Do you find your best friend in your spouse?

I have never got married so personally I cannot say what my experience has been, but I have talked about this a lot with married friends and family. I think that people feel differently about their spouse in different stages of their relationships. While dating it is all new and exciting, they feel that their spouse is the best person in the world and want their live to revolve around them. However, when you take the steps to get married and start a family of your own you realize that you must have your own friends or else you will never have an identity of your own. I think in most healthy marriages they still consider their married partner a close friend because that is who they go to for all major decisions, but you also have to have that one person outside of a marriage who keeps you grounded and who forces you to keep a reality check on your life from the outside looking in. Also, when you are in a long term relationship lets face it you have to have someone other than your spouse that you can confide in and vent to so that you can stay sane as well as get frustrations out without fighting with your spouse.

Hi Vija...no, unfortunately, when I was married, that was never the case. He had a very bad temper. But ideally, I do think it is wonderful when a spouse is also one's friend. Maybe someday :) Karen

In this regard I can call myself a very lucky lady... My husband is my best friend. I find that we are able to connect and he knows me very well as I know him as well. Oh don't get me wrong, we do have a perfect relationship, we fight often enough but we always managed to pull through. The wonderful thing about us is that we truly love each other and that we see our problems are better fought when we are together. We are able to talk to one another and try to be open to one another. Whenever I'm feeling low or encountered difficulties, I run to my husband for support. We talk and try to come to a solution or conclusion about the event that transpired.

My personal opinion is it's very important to the success of a marriage to keep that 'best friend' relationship even after the marriage, even more so then. It takes work but the best marriages I've known the partners have said the same thing, "He/She is my best friend". It's my goal to someday have a relationship like that.

i have fiance.not yet married.but i find best friend in her.we share everything and can talk about anything.main thing is trust.and we trust each other very well...and i think this is the best way to long last your relationship.

I don't consider my wife my best friend at all. We have lots in common but there's many other things we don't. She has her friends and I have mine and only a few we have in common. If I need anyone to talk to I look elsewhere, my wife gives bad advice.

man is man. pls chetish your partener