How to stop kids fighting among themselves for the same toy................?

This is something that comes natural to us as human beings. It seems that no matter what we have, we find that what our neighbor has looks much more appealing. When I did day care, this was the rule: 1. If a child is playing with a toy, no one else is allowed to touch the toy until that child puts the toy down. Then the toy becomes a toy that anyone can touch and play with. 2. Any child that takes a toy from another child while they are playing with it goes in time out (15 minutes). Time out increases by 5 minutes every time the child repeats the behavior of grabbing away the toy. 3. If you do not know who had the toy and they are both tugging on it, then the toy goes up for the rest of the day and no one gets to play with it. (It is best to observe what is going on to break this behavior or one child will be very frustrated when their toy is taken away just as the other child was doing). 4. If children are fighting in general, this may be a sign that they need their own space. Too much togetherness is hard for children. I found that separating the children to different parts of the room at different times of the day gave them just enough rest to be able to be kind to one another again later. I hope this helps.

You can help your children get along by allowing ownership and making the children respect each others things. After all, you would not like it if your neighbor came over and took your car whenever he felt like it, and the police told you you were being selfish and needed to share your things! If you let everything have ownership by someone, then you can begin to encourage sharing. But if the owner of the toy does not want to share, then that should be his priviledge. Let him learn the rule of cause and effect: if he will not share, then others may not want to share with him. But at least you won't be constantly running interference between the children. Simply tell them: I'm sorry your brother (or sister) will not share his things with you. Maybe they will feel more like sharing later. You need to go play with your own things for now. If a possession cannot really have one owner, then let the children have a special time to play with it, or have first choice, like one before noon, the other afterwards. Or give them a special day to have 'ownership.'

I always tell my two children that they need to share or the toy goes away. The younger one always gets a turn with the toy first and then the older, since she has a better understanding of sharing.