How do you cope when your ex get's married?
By ymitchell1
@ymitchell1 (14)
United States
July 3, 2009 10:15pm CST
I was involved with a man last year that I fell head over heels for. Unfortunately, he didn't feel the same way. My feelings for him ran a whole lot deeper than his feelings for me. Needless to say, I chose to end the relationship because I felt that we would never progress, and I knew in my heart that he was still looking for his soulmate. I found out while reading a paper yesterday that he was recently married. A lot of old feelings resurfaced. I was hurt by this, thinking, why couldn't it have been me?? I know that he cared a lot about me, just not enough to truly commit himself to me. Fortunately, though, I had met a wonderful man a few months after my ex and I seperated, and we are still together. This man loves me unconditionally and he shows me that everyday. So why am I angry, and still thinking about my ex?
2 responses
@cassandralynn (1084)
• United States
4 Jul 09
You may have some unresolved feelings for your ex. But over time this should pass, being that this relationship was only last year. Things like that sometimes messes with ones mind, how can he marry her and not me?. A friend of mine recently was with a guy for 15 years, common law married, and he broke up with my friend and met some other woman and married her a year later. Apparently the guy wanted a woman that had a lot of money and my friend wasn't rich/earned enough ($)for him.I also had a friend once who was seeing this guy and he knocked her up and talked her into having a abortion,then a year later this same guy knocks some other girl up & married her. My friend was really upset about this when she found out about this. She said " Why was it ok for her child to be born and not mine?".. I felt so bad for her because this guy was total scum for talking her into a abortion then dumping her soon after she had the child aborted. From my point of view most men who are like this have other motive and reasons why they won't marry one person but marry the next. And usually the motives are not good at all.Your better without him. I hope your new man brings you much happiness.
@ymitchell1 (14)
• United States
5 Jul 09
Thanks for the insight. I know now that I am better off without him in my life. And, my new man has made me very happy. I guess I was just shocked by this whole episode, but everything happens for a reason.
@megaplaza (1441)
• Nigeria
6 Jul 09
Get use to it, i felt so when my ex got married. She didn't even tell me. I felt i was betrayed and my feelings was hurt. Though she called later just to ask me why am no longer asking after her. But i 've moved on.
