my offer for help got rejected ........

Hi. Maybe your friend didn't hire you because you are his friend. Sometimes it not a good idea to hire friends that you don't want to lose. :) Be positive about it. Did he give you a reason? I have never gotten rejected when I have offered to help with something I am experienced with but I think if it were to happen I would probably feel disappointed and sad. I would also ask for a reason so that I don't feel too bad about myself. You are right it was his loss and not yours. Better luck next time. Happy myLotting!!!

i HAVE & it does make u feel odd when it happens. I bet he was afraid you'd do a better job then him. Don't worry about it like u said it's his loss.

I have one friend right now who has all the qualifications and education to land him a decent job. What boggles most of us, his close friends, is that every time we try to refer jobs to him, he doesn't seem to be interested. He keeps saying that he does not have the job experience. I mean, how can he get job experiences when he doesn't even apply for jobs! Well, there are some people that you really cannot help, even if you want to or your intentions are for the good of that person.

maybe something else came up and he forgot to tell you considering theres a deadline to meet. Just dont feel bad if he rejected the offer, sometimes when a friend offers help, we reject it because we dont want to loose then as a friend and there are people that doesnt want to feel that they owe someone something. Its may not be monetary and maybe he doesnt want to feel n debt or something. I think its best if you talk to him if he is really your friend and check what really happened before you jump into conclusions. Remember, theres always 2 side of the story.

hmm, it has happened to me, when people think I am not good enough at the job. Genereally things related to computers, people think they are oh so smart....Most of these people have used computers for 3 years at max, I've been doing for 10. The internet too most of them have used for 2 years,maybe, I 8 years. And still they prefer to think if they cant' do it I can't Also yesterday at my company, someone tried to hang an air blower to a nail which is above everyone's height, It so happened that theere is an extension cord, which was kept vertically on frame of the roof. So the boss suggested it be made horizontal so that no one is hurt, so the point is, the nail on the board was lower earlier, now it was higher...So no one could reach it...I am taller than all of them, so I offered help. However the guy who had it kept jumping to reach it, instead of giving it to me. FInally he did succeed, it would have been a lot less trouble if I had done it, because I can reach it with my hands w/o jumping Maybe your friend is just arrogant that you are smarter than him, or maybe its his ego that keeps him from accepting help from a friend, or maybe he plain thinks he'll manage it somehow....

hi, i agree that its his loss not yours.. and yes it is weird too,i mean, if i was your friend and need help, my friends, especially the one whose really capable, are in the first list that i ask for help. i think, he must have some good reason why he rejected your offer. well, my advise is, don't take that very hard, you are a good friend by offering some help to him. enjoy your days ok... thanks

I cant say I completely understand how you feel in this situation. I have always offered help to my friends and luckily they have always gladly accepted. Putting myself in your position, if I do get rejected by a friend for offering help, at first I would feel bad. WHY? It's not like im asking for anything in exchange of that help. But as a friend, I would simply wait for another opportunity when my friend needs help. It's not like this is the last time you can offer help to a friend. Maybe he/she was just too occupied and had a lot of things in mind. Just be an understanding friend. :)

Yes, I have experienced this myself too. I guess that some people want to find their own way if they have problems. I feel now that it is best not to take it to heart if somebody rejects my advice and does it their own way.. - Derek

I do not have friends who work and so this situation has never risen before me, but I think I was never rejected for help when I offered it to my friends and they were happy to have me around. bourne

Many times. Makes you wonder...just "WHAT" kind of friend, they thought YOU were to them. I know it always leaves me feeling kind of funny. Are they, WERE they, really my friend after all, or what? cdrxo

It does make you wonder doesn't it? What is really going on. I think I would like a straight answer as to why I wasn't able to help. It may just be a misunderstanding or it could be trouble that if you catch it early you can fix the relationship.

Honestly, no. When I offered my help to someone, they more than glad to accept. Except someone is totally stranger, they might thought that I want something in return from them. But for your friend, probably he afraid that you want him to pay a high price for you, that is probably the only reason he can't accept your help.

Hmmm like the first one said maybe your help just got rejected because your friend is kind of shy. (I mean maybe in his mind he thinking that he is using much of your time) So, don't rush to conclusions easily because it may just seem that the person you offered help with is an independent person or just a shy person.

Let me put it this way. The worst person to work for is a friend or a family member. They make the worst bosses also. You lose friendships also working for friends if something goes wrong like losing the job. Let's say for example he had hired you. And something went wrong and he had to let you go. That could have hurt the friendship. I know it happened to me. I had a great friend at work and moved in with her. She became my supervisor. And well things didn't work out at work. So before I knew it things didn't work any more at home. Maybe your friend values your friendship more than having you as an employee!! Don't think of it as a rejection. Think that your friend likes you so much they didn't want to lose you as a friend for any reason so they didn't want to have to face being your boss have to maybe someday say "You're Fired!" Hope this helps:)

It has been along time but I remembering never offering to help that person ever again.

I also experienced this kind of situation, but I let it pass and never offered help again to that friend. Don't mop too much of your friend's rejection, one day he will realized how precious your help was.