would you put the blame on yourself if your relationship fails.....

In a relationship, the reason that it was not successful because of pride. No one should be blame because everyone commits mistake. No one is perfect. We commit sin all the time. And just think of it this way, if it ended, then its not for you. Our God has provided us with people whom we can love for the rest of our life. All we need to do is just have some patience. The right person will come. But before it comes, people that we have in our live are instrument to mold us into a better person and help us to mature with out future relationships!

I got a failed relationship before and I blamed myself for not giving everything or not doing enough to have kept the flame burning (gosh, did I just said that?) Since then, I always put my best when I am in a relationship. If I love, I love 100% - with all my heart. And the good part when I did just that, the succeeding relationship went much better and longer and when they ended, I am still smiling and can't find anything to blame myself for. The good thing though is, all my relationships ended amicably. My previous partners are still my friends.

i have never put any blame on myself or my ex when the relationship failed. it simply... just... didn't work out. i gave it my best shot, he did his part to the best of his abilities... and if those efforts did not produce the desired results... what else is left to blame? i try to live my life without regrets... no what ifs... no blaming myself or another person for anything that didn't work out. there are so many factors to make a relationship work... and fail. people make mistakes... who doesn't? the environment, the situations, the people around us... they all contribute and play important roles in the relationship. besides, blame is just an effort wasted. it doesn't make sense and it will not produce positive impact to oneself or in the relationship. so why do it... hehe anyways, it's hurting enough when a relationship ends on a sad note. blaming just prolongs and deepens the pain. efforts should just be focused on moving on... getting better... hehe

IT takes two to make or break a relationship. One person can't do it by themselves.

Knowing me - I would probably blame myself first. I would think about what I did wrong and what I could have done different. Why do I blame myself first? That's just who I am. I think everything is my fault. A lil' bit egotistical I know. I think its easier for me to beat myself up for anything that goes wrong that blaming it on anyone else. To be honest with you though, I've never been in a serious enough relationship that I actually thought about what-ifs and what-could-have-beens. This one that I'm in now though, man oh man. It's scary being in a serious relationship. Love is not a joke, not a joke at all.

it depends on the situation.. what kind of breakups we have.!! if its because of a third party, of course i will blame my partner, for looking other girl.. it's his fault why we end up like that..!! and if it's me, of course i will blame myself..!!

I don't blame the other person for failing in relationship. First I try myself best that relationship won't be broken. but if in case of failure I will blame the person who is wrong. that can be me or other one too..

I would blame myself. I am a pessimist already so if it weren't to work, I would blame myself.I would be soo depressed that I wouldn't have the strength to see that it takes two to fail , nit just one. Maybe in time , but I doubt it.

Hmmmm. I don't have to worry about my relationship failing. To answer you it really depends who to blame. It's better not to blame anyone of both parties. Because it takes 2 to tango.

I like to stand back and try to see what went wrong, most of the time it's on both sides. If I need to I will take whatever blame is due me and just try to do better next time.

Why do people have to play the blame game? That to me is the failure in most relationships, someone is always to blame for this or that.. why not accept the idea that both can be at fault, or neither. It is what it is, and move forward. Learn to Let things go, rest, not needed to be brought up anymore...etc. My opinion is if a relationship isn't working it can be for any kind of reason, the thing is you can't blame one or the other, it takes two to tangle and two to get over it.

well when i broke up i blamed myself for all the things but now that I realized it... I'll act like a man from now on. Men don't cry...Men walk... walk hard stay confident like big wall of steel. It's not pride..i just want my dignity to be intact instead of crying the whole week about it. I'll move and just go with another woman to deal with it.

In a relationship there are two people, so there are two sides to the story... Also there are things that each person did or did not do in the relationship to cause it to fail... Yes there are some cases where it seems on the outside that the relationship was caused to end just because of one person's actions versus the other person.. But in the end it is each person's fault.. My marriage fell apart not just because of my ex husbands' actions but my own too.. There were certain things that I could have done differently but chose not to... On the outside it may look like it was all just my ex because of the way that it ended... But there were certain things that lead up to that.. We stopped talking, communicating how we felt about certain issues.. We started growing apart.. WE did not work on it together as a couple..It takes two people to keep a relationship going and it takes two people to break it up.. Our marriage was on the rocks for a couple years prior to that, but one of us was always willing to put a little extra more into the relationship to keep it going.. Just one day, we both gave up...

relationships are always not only between individuals,its also based on how an individual blend themselves in the relationship.So,whenever there is a break in a relationship each individual is responsible.So,I will always accept my guilt on breaking a relationship.