have you ever say sorry even you don't mean it?
By cainam
@cainam (493)
Philippines
July 2, 2009 8:15pm CST
i'm always the one who is saying sorry to my boyfriend. how ridiculous that i never been right for the three years that we've been together! sometimes i just say sorry just to end conflicts and make him satisfied with his ego and stop all the crap. but whenever i'm saying a fake sorry everything just worsten coz i still feel bad deep inside and i can't hide it.. maybe i should only say an untrue sorry to those i will never see again after that sorry.=) have you ever experienced this?
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14 responses
@sid556 (30960)
• United States
3 Jul 09
I used to with my ex all the time and for the same reasons as you, cainam....to end the tension or the distance between us. Even if I didn't feel I was at fault, I'd appologize just to get beyond it. He would give me the silent treatment for days until I'd appologize. It got pretty old after a while.
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@sublime03 (2339)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
I encountered this with my mother-in-law a few years back when my son was just 1 year old. I had a fight with her with regards to what I want for my son against what she thinks is right for my son. Thus, we ended up screaming our lungs out and ended up not talking to eachother for a month or two. I ended up saying sorry but I was half sincere half not. When I said sorry it was because I screamed at her not because she was right with what we were arguing about.
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@jaimz19 (236)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
i've also experienced this a lot of times... before, my 'sorries' are actually fully meant because i thought that it would be more like a lie if i don't... but when i got into a kinda serious relationship, it's difficult to always keep it real... i have my own reasons as you have yours... i think that for you not to feel so bad about it, you just have to chose the certain situatons and people you have to deal with...
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@shakil8 (407)
• India
3 Jul 09
sooooo nice of you your boyfriend is a lucky guy just because he has an intelligent but a matured girl.......arguing with your partner can make it a big problem and sometimes it can be a reason of break up.........so good luck & may your boyfriend understands this.
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@clorissa123 (4926)
• United States
3 Jul 09
Don't worry about it. You are not the only one who always said sorry but you don't mean it. I sometimes too, said sorry to my friends, and my girlfriend, but I never meant what I really say. I apologize just for the same reason to end the conflict, and unhappiness between two of us. It just how we all did it.
@hsofyan (3446)
• Jakarta, Indonesia
3 Jul 09
If I'm wrong, then I will apologize sincerely that.
I will not pretend apologize, just to avoid squabbling.
I think that tolerance is wrong and can upon your friends into thinking that a blunder. Your friend will become increasingly egoist, as was true.
@amybrezik (2118)
• United States
3 Jul 09
Doesn't sound like your relationship is all that great (no offense) if you are constantly apologizng for things that you don't feel you should. I understand where you are coming from though. Sometimes, it is easier to end arguments by apologzing for random things.
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@puqimx (358)
• Malaysia
3 Jul 09
hello cainam.... Oh I do it so many times it's just that most of the times I find myself saying sorry even when not necessary... Sometimes when I think I'm right about something, but everyone will be better off if I appear to give in to someone, I will apologize without meaning it.....
sometimes you gotta say it to appease parents or officials though, otherwise i try not to it gets on my nerves when people do it, or apologize for stuff that doesn't need it......happy mylotting!!
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@Butterfly007 (182)
• China
3 Jul 09
I think this is not a good and effective way to end a conflict,coz it doesn't really solve the problem but temporarily hide it. This way can spoil your boyfriend and hurt your own heart deeper and deeper. And what's more, this is kind of telling lies which are harmful to your true love.
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@justbeingtiffany (1156)
• United States
3 Jul 09
haha yes like when ur mom's like say sorry n she keeps yelling at u if u don't. the same thing that goes at school. the last time i said i was srry was when i took all my sister hair stuff n hid it one by one in the house. i think she deserved it....n no that has never happened to me.
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@hiucheekeong (88)
• Malaysia
3 Jul 09
to say sorry, you don't have to feel sorry, you just have to say it, that's all.
what if you don't say sorry to your boyfriend and just keep quiet say nothing, what will happen ?
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