Is it ok to be friends with ex or it should not be done at all?
By friendly1974
@friendly1974 (73)
Malaysia
9 responses
@createmoney (209)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
it is ok to be friends your ex bcause u have a history is you not being friend..
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@lcdelmendo18 (990)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
I think there is no problem with being friends with your exes as long as it will stop there... And as long as it will not affect your current relationship. You should know your limitations and the feelings of your new bf/gf.
@prashanthalva (2272)
• India
3 Jul 09
Well It does Depend on the type of Man or Woman... If He/She is not Yet Attached it Might Be ok ...... Butif things Hve indeed moved on it is Better to Be Happy for him/her From A Distance .... I Mean To Hurt None .. Thanks ...
@gingerale (225)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
It really depends on one's culture because in the Philippines, it's really awkward for us Filipinos to be communicating with our exes even if each one of us is already married. It really doesn't help, especially if the spouse is very sensitive and conservative. For me, I'm not comfortable with it. I'd rather not do it. Perhaps, it will help us to move on when we have failed relationships.
@kmaram (2533)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
Well for me it depends on the situation, sad to say that all my ex was just a history to me. But its ok now i found the partnet of my life and my ex was not important to me. Anyway back to discussion as i said its depend on the situation if you ended bad then i guess no more things to talk about have to forget already but in some cases that you break for a reason or its not that bad reason i guess atleast friendship will be there. Hope you know what i mean, just for me it depends on how you break up, i dont close the door to anyone who will want to be a friend to me whether my ex or not, happy mylotting
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@aerous (13434)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
...i think yes...y?because he/she is been part of life...and i think he/she never did anything you too can never be friends at all....both of has been part of the same past.....so y u should avoid each others company.....you must enjoy it....
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@KOREILLY23 (279)
• United States
3 Jul 09
I am only friends with on of my exs- we dont hang out just email every now and then to make sure the other is okay . My boyfriend is fine with this becasuse he knows i would never hurt him by chaeting on him . My ex and i didn't date for very long ...we just went our sperate ways and check in on each other from tim e to time . I helped him through a really bad time in his life
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@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
3 Jul 09
One can not give one answer for all situations. A long as the people involved know the boundaries that they have set, and stick to them, it is perfect Ok to have friendly relationships with former partners. If there are new partners involved, then ALL parties have to be in agreement. The one having friendships with the ex must respect their current partner as the more important partner.
My husband has been married 4 times, and divored 3 times. He has children with his ex-wives, and one of those kids is under 18. That means some friendship with the one ex-wife in the interest of being a united front, when caring for their offspring.
@Ritchelle (3790)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
being acquaintances is more and should be more like it for ex's. "friendship" is still involved in that "friends" relationship you are implying and friendships still entail responsibilities otherwise it is not friendship or just being "friends". it is more like being acquaintances.
@larish (2234)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
I am friends with my exs but we are not close friends. It means that if just in case we meet in a gathering, I will acknowledge their presence. I also think that it is healthier for the both of us to grow and move on separately. It will also avoid any hassle with my future boyfriend. I know other relationship that the present boyfriend becomes jealous of the ex because they both exs remain friends. I don't what that to happen.