why some men have mistress?

I cant answer that really other then to say they dont take their vows seriously and are scum in my opinion. I think one thing is too, why did she think it was good to be the other woman? For whatever reason they both thought that this was an alright thing to do and it wasnt and isnt. I remember reading somewhere that men hardly ever leave their wives for the other woman. As the other woman is basically like a side dish. Convenient when they want a little fun or whatever. I hope this showed her what happens when you play the other woman.

I also have been in the same situation two years ago. My bf told me that he was divorced a long time ago and was going to buy a house here for me. Suddenly out of the blue, I tried to call him why he was overseas. A woman answered the phone and I thought its his secretary. She asked me some questions if I spend intimate moments with him. I figured out that its his wife. I heard her from the background that she is going to divorce him because he is cheating her again. My bf called me and told me to call his wife's cellphone and tell her that its just a lie. I told him that I will not do it since I didn't lie to him ever since and he will just make things more complicated. I broke up with him and never spoke to him since then. I don't know why men do such things like that even their wife is almost perfect. It seems that men don't have any satisfaction with themselves. Only a few are honest men and rare to find.

Men cheat for many reasons but I think the most important reason is the fact that they are not completely happy in their current relationships. The man/women is not good in bed , can't cook, is lazy, selfish, or etc and their partners seeks that missing quality in someone else.

I guess men will answer in many ways to that question. It is up to your friend to answer why she thought she could be with a married man, what did she wanted out of the relationship and now that it is over, she can see that well he lied to her if he told her there was a future for them and that as relatioships goes it was not going anywhere right? I do not know how can you help your friend. You can be a shoulder for her to cry on, other than that it is up to her if she ever wants to see that man again or not.

men have mistresses for several reasons and in most cased they do such things when there is a conflict between them and their partners, lack of communication often result in men going for mistresses , so also lack of trust, it will be ideal if you can talk to your friend and discuss if she is having some issues to resolve with her boyfriend and you will see what i am talking about

I just watched a Tagalog movie wherein the husband deserted the wife and the kid for another woman. This seems to be ordinary. Husbands leaving their wives. But what is the real reason for it. I guess it is man's ego. They would still want to prove that they are still attractive to the opposite s.e.x, adulterous relationship begins. Others say that that they have gotten bored with the relationship. I think that men are by nature polygamous, no offense meant.

There are many reasons why a married men becomes attracted towards other ladies, first is if they are ignored at home, or if their is no mental compatibility with wife. I know many married couples who live together for the sake of their children and out of habit otherwise there is no compatibility.

i can sooooo much relate to this situation...not that i'm the mistress.it just so happens that my partner had a mistress..to tell you the truth, i almost left him for good..but then due to my religious beliefs i had to give him another chance..not that i wanted to at that time.but anyway, to answer your question why men have mistresses,well i guess i just have to believe the saying that men are born polygamous.hard as it may seem to accept,with all the stories of husbands-cheating-on-wives, you just have to deal with the fact that maybe it is true.but i don't believe in men's reasoning that they cheated because there's something that their wives cannot give them that they get from another woman..it's all crap!!nobody's perfect..if that reason is valid then every husband, or wife for that matter, would have affairs.that's not reason enough to go cheating on your partners.and you have to take into consideration the other woman involved..i mean, how can your friend go into that relationship knowing that the guy has a wife..i know this may hurt your friend, but it's the truth.and the truth always hurts..does she really believe that the guy loves her sincerely?did she at any point think about the hurt that it would cause the wife when she finds out about their affair?i don't mean to sound hateful towards your friend, but whether she admits it or not, she's at fault here too..so what advice can i give her? perhaps she should examine herself and find out if her conscience can carry the guilt that she is ruining a family, be it deliberate or not..tell her to have some self-respect and find herself a decent man who can rightfully give her the love she deserves.think about this..if that man can cheat on his legal wife, then what can stop him to cheat on his mistress?i'm sure you wouldn't want your friend to get hurt.

There are many possible ways of in that aspect. But for me once I have a wife, I don't like that happen. I don't like to have a mistress. It's not sweeter than to be with your partner. Some reason is that the wife itself. Maybe the wife has secret, where his husband found it. maybe her husband is really that womanizer. Maybe her husband not satisfy for their love making that find some extra love from other woman? I can't really emphasize here the major reasons but I hope this will give you some views on particular issue

A lot of behavioral and psychological studies conducted to that problem but none of that explains well.lol I think men having a mistress is their nature. Men commit them self to that kind of relationship because of their unexplained needs.Sometimes they find their needs to other women,sometimes their are just experimenting and exploring things. Men, should realize that what they are doing is unacceptable to the eyes of society and to God. Giving advice to your friend is not a good idea because your friend is needing someone who listen to her and someone to comfort. a simple gesture and care is enough for her,just lend your ears to her is a big help. Let your friend realize her mistakes so that she will learn from it.

in fact,i dont like ur friend,if she knew his boyfriend was a married man. now there are lots of such situations. i see so much around. in the past,maybe only the rich have mistress,but now, even the average men also keep the mistress. it really disappoints me so much. well, i cant only express my emotions here. it's easy to handle,i think. if it's the situation i mentioned above, so just let her go,maybe later,she'll find another married or single man to be mistress. but if she was cheated by the man.tell her it's not worth being sad for him.to find the truth earlier is better. u can find ways help her to forget the awful man.there are many ways to transfer attention. first, to have a long travel. second,to set up a goal in life,certainly not abt the feeling.the busy life always can help people forget the sad memories. third,to have parties with good friends,such as u.when in the group,one can be happier. forth,wait...the time can cure almost all wounds. if ur friend is the second situation.i do hope she can recover soon,and also believe she can find a better guy.

im sad because i always i heard to my mother in law my father in law have mistress.. every time argument all neighbored heard..

Men who like to flirt women, rich men who like to distribute money when they got married sometime they don't change behavior. Some men are handsome or savety money, and more responsibility not have mistress.

Men may hold the excuses like terrible relationships with his family,capblilty to support tow wives or so called work stress. I think it is the synonym with lack of responsibility,sincerity and respect. For girls, it is wise to stay away from married men.Even if he promised to diveroce and really do so,please remember today he can leave his family for you,tomorrow he may abandon you and kids just for another women.If he would like to keep your relationship in secret,it is possible that when he and his family are enjoying the beautiful snushine in Hawaii,you are having your abortion operation and is blamed by those orgnizations. Just forget about that man and stay away from married men.

Men...and women....have affairs for basically the same reasons. They are unhappy in the relationship they are in. Often it has more to do with opportunity than deliberately looking for one. I lost my first wife for this very reason. She was unhappy with our relationship and found someone that made her feel wanted and needed again. I was of course wrapped up in making a living and spent too much time doing that. There are a number of other reasons but they all come down to the fact she was not happy and the opportunity presented itself. Your friend may not have known he was married. However that is not always the case. Even though they know it does not stop them. I have never had an affair so I can not really tell you the why of it except for what I have just said. Your friend does need to forget him and move on with her life. Easy said, not so easy done. But more importantly she needs to learn from this and make sure that the next relationship is honest and aboveboard. This can be done very easily. Just insist that he spend more time with her when a married man would need to be with his family. If he has excuses that he can't then find out why.

It seems like that 90% men have mistress,it's a society problem.I think it's not a good idea to give your advice to your friend.maybe someday your friend forgive her boyfriend ,then you will be embarrassed.

i think there are a number of reasons for this.some aren't happy with their partner.some are bored with their relationships.some are looking for variety.some just want to have fun and cheat.some just have big ego and would just like a trophy "girlfriend" that they can parade anywhere.

I watched a bull**** Oprah episode on this. There was this expert saying that men cheat because they are insecure (perhaps, I think I will agree... inflates your ego to have many around huh?) or perhaps feel under-appreciated. But really, all you have to do is talk to your partner. My advice to your friend: see if there was something that she might have done to cause her partner to do that, if she does, I'm sure it is something that can be improved. Use it as a way to make herself a better person who will also deserve a better partner.