Learn how to forget!!! We need our memories, bad or good? more experience?

Here is my thnoughts on it, as they've always been and as they currently sre. At the moment, I'm under a lot of emotional direst and feel like a loser. I am trying to forget recent events and move on. By "forget" I mean kind of push them aside, not totally get rid of them. As a whole, even when I'm happy, I think it's best to hold onto the past and memories. You know, always remember, even the things that hurt you, and learn from it. However, you can't live in the past and you have to learn to let go to a certain degree.

its good to forget the painful memories.but the fact that the more we try to forget something the more we think of it.so let time do its job.you are not gonna remember everything thats happened to you.if you are then i appreciate your memory.we can always learn something from our memories.i agree with your point.

I completely agree, memories are important to us, it helps us remember mistakes from the past and helps us try not to repeat such mistakes. It also helps us appreciate the life we have or the people around us by letting us remember treasured moments and good deeds that were done in the past. but unfortunately memories cannot be picked, you cannot choose to remember only a certain memory, that like you said, good or bad, it's there imbedded in our minds. the best thing to do I think is to learn from the past, cherish the ones that are worth keeping, don't dwell on the ones that make you sad or angry and never use it as a leverage to hurt another person.

I think our mind brings back the memories as needed. We don´t remember always everything. And we all have a lot of locked drawers.

We really need our memories, good and bad! If I had no memory I would not be able to remember when something hurt me or helped me! I learn from my memory... learn what works and doesn't.. what hurts and what helps.. memory is a wonderful tool!Without a memory there would be no learning!

Memories are the things that shape what you are so keep them.

i also like keeping memories both the good, bad and the worst. those are the things that will always remind me that life goes on no matter how harsh reality is to me. that there is always a sunrise after being on the dark side of life. memories will always be part of someone's life, a turning point to make a life better, not for the worst.

I agree with you. We need to hold on to all things in life , but in different ways. Some memories make us happy and bring back happy memories, some hurt and make us sad. On the whole all of our experiences teach us something in life. It is like a stepping stone from where we take the next step to the future. Hopefully we will learn something from them and lead a better life..

i think we can't remember everything but there are times that memories come back to us when we see something that is related to this particular memory...some have selective memory in which they just remember what they want to remember coz mybe they really get hurt with some experiences...and so they choose to forget it and don't remember... for me, good or bad experience is nice remembering, for good times makes us smile and bad times makes us stronger and reminds us of the thing that we should or not do...its okay to keep our memories...just don't let it control our lives... is it possible to remember the experience but not the feelings? have a nice day!

I wish there was a true way to forget all the bad memories from my mind but so far I have not found it. There are times that I do not remeber some or all of those bad memories until something wakes one or more bad memories. When im dab memories free I love it because there is nothing that makes my day sour. Even if it has been years there are some of those memeories that heart me and it seams that they bearly happend. I also try to see them in a positive way and that is that from some of those bad experiences I learn to be a little stronger to trust other but also be cautious of other people. I have learn many things but I would defenetly return everything that I have learn if it would take away all those memories. But all I can really do is to learn how to make something good from something bad. Happy mylotting

something can leave the memory in my mind,time can change it.maybe when we get older and older,we remember this,we find this is process for us to overcome the life.this is a good or bad memory,there is not easy to express complexed mood at that moment,but we are buzy at work,learning,making a living,and so on,we found that the time is past quickly,let us easy forget something that is not so good. life is process,when we remember what we have do,there is not meaning for us to waste our time to suffer.buzy life let us forget something and feel life more better.

If i will answer to you that i can forget my bad memories, i will lie for sure,...people keep all memories inside, depend just if they can forgive. To forget is impossible, to forgive is more easyer.I talk about bad memories. You forgot something in your life? Maybe you forget what you eating yestarday, or where is your phone...but never forget what is important in your life.

there are too much memories in my mind,so many times,i feel so tired. i really told myself many many times, dont look back,but i can't, esp when alone in the evening,i'll cry for the sad memories,some past things,some past persons,etc but now,i'm much better. before go to bed,i'll read,so no chance to look back.just the characters in my mind or knowledge when sleeping,though sometimes still memory,but much less. when in the daytime, there is work to do,no chance to memory.so i like busy life. i do hope i can memory the good things and to live happily,to memory the kind people and to reward them,etc.just to forget the sad memories.

for some odd reason, i tend to forget almost all the bad memories i had with my past relationships. maybe because i always think about all the good ones instead of the bad ones. i prefer it this way though.

I don't like to keep memories if those are bad memories, I throw out pictures and letters as I need to move easily and it works for me. I can say that I am not thinking of those bad memories anymore though it stays in my mind as the mind can't forget (not unless you got amnesia and lose your mind) but I don't cry anymore all over about those memories. If we always think and live within those bad memories, we can't move on our own life and it will make us miserable or depressed.

Hi, Icesmile! Many times the memories will seem to have been forgotten, but they'll pop up again years later. Sometimes they return in an altered state, skewed in some way that changes the memory somewhat, but usually fairly accurately. The filters of time and experience can sort of rewrite history, but the basics remain the same.

lot of our merious should be forgotten where we can get on with our lives and some should never be forgotten they help us though the days and years that are to come and they make us happy and sad shows we have feelings

memories stay forever unless one get really sick and get some brain malfunction. but normal people, never forget