When going through hard times, are you TRANSPARENT or you PUT UP A GOOD FACE?
By daryljane
@daryljane (3406)
Philippines
July 2, 2009 11:43pm CST
My friends said, im too deep to read.
What happened was, weve been friends since we started in the same company 5 years ago. And we know each others life story. yesterday, we were boozing and when we are tipsy already, we started talking about each others weaknesses, life story again.
The one of my friend said " hats off on daryl, because no matter how bad the things are for her, she still manage to put a good face for everyone to see."
I admit, this is how i handle things. I dont want anyone of my friends to see me falter. i dont want anyone to see me weak. i can manage to laugh but crying deep inside. Which is hard but i manage to pull it off. But i cry when im alone, i fall apart when im alone, but i dont want anyone to see me shed a tear.
Some of the my friends are transparent with their emotions, they even cry when theyre down or hurt. Are you? OR were the same, we put up a strong/good face when were hurting inside?
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4 responses
@gr8life (6251)
• Malaysia
13 Jul 09
Hello daryljane,
I always try to pretend that I am happy when I am not whenever I am surrounded by family and friends. If I could, I really do not want others to know how I truly feel. I like to keep things inside rather than to share them with others. But at times, I really can't reveal my true feelings that I end up getting all the attention. I am good at acting cool but sometimes, I just can't act really cool when load of problems strike at once in my life!
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
10 Aug 09
If i have problems, i just cant make myself open up right away..my mom knows i have problem but she has to wait until im ready to tell her..all through time, she developed this thing of waiting until im ready to open up. I just have this feeling that i dont have to burden other people with my problems since they also have their own problems to take care of.
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@haiershen (1080)
• China
8 Jul 09
hi,for me, if something really bad and sad,i can't put up a good face,it is very difficult to do, also impossible for me,i can't control very well for my felling,if i'm very happy, i'm smiling, if i feel sadness, i'm cry or talking to my good friends,haha, is it like a litter girl ? i tried to change it at past time,
but failed,no other choice,i still keep it.good luck!
in my opinion, healthy and happyness is the important thing, beside that, everthing is ok!
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
10 Aug 09
I have friends who's transparent too. But they consider me deep. very deep that they dont know when im in big trouble or not. Its hard being cool but i think i perfected it in time.
@williamjisir (22819)
• China
3 Jul 09
Hello daryljane. While going through hard times, it depends on what sort of hard times, usually I think that it is hard for me to hide away my emotions when something really bad or sad happens to me. I am so glad to have a best friend with me and I can share with my best friend what I have to go through. Friends are the best. Take care, friend.
@daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
3 Jul 09
I do have friends too..but theres are still things that i keep to myself. It seems like i put certain wall when it comes to deeper things and im keeping for myself only. Ive ben practicing being discreet since the time when i have a friend that used to share things with, and she used it against me...that why i draw the line up to where my friends can...
@bunnybon7 (50973)
• Holiday, Florida
3 Jul 09
you know that is part of my problem with sons gf. people can read me like a book. i try really hard not to show emotions but apparently my face registers everything
good reason not to play poker huh?
sons gf knows when something po's me or if im amused at some stupid thing shes done. i cant help it.
good reason not to play poker huh? sons gf knows when something po's me or if im amused at some stupid thing shes done. i cant help it. @daryljane (3406)
• Philippines
5 Jul 09
I think that plays a good point for her, that way she will know when youre mad at her or happy at what she did. I wish i can be transparent that way people can tell what im feeling, but then, i developed that attitude over time..maybe because of what happened in the past and taught me to take things differently.
