Giving too much?

United States
July 7, 2009 2:21pm CST
Do we as parents give our children too much or do they really need all the material things to feel loved these days?
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@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
7 Jul 09
Children today def are given way too much material processions. It is insane the things that they have, 12 year olds with 300.00 cell phones. Really is that necessary
• United States
7 Jul 09
I wish it were easier to say no to my kids when they see their friends with high tech expensive things and want the same.
@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
7 Jul 09
My children are five years old I do not let them play video games, all their friends have them and they ask for them. I tell them that I am not Billy's mom and this is not Billy's house, in my house we have certain rules and expectations, one of which is no video games. I also tell them that just because their friends have things does not mean they will get them.
• United States
9 Jul 09
Yes and No. Kids do not need the material stuff to feel loved but I do try and give my kids material stuff if I can afford it. Why? Because I want to. I want my kids to have everything I never had. Will it make their life better? By all means no. But life is way to short and I love to see their faces light up with joy when they do get the anticipated item. But on the flip side, we donate the toys they dont play with anymore and they know that just because they want something doesnt mean they will get it. I am not talking about cell phones or i-pods cuz I cant afford those and I dont even have them but little things that mean a lot to my kids. To each their own I guess. As long as the kid is loved and taken care of, physically and emotionally, then the rest really doesnt matter.
@rainmark (4302)
9 Jul 09
As a mother i only give my son the stuff that hereally needed. And a few toys that he can play. I never give too much coz one day we parents were suffer to spoiled them in materials and luxury. And besides only necessary things is what i can afford to give him, the rest is saving for his future.
@esp2_mayn (135)
• Malaysia
9 Jul 09
My toddler has 5 boxes of toys - all second hand r given as gifts. He only plays with 1...and that too only the train set inside. As they get older, I think if they love reading and maybe even understand the concept of money, I think they may grow up not demanding for so much material stuff. Also, are parents now days travelling more, working harder and therefore inculcating a habit of expectating gifts in our kids? I think maybe the 'source' of this problem lies with us.