When you're frustrated...what to do?

I know the solution... Ihat that kinda prolems too and its soo easy to solve. Ok, first you have to trust more on your daughter i can see you are stressed and thats not healthy, dont mess up your daughter calling her over and over just think about anything else she will be just okay! When you are frostrated the best thing you can do is say okay you are right to the person that you want to yell with turn over and go away... take into a quiet place where you can be alone just close your eyes and think on the best moments you had with your wife family kids pets whatever your best moments of yout life breathing deply and deply sitted down on the floor do this for about 2-3 minutes open your eyes go near the person that you where wanting to yell with and if its your daughter just say sorry i love you say this to anyone you can and if its someone else just go there if you did anything wrong say sorry and smile if not just look at and smile!!! This should solve all your problems meditation its the best thing to do to get you on the perfect state of mind!!! Just be happy!!! ;D

Hey worldwise~I have that kind of relationship with my own Mother. I love her dearly, but we fight all the time and never agree on anything. She thinks that everything I do or have ever done in my life has been wrong and loves to pick on me and argue with me. I am 56 and she is 78! So when does it ever stop? She constantly yells at me and pushes me to my limit! What am I supposed to do? So we end up fighting and then not speaking for awhile! So I can see where your coming from and don't have an answer for you.

Sometimes you just have to let things like that be. My mother and I have issues when we talk. She wants me to move back home and I have no desire to do so. She can be very controlling and we actually get along better if I live several states away. No one in the family realizes this is the case but me so I catch a lot of flack for living so far away. And I try to call my Mom when I can, and sometimes we have okay conversations and sometimes she makes me cry. I just try to do the best I can and not worry about it the rest of the time. And as far as calling your sister goes, my Dad doesn't get along with his sister and hasn't called her in years. If it upsets you to call her, then don't. The phone does work both ways and if she is interested in your well being let her call you for a change.

Usually it is the other way around. The kids call to see how the parent is. If she is ill that may be part of the frustration she is feeling. Just hug her and tell her to shush. She needs to have some respect whether she feels you should have called more or not. No reason for you to reason with her. Just tell her how it is. If doesn't like it that is just a shame.

Hi Worldwise. These are what I call "negative people" and I think we all know a number of them. Like you, I try to keep contact to a minimum, since some of the ones I know are people I do love. When the conversation goes badly, then yes, I cut it short. To keep it from ruining my day, I try to quickly get involved in something I enjoy, and realize that by hanging onto the bad mood, I am letting a negative person frustrate me even more! Karen

Unfortunately, I have a few in my life, that know how to push my buttons. My sister is also one of them, and saddly she is my only sister (I have no brothers either). For years I envied her because it seemed like she had 3 perfect kids who did no wrong. The truth is she never shared anything they did wrong, with me. She never wanted anyone to know that they weren't perfect. She was also a person who seemed to get along with everyone, never appeared to have a bad day, always had a smile for everyone. While I was the opposite...I was an open book...always shared my opinions and views with other people, while my sister was very closed mouth. I wasn't afraid to admit that I had weaknesses, while my sister wouldn't dear to display any of hers. So at one time, I believed she was perfect, envied her completely, and thought I was the bad guy all the time. Actually she was either perfect or the biggest phony that I knew. I even spoke about her in counseling one day, stating that I had a perfect sister. Those counseling sessions showed me that she played the role of the "People Pleaser", and that down deep inside, there was a whole other person that wasn't coming thru. Then one day, my sister and I had the opportunity to hash out our differences, and what I found out was totally amazing...I learned from her that she molded herself to be someone different everytime she was with someone different... When she was with one friend, she was one person, and when she was with another friend, she would be what she thought that person wanted her to be like. OMG! How can someone live like that! Therefore, to this day, I really don't know who my sister is...because I don't know if she is actually molding herself to be someone else when she is with me. She also tends to be very controlling..she assumes that I should feel about things the way she does, and doesn't understand why I don't. I could write for hours about her, but I don't think there's enough space. So, yes, I think we all have someone in our family who completely frustrates us. The ony way I cope with it, is to have very little contact with her. I have my own friends, and my own hobbies, I don't depend on her for my happiness. If she calls me, I talk to her, but once we hang up, I let it go and don't get too upset as I used to get. And if it really frustrates me, I call a friend and vent.

Your post made me think about an ongoing situation I have that is frustrating and stressful. I have asked the powers that be to remove the problem but I think I will ask for the wisdom and courage to deal with it instead. I hope tp get a result soon because my quality of life suffers from this problem and as a result my happiness and equilibrium are out of sorts. I feel your frustration my friend.

If there were a person who pushes my buttons Every time we meet, I would avoid them. In fact the relationship would have to end. I have a very bad temper and I don't want to lose it every day so i avoid the triggers. Is there any subject you and your daughter can agree on? if so, I would just stick to it and avoid all the rest. The same with your sister. But if there isn't? Then just keep yor distance.

That happenes to me in my life also. I do not contact alot of my family either because of it. I wish them well but do not have time for the crap either. I do not want to yell at them either so I just avoid them.

This is depends upon the environment where ur sister is and in which situation she is in. Try to put your self in her shoes and think about her. As u will be knowing ur sister very well, her charecter, mentality and her nature as everyone is different from others. You concentrate on happiness joy and harmony and also about yourself.

I become frustrated when I do not accomplish my goals. I become sad and when it really bad. I don't like to go out to a party. I may better to be alone. Then, I read magazines, books or watch movies at home. Then, when I am already back at my own self. I am cheerful and usually like to chat with my friends. I do not like to disturb my friends or family when I have my own problem. I solve it by myself and if it is really troubles me. Then, it is only the time I consult the advices of my older sister or with my mother. I do not yell when angry, but will sulk only in silence and never talk with the person whom I am angry. But, I am easy to forgive and will never like to put too much hatred. It is bad to my health, and instead on focusing on the anger. I divert myself to be busy and more productive toward my work.

[i]Hello worldwise i am too frustrated today, its really hurting me in very bad terms.For me life feels a burden now, i feel that it is enough to live here i cannot react on my frustration because i am so much so very much become lame that i dont know how and what to react on it. I feel that i am lost somewhere in times where i cannot see my present and my past its all blurred up.Just so much blurred up[/i]

Well, firstly. Agree to disagree with those in your life that you don't mesh with on every issue. You don't love them and want them in your life based on the fact that they agree with you on everything, you love them for them. Try your best to remember that. Another thing you can do to brighten your day or refresh yourself is to play a song that you like, and sit down and listen to it. For the minutes that the song is playing, don't worry about anything and tell yourself that you don't have to do or think about anything. It helps.