
i think mum and dad is not a zero sum game. mum and day are 1 not 2, cannot be separate out. kid with single parent, always feel missing something even after they growth out. my kid, sometime they need mum more, sometime they need day more, depend on what they needs at that particular time.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
7 Jul 09
I agree with you, but still you can answer this more accurately I think, thanks for the response friend.
@LovingLife139 (1504)
• United States
7 Jul 09
I think it depends on the people and their interconnected relationships. I know many women look up to their mothers--I don't. My mother contributed near nothing to my life although she was there throughout it all. She's not a very nice person to those in her immediate family, and I never admired her when I was little because she was many things that I never wanted to be.
My father, on the other hand, would teach me what I'd want to know. I was a very mature and inquisitive child. I inquired about the stock market when I was ten years old from both my dad and mom. My mom claimed I was too young to understand, but then my dad explained it to me in every detail regardless of if I caught all the details. My father taught me money-handling...how to run a business when I started mine at fifteen...
If my mother was more important and I took after her, I'd be an unemployed shopoholic with many other negative traits. I admire my dad for his hard-working and motivated ethics, and therefore I am successful today. Mothers may be more important for some kids, but my father might as well have been the only parent I had.
@vijayanths (7877)
• India
7 Jul 09
I do agree with you. It has to be like that. It has to be either dad or mom.
@ptrikha_2 (46968)
• India
12 Jul 09
I think both are important and essential for a child . Absence of one hampers the growth of a child and also deprives child of the emotional and other supports they need.
Overall, however,mothers are generally closer to their children in terms of emotional and psychological support .
Regards
@serenitynow89 (7)
• United States
7 Jul 09
I think that it depends on where the child is in their life. I mean, kids are going to like or connect to one parent more than the other, but as far a being important, I think mothers are more important in the very early years, fathers take over in adolescence when the kid needs more structure and discipline, then I think it moves back to mothers for the most part in the rest of life.