Adults acting as if they are stillin college or High School
By meandmy3
@meandmy3 (2227)
United States
July 7, 2009 9:37am CST
I live in a rather large neighborhood, over 300 homes, when we were looking at homes here we selected this neighborhood as it had the appearance of being a family oriented neighborhood, however three years after moving here we have learned otherwise. Many of our neighbors party as if they are still in a sorority or fraternity in college. Getting baby sitters every weekend and most weekends getting them both Friday and Saturday nights, they can not be bothered with their children. In fact recently 20 different couples got sitters for an entire weekend to go to New Orleans to party all weekend, the stories from the trip were scary (in my opinion)
Most the adults act as if they can not be bothered with their children, it is scary and to me insane to treat their children in this manner. They had children, and yet they act as if they are still 20 years old. It is almost as if they are accessories to them and nothing more.
I think that for adults to act as if they are 20 years old and to party every weekend like there is no tomorrow is a shame. I know this is going to come across as judgmental and honestly I do not care. I have nothing wrong with having a good time, enjoying yourself and going out without children, but doing it every weekend and staying out till four or five in the morning having to be carried home because you can not walk is well immature and uncalled for.
what are your thoughts on adults partying like this every weekend.
My prediction is that in the near future we are going to start seeing divorces in this neighborhood as things are starting to get out of hand, I have heard rumors of affairs already between these couples that party like this. So we are going to have two broken homes in one neighborhood as a result of the actions of these adults who put partying before their families. I think that the down fall of their actions will wake some of them up, while others will continue to party thinking it will not happen to them.
okay rant over
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9 responses
@spicysweetie21 (2573)
• United States
8 Jul 09
I know what you mean about adults acting like teenage idiots, my next door neighbors are prime examples....about once a month they have people over and get drunk and have a huge and nasty scene argument, where things are thrown and people peel out in cars and back into the fence.....and on the 4th, my family and I along with my boyfriend, were lighting fireworks off in the front street, my neighbors come out, which is fine, but they turn up their stereo in the house sooooo loud that the entire street can here it.....these are 31 year old people with a child who are blaring their music so loud that an entire street can hear it, so this is my rant,,,,and so I know EXACTLY what you mean
@kalav56 (11464)
• India
8 Jul 09
I could understand your point of view.Well, I too feel the same way about children in that I am convinced that children take priority over anything else because they are not asking to be born into the world. Having produced children it is a duty cast upon parents to devote their full attention to them and instil proper sense of values to them and put them on theor priority list.
But I would say all this only as far as my immediate family is concerned because for one
1] it takes all kinds of people to make the world
2]it is pointless thinking too much about it because we can do nothing about it.
However I can understand why you feel so strongly about it.
@tutul0045 (2630)
• India
7 Jul 09
Hey,
Yes i also hate parents who have kids but dont know how to raise them. An unhealthy environment can do a lot of damage to a child's future and iam a firm believer that when u cannot make some ones life better, Y ruin it?
Parents should act responsible and think abt their kids future if not theirs.
Thankfully here in India we dont have this kind of culture yet. But slowly its getting there which is miserable. Iam in my 20's and i dont remember a single incident where i have returned home in such odd hours.
Well i agree with you that such cases lead to divorces and ultimately the children gets affected. I dont know whether i sound stupid or not, but i want to write that doing Yoga will certianly bring a lot of change in their mindset and life style.
Cheers,
Tutul
@endyxy1 (84)
• United States
7 Jul 09
Sorry to hear about your difficult with those adults. I have met a lot of adults with kids. I guess everybody is pretty much individual. Not everyone is like that. I know people -- of course, they acted like kids, just to keep their spirits higher and happier. Whatever makes them happier, even it "could" be good for kids. They can roam around with the kids. Some of them don't want to be serious. Most of them don't want to marry but have kids. Some of them don't want responsibilities. They don't deal with stress so they shake themselves off by having fun. Having kids are sufficient for them to deal. They want to be themselves and refuse allowing others define them who they "should" be to fit one's images against their wills. People keep defining me, telling me what to do, condemning me for doing things (such as watching Disney films, shopping some toys at Toy'R'Us. hey, what is wrong with that?) Telling me do this, do that, do that... (gladly, they are not my parents) they keep defining me who I "should be," so that way I could fit their images. This is fatally wrong to do to people. I cannot pleasure everybody the way they wanted. I am happy the way I am. I am happy with people I hang out with. We should be grateful that they know their limits. I know a couple in their 60's. They do party after they had four kids and 6 grandkids. Grandparents ROCK!! People say, "Celebrate the Life as if it is the last day on this earth." I am sure there are numbers of quotes like that, they want to celebrate the life, cannot afford to be serious. Lift their spirits higher to feel good about themselves. That's all matters to them. Anyway, good luck. Peace!
@chris620 (104)
• United States
8 Jul 09
I am a stay at home mom too. I do like to get out of the house for a few HOURS sometimes but never ever would I leave my kids for a week or do I want to. I wouls never want some one looking at my and saying wow she can party I would rather them look at me and say wow she is a great mom!! I'm only 26 but I knew the second that my first cild was born that I was a mom now it is time to do mom thing and never once do I regret it or wish I wasn't a mother.
My children are the best gift to me. It's sad every person doesn't feel that way!!
@cryw0lf (1302)
• United Kingdom
7 Jul 09
I definitely agree with you. It's okay to have fun sometimes, but you also have to be responsible, especially if you're a parent.
I'd write a little more but, i'd just be repeating what you said literally haha. So you get my point. I do agree with you, and you have right to rant, especially seeing as it must be disrupting in the neighborhood. (I need to stop saying the word especially to be honest).
@Courtom (287)
• Canada
7 Jul 09
I find myself liking your discussions. Someone has to do something, and it seems that you are aware of how kids are developing these days. I believe it is due to the environment. Kids are having kids! I understand a lot of parents do not want to give up their social life. I agree that parents must enjoy time together without their children to maintain a healthy, fun, relationship. having happy, and in love parents is a good environment for kids to grow up in. I am not sure what you do for a living, or what facilities you would have, but what about running a daycare? I told you before it is what my mother did so that she could raise us first hand. I believe that just having her there in my earlier years of life shaped me to be who I am today. Not only that, but you can help those kids, your kids can have more friends, and you can establish a reputation in the neighborhood.
Of course that is a big crazy idea. To me tho, it is something I would consider with my own children when I grow up enough to have them! lol. As for the affairs... that is horrible. The kind of partying you are describing is very immature for parents. Maybe you have to be the one who sets the example. I am sure there are some responsible couples in the neighborhood. Try arranging a neighborhood garage sale, or driveway meet and greet day. It is a good way to meet people in a mature manner. It is surprising how people can be influenced by someone if they respect them. I am sure if a young mislead mother met you and your wonderfully behaved children... she would start thinking!
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
7 Jul 09
Thank you so much. I am a stay at home mom. the parents I am speaking of are in their mid 30's to mid 40's so we can not blame this on kids having kids, this is adults having kids who do not want to act like adults any longer. Sad but true..
The suggestion of being a day care provider is great, by the time these kids go to school I will be ready for a break from kids..
