How would you as the husband feel?

I would like to think that most men would understand that completely. The birth of a child is just on an all different level than even love. But then, I am one who thinks that the actual wedding day is way over rated!! While I enjoyed my wedding day, and the symbolism of it means the world to me, I think the day that I became aware that me love wanted to spend the rest of his life spending time with me meant more than the day we "made it official". If I was in a better frame of mind I would write about that day...... a memory that involved a kiss on a bridge on our college campus.

I think it can be taken 2 ways. Of course you could consider it an insult because it is like saying the children are more important than your spouse. It is like saying your spouse is not all that important to you. But I wouldnt look at it that way. I would take it as a huge compliment! The children are a product of love between the husband and wife. They are the result of a great relationship (at least they should be). It is because of the love you have for your spouse that you have children. And they are a physical representation of that. It also shows how much you trust your spouse to be willing to raise children with them. Im not sure if that really makes sense or not because I cant seem to find the right words. But I really do think it should be seen more as a compliment than an insult.

A comment like this wouldn't bother me in the slightest! I would have played a crucial role in creating that moment for her anyway.

Well.... I know my husband would probably expect me to say it was when my daughter was born....SHE is the light of my life and he knows it....and tha actually makes him happy....that doesnt mean i dont love him or any thing but well my daughter is my light..... Also we lived together for 10 years before we got married so although our wedding was a really great day it wasnt like a HUGE deal...that sound bad doesnt it.... I got married in my early 20s to a guy i didnt really love but i was looking for security i think..anyway we had a big church wedding...the whole nine yards..200 people of whom very few did i even know as they were all my mothers friends and my mother took over the whole wedding...(not to mention that she thought it was funny to give my husband to be a pair of those "bear foot" slippers right before the wedding which he wore to the ceremony!) but anyway im getting off track..lol...so anyway that was a terrible day for me.. When my husband and i got married we had a small wedding in a friends backyard....we had a wedding dress and tux, a cake, and food and drink, and we even had a live band (they just happened to live next door to us) but it was nothing fancy at all....NOTHING like the first one! But it was a great time and we still reminisce about it.....evereyone there had a GREAT time.....but my daughters birthday was still the best day of my life....

You know how every so often a woman will ask her man a question he can't possibly answer correctly? Well one time I asked my husband who was cuter, me or the kids. IMO the correct answer would have been the kids. I expect them to come before a spouse. I think every parent should.

It is a hard question at times and often the husband would say as well that the happiest day of his life was the birth of his child, it includes the spouse after all becuase without the spouse there would be no child.

Most of my friends have all said the same thing. They have told me that the birth of their children was the greatest day of their life, then again, I think that reason most of them said this is because of the men that they married. "Your wedding is a special day," one of my cousins told me,"but it doesn't begin to compare to when that child that you carried for nine months comes into the world and you see that child for the first time. Nothing compares." See, marriages, in my family, don't last long, and some people will go all out, or they won't do much at all. Getting married basically means "hey, we are legalizing our relationship, we get free gifts, and now we get marriage benefits, yeah." No big deal really. Giving birth to children is different. In my family, it is so hard to give birth to children. Most women lose a child or two, and so when we finally do have a child, it is a big deal, and if you give birth to a boy, it is an even bigger deal because boys are so rare in my family. Men in my family understand if the marriage is second to the birth of their children.

Well, you can ask woman how would they feel if a man stated seeing his child born was the happiest moment of his life? (Most men would never say that). I to would say that my children being born is one of the happiest days of my life. So, is my marriage. I really can't choose betwen the two..that a hard question. However I don't think any men should take that answer persoally. Otherwise it could lead to jealousy of the childrn which is not good either. One the children will out on heir own and the man can have his wife all to himself again.

If I were the husband I would truly understand because as happy as she was when she gave birth he was probably just a happy or even more. ask him the same question and I am sure he will have the same answer. I know I was happy when I got married and I know when I have my first child oh how much more Happy i will be... to give life I don't think there is anything else in the world that can top that...

I don't know Dawn. In my case I hold them almost equal, however, I can tell you with absolute certainty that without my husband, we would not have our daughter, and I'd never have had the opportunity to be a mom or have a child. He made it possible, so having him was the beginning to the rest lol. I'm not even sure if my wedding was actually the happiest day, the happiest day MAY have been when my hubby and I met in person - on vacation lol. We knew each other awhile before we met in person, so it was literally a long time coming. So... as I said, I don't really put one above the other. They are different. I had to have ONE to cause the other, so in terms of THAT, I think our in-person meeting was more important, but both are and were two of the most life changing events well, in my life. Probably more important that graduating from school, getting my first apartment, etc etc. I mean a mother actually gets two loves of her life - her significant other, and a baby. I'm not quite sure it's the same degree for a father. I don't know for sure but it doesn't seem to be except in rare cases.

Well, since I am not a husband, I may be way off on this, but, the wedding day is the day the couple came together. The births of their children was something that they created together. How could hubby get upset about something like that? Well, that is MY rational, any way.

The birth of our first son, after losing threee babies, was the happiest time of my life. My husband also agreed that it was the happiest day of his life too. I don't think that the husband would have felt unhappy at hearing his wife say this. I really don't as he probably felt the same as my husband. I had reached the stage whereby I thought that I would never bear a live child and to hear him cry was the sweetest sound in the world and to hold him was more than supreme happiness. I will never forget it.Blessings

You know, you can look at this another way...that was probably the happiest day for both her and her husband, so when she said that, she lumped everything together. Don't you think? Maybe you are being silly...but Dawn, you are so silly!!! LOL!!! BYE!

I think a husband feels that he is the leader of his family, because the family depends on him.

well, as someone who has not had children and never gotten married, I don't know personally, but I once had a friend's husband (who was also a friend, just not as close) say that their child was the happiest day of his life. Now, I don't know about my brother, but he seems always happy to see his daughter, espcially now that she's grown.

hmmm i believe there is no need for the husband to feel bad about it! i had this with my husband as well, and we are both in agreement that the happiest days of our lives was when we had our children, i could still clearly remember those days as well as my husband and we would end up laughing and even crying remembering those days when i gave birth, we both shared our time taking care of our kids and was able to bond well and better when we had the kids...

Hmmmm I think that I am very sensitive about these issues. If my (to be) wife(i am unmarried), says something like that then probably I would be hurt but I won't show the expression or the discomfort. I actually don't know how great or happy one feels when they have a child but definitely I would carve for some appreciation too, that I was a part of it to have the child. Your question is tough with a very meaningful insight, certainly not being silly.

I would be proud that she is a WOMAN and made to feel that way. Some don't. Womanhood is first and foremost who we are. And MOTHERHOOD is the supreme acheivement of that femalensess. A man with a secure ego...would intuit that and feel protective and proud.

Being a husband,I feel happy when I can feel a warm family environment,and a warm family environment includes child and wife.I believe I am happy with my wife even if we haven't any child.But I also insist that asking a question such as who is more important between the wife and child is really stupid,this kind of question can just make some extra problem and do harm to husbands and wives sentiment.To a husband,wife and child are importand,it is hard to tell which one is more,because the relationship between them is mother and child.A wisdom wife knows how to deal with this thing.

Man thinking is different from woman and it depends on how they formulate into there minds. Every woman makes them powerful and become happier when they give birth that's the totality. They will make way to put everything good for there child's future. It's a different feeling to be a mother than to be a wife because it makes you sense in the world that no one can own. You are still a mother and no one can replace it but to be a wife it can be replace. So husband will try to understand that why his wife can say it. It doesn't mean that there wife prioritized above all there child than there husband. Its shows that they care more the reasons why they become one. The true meaning of love is sharing with others specially the fruit of love