Do you Regret that You get Married?
By rainmark
@rainmark (4302)
July 2, 2009 1:00pm CST
Last time, i and my friend met at the mall coz she texted me to go out coz she feel bored. Well same usual we talked about life, marriage and money, i think fighthing and arguments about money is normal for the couple specially when the other doesn't have a work.Im surprised that she said she regret sometimes and looks like he married a wrong guy. I do understand her, but in my case, i never regret even that we are struggling now financially we still happy with our son.
How about you,any regrets?
Cheers.
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29 responses
@snoopy04 (718)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I honestly dont have any regrets about my marriage. Yes, we have our arguements but we always talk it out and try resolve the issue before we go bed. I love my husband very much and I know I married the right man. Marriage isnt easy but its also a two way street. You have to work together to make it last a lifetime and my husband just isnt my husband he is my best friend until the day we die. He is definitly my better half!!!!
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@nady100011 (594)
• United Arab Emirates
3 Jul 09
Wowwwwww
sounds pretty good,
I hope for me to have the same life as you mentioned after marriage with my future wife.
@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
3 Jul 09
no regrets about marrying him
I just wish I met him sooner so I didn't have to go through all the c rap
but yeah I made it through all that because I believe I deserve someone and marrying him is one of the best decisions I've ever made in my life
money can cause problem if you don't manage it well, even if you are single
we have money problem too because he works in automotive industry that is hit hard by the recession. if he works different field it won't be that hard.
but then again money can be gained when things get better. I wouldn't want to trade him and our marriage for anything.
@eshaan (6188)
• India
4 Jul 09
No I never regret getting married ...coz you feel being complete after getting a partner and later having children....yes, some mey feel it if they are not in love with their partner or there is wrong between the two, but for me.....i never felt financially insecure, nor did i feel that i am with the wrong man....i am happy with what i have and never had a thought that i should not have married
@nbeneby (416)
• United States
4 Jul 09
That was beautiful and I am really happy you found someone to complete you. I definitely know the interviewing process to find someone willing and worthy of spending the rest of your life with is a pain in the behind..lol ;p. If you know in your heart that you found the right one(which it sounds like you have) .. then you should truely enjoy , embrace and nourish your relationship because it's becoming harder and harder to find that one.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
I hate having arguement over money wiht my partner. Me and my ex live in partner can always pull off when it comes to financial issues and we made a pact not to argue about it.
But looking back, the fact that the relationship didnt work out, i guess im lucky we didnt get married to begin with. Its not that we broke up about money..its the 3rd party that ruined us. Things happened and things has been said to hurt each other..we both made mistakes and the good thing of it all is that, right now, we remain friends..for our son's sake..
@kun2349 (23381)
• Singapore
3 Jul 09
I'm not yet married.. haha =D BUT i do have frenz whom really regretted into marrying, especially when they married young.. It seems that they cant get along well in terms of staying together due to the different habits they have.. Other than that, it's committment.. They are just not that ready to commit when they think they are..
While one of my fren is planning to marry, because he felt that it's time to give her a status after being together for so long.. IN my mind, i dun think that's a right reason to be getting married in the first place..
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
3 Jul 09
Most definitely not! Sure, there can be ups and downs in a marriage, just like there are with all journey's in life; but overall, I never regret getting married because the joy's and positives far outweigh the negatives. A marriage is also everything you make of it and the more you put in, he more you get back. It truly IS a partnership where 2 become 1 and it's a shame that so many people lose sight of that these days.
@frankiecesca (2489)
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3 Jul 09
No regrets at all - such a shame about the regret for your friend as it is probably not a nice sitution to be in. Did she get married quite quickly to him or was it a long relationship before the marriage? x
@ckyera (17331)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
no, i never regret marrying my husband and living this life that i have now...
i am always happy to be his wife, serving him, loving him...
he's a good man,although sometimes we have some misunderstandings and some problems...but those are not enough reason for me to regret marrying him...
everything that happens to us, makes our life and marriage even stronger...
i will never ever regret being his wife, coz if i do, that will be a time that i will start being sad for ever...
maybe i am just one of those lucky girls to have a responsible, loving God- fearing husband...and this is what i am always thankful about...
@bamrahkirti (1821)
• India
3 Jul 09
I regret that i married my husband.He has a laid back approach towards life.He does not want to grow mentally or financially.I am still with him and will always be because i cannot just break this relationship for the sake of my son.He needs us both.
I am working really hard to become financially stronger but he does not pay any attention to what i am doing for him,for his family or for the kid.He is just so casual towards his life and does not know his ambitions and goals.
@nitu1952 (286)
• India
3 Jul 09
yes i did regret the marriage for the first time but in second time because i didn't regret to gat married because i learned a lot of stuff. some times the romance fades for the little while , but plz stick with it. at last we start thinking for our married life.
@pickoy (733)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
No, I'm very much happy with my husband. It's not as perfect as any girl have imagined but what's important is that we love each other. He's very hard working and responsible. I'm blessed to have him and I will take care of his heart for the rest of my life.
@hiucheekeong (88)
• Malaysia
3 Jul 09
at least i have a daughter which i love her very much, though she's a bit naughty. I think when people don't have a happy marriage, the kid always save the day, perhaps that's your only hope.
@ArmyWife1705 (22)
• United States
3 Jul 09
I am only 20 and have been married to my husband a little over a year now but we have been together since i was 16. I have never regretted getting married, and we do have our fights over money and other little stuff but we always work through whatever comes our way. I guess i just got lucky to find the person i am going to spend the rest of my life with at such a young age :). not to mention we have a beautiful 3 year old boy together. I think the best advice I ever got was from my husbands dad, he said that the best thing to do when it comes to relationships is to let the little stuff go. If its something that wouldnt matter a few months down the road then just let it go and dont worry about it and dont fight about it.
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
3 Jul 09
I have no regrets about my marriage. It was what I thought was the right thing at the time and I really think it was. We were very happy for quite a while and I wouldn't trade that in for the world. Still...don't regret the divorce either. It was something that needed to be done.
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
2 Jul 09
Yes, i have many regrets that i fell in love w/such a sorry guy but that had been over a long, long time but i still have regrets i married him. tHE ONLY REGRET I DON'T HAVE IN MY LIFE IS THAT I HAVE 2 SONS I LOVE VERY MUCH. hE WANOT THE FATHER of either one of them thank heavens. U hang in there & I wish you much happiness.
@BinaryKat (735)
• United States
2 Jul 09
I have no regrets that I married my husband. He is a good man and is doing the best he can with what we got. It is hard sometimes because he has the only income coming in besides my unemployment. But we are working through it. As I look at it, the Lord could not have put a better person to be my husband.
@pujagupta (102)
• India
3 Jul 09
There are some hard feelings that come up during a quarrel or a fight. but then there is no regret to the marriage. I never regretted my marriage. There are fights between us, but we move on. we take a lesson from these fights and move on..
@amybrezik (2118)
• United States
3 Jul 09
I can say I do regret it. I am soo grateful for the two beautiful children that I got out of it. I will always be thankful to my ex husband because of my children. I do however, regret the marriage.
@puqimx (358)
• Malaysia
3 Jul 09
hello rainmark.... people get married all the time and regret it.... i believe it is because people confuse being in love with the feelings you get at the beginning of a relationship...... people think that once that feeling is gone you are not in love, the truth is love is more than just a feeling...........
My sister just got a divorce and he told me that she knew when they got married that they weren't right for each other. I guess she thought he would never find anyone better, and did what she wanted to keep her....
for me......... Can't say I regret getting married but if I knew then what I know now.......... I would have defiantly chosen a different path..... Can't say I never was in love with him but not in love with him anymore...... but I do love him as a friend..... Yes we are still together but only due to financial difficulties. I'm happy together with my daughter.... she is my life! In the end we grew apart instead of growing together.......... happy mylotting!!!