Would You/Have You Ever Dated Outside Your Race?

Your friend sounds like she is quite cruel. And honestly there is no place for that. If that is her opinion she should really of kepted that to her self. I really don't mind dating of another race I have done it in the past however I am engaged to the same race as me as I fell in love with him. But if I fell in love with someone else I would be with them. I wouldn't deny my feelings for that person. Oh I just had to say if she doesn't date outside her species what does she date then. They are species of the same kind as well. Had a little chuckle on that one.

Hi, I think your friend honestly told what was in her mind. You asked her a question and she answered. If you wanted her to answer to what you want to hear, then why in the first place you need to question? I agree of her expression for using the word 'other species', I guess you could have taken it in a sporty way instead of using that to judge her! On 'your' opinion interacial dating has no harm and that's totally cool and that's your way of looking at it. She DON'T HAVE TO agree with you! If you ask me, I have no issues with interacial dating or marriage as it's quite interesting to know a different culture and their life-style! Keep lotting and have fun!!

Hello lenapoo, yes I would. As a matter of fact I married outside my race. We ended up getting divorced but it was that we were not compatible that led to the divorce.My b/f now is similar to my race.Only problem is with his aunt who thought I was too old for him. I told him I'm not dating her I am dating you! make up your mind if you wish to contine seing me.He was orphaned as a child and one of his aunts took him in but never made him feel like he was part of her family. When he met me,my family made him feel like he was already family. But before my b/f I would consider dating any race.

It sounds to me like your friend is ignorant since we are all of the same species. I myself have not dated outside my race unless you count my preschool boyfriends. But, I am like you, if I had feelings for someone, I wouldn't supress them simply because they were of a different race. There is a saying, you can't help who you love, and there is truth to it. We are in the new milinuim and I don't understand how people, now can have views like that. I don't blame you at all for being disturbed by the comment.

I dated an african american when I was in HS and I am white . We only went out for about 6 months . He lived pretty far away so it just didn't work out . Both of our parents were cool with us dating each other . It never was a big deal to us

I dated outside my race twice. The first time...I was in love with this man, but our relationship could not take the constant outside interferences from our friends and family. Also, our cultural differences became an issue...so we had a bitter break up. We dated for six months. The second guy I dated outside of my race turned out to be a real head case. Two months into our dating relationship,he started acting really weird. Also, I discovered picture of one of the band members of Nsync taped on the ceiling in his bedroom. Enough said about that stuff and why we broke up. Thanks for opening this discussion so I can share my experiences.

My first thought on reading this (sorry for this) was she is ignorant. Species??? Im sorry we are all of the same species, all human. We all can feel pain, happiness, love and we all bleed the same. I dont think I could be friends with someone like that. Now to say, yes I could date outside my race as I look at the inside of a person and not just the outside.

I have dated outside my race in the past. I am white and European and I have had boyfriends from Asia and Africa. I don't think much about races, it is not important to me and I would welcome boyfriends or friends from any race. I have always had many friends from other countries, but the family where I grew up is sort of racist. My grandmother was very unhappy when she heard that I had found an African boyfriend, and she said a lot of bad things about him even though she hadn't even met him. That made me sad, because I love my grandmother very, very much, but I can't accept her racist opinions. I am married now and my husband is white, too but it wouldn't have been a problem to me if he hadn't been white.

Well for me interracial dating isn't already new. I live in the Philippines and a lot of races here mingle and mingle. Just at my school I see different nationalities and I myself hit on a lot of half japanese and chinese girls so yeah..I think I can safely say that I really don't mind.

Species? Perhaps she is the one on the lower rung of the evolutionary ladder? What a sad individual. On the lighter side.... I have dated outside my race...I learned a lot about human nature while involved with him. It didn't work out because of purely human reasons...he was a typical male chauvanist pig...hhhmmmm come to think of it maybe ALL males of ALL races are another species and us women are more the more 'evolved' species. LOL To bad your friend is missing out on all the things she could learn from others of differing cultures.

I dated a man nearly ten years ago who was white. We got along great but we were both under a lot of pressure from friends and family members, mainly on his side. We stopped dating after a month. I personally do not see a problem with dating outside of your race, as long as you are good to each other and you do not allow others to interfere in your relationship. Eventually, it will drive you apart.

lenapoo, i would definitely agree with the majority in your group. gone are the days when we used to be limited in our thinking in terms of caste,creed,race,etc. people are now no longer scared about mingling with people of other races,and are quite fascinated about the way people do things differently in other communities. i , for one am engaged to a girl who belongs to a different community and am pretty much not perturbed at all.

I have not dated anyone out of my race but I don't mind doing so. I mean you don't judge a person from the colour of their skin but their hearts. I would really love to date someone outside my race because I have found no one that matches my thinking in my own race or my place. LOL! For me looks are secondary I search for a passionate heart! :)

Well I am someone of mixed race. I am half Korean, a quarter Scottish, and a quarter German. I have dated people of different race before but it was not a big issue. Its not like dating someone of a different race is doing anything wrong or unnatural. Love is universal no matter your skin color, disabilities, or age. It's a shame that your friend feels the way that she does. A relationship, love, should be based on what is inside the person rather than their outer appearance. People cannot help the way they look, it is wrong to judge someone solely upon it.

sorry but your friend is ignorant. we are all the same species. I went on a couple of dates with a black man but we were really really good friends for so long that it was just too awkward so we just left it at friendship level. If I were attracted to a person of another race, by all means, I'd have no problem in dating that person. I have been attracted to men in other races but we just have never dated...wasn't mutual or they were taken.

I think your friend sounds very outspoken!!! I think too it is a terrible thing to say but unfortunately that is her opinion (but nothing more). I would definitely date outside my race. I am white and from England and my best friend is half iranian. I have many clients through my work who are in interracial relationships and I see it as normal. My dad is quite old fashioned and would have an opinion on that sort of thing but would keep it to himself ultimately. What I do have a problem with is a woman having multiple partners of different races and having children with different fathers. I know a girl of only 24 who has a greek child, a white child and black child - she is white. The reason I have a problem with it is knowing the psychological damage it can have on these kids knowing they all have different fathers and not looking anything like your siblings could give them confidence and self esteem issues and make them vulnerable to bullying. I equally have problems with any woman having children with many men of one race but this makes it less obvious because of them all looking similar.

HI lenapoo, I do understand that in some cultures, interracial partnerships are thought of as something weird or worse, disgusting. People do have different opinions when it comes to it because we are influenced by many factors. But sometimes, it's plain ignorance, and bias. As for me, interracial partnerships are not new to me. It's almost very rampant here in the Philippines. I won't deny the truth that a large percentage of those marriages especially among Filipinas (female) and foreign men, are due to Filipinas seeking financial freedom. There are only very few people whom I have known who married someone from the outside race because of pure love. Although those people I have mentioned earlier did learn to love the foreigner truly eventually. For me, as of now, I don't think I could go into a relationship with someone of another race except maybe if I did fall in love with the person, or I have known this person for a long time. Because I do consider safety too. Some women ended up exploited or raped after meeting with some foreigners they just knew online. I think you should try to point your opinion out to this person and allow her to realize on her own that she may just be biased by saying such remark. If she insists on her own opinion, let her be.

A very ignorant and archaic comment by the gal who think she is La Pizzaz. Personally, I think I really would like to date someone outside my race. I dont think the race makes any difference to my decision making on whether or not to date a particular person simply because they are of a different race.

Well i think here again your friend might be a bit stereotypes.Not all of us accept things like this very few of us think differently but it is really not necessary that all of us have the same view.At a point of time for me it matters how my partner is, whether he is a hearty, lovable, respectfull etc.I dont mind for race at all, but before thiking for me i have to think about my family who might hardly accept my partner out of my race.

yes,quite a few times i had dated outside our race.i had dated ever one white british person.i have barely given myself t6ime to be completely single since i started dating. as it was a ver great moment for me to dated white british women outside the race.